I found pills in my husbands bag and found text messages where he is texting people for them, I confronted him about them and he says he has a tooth ache, but he's never mentioned anything to me about a tooth ache, don't know if I should believe him or not, I'm still suspicious. How do I know for sure what the real truth is. It's tearing me apart the way things are between us, I have already told his parents and he said if I ever tell my mom anything like that again that he would leave me, but I was worried, cause he wouldn't tell me what they were for. I am not doing good, I've lost weight, I can't even eat, cause I am constantly thinking about everything going on. We have 3 kids together and I don't want them to see me like this all the time. I just want to be happy again. Please help me, any advice would be so great.
Don't know if I should believe him or not?
- 4 Nov 2011 by nicky29
- 5 November 2011
By the sounds of it it does not look like he has a toothache.
If you really want to get to the bottom of it I would definitely talk to him again. If you manage to get one pill out ... see if it has any imprints, which may indicate what pill it is. All the best. These situations aren't good and you seem to be very affected. I would suggest that you see your doctor and get some help/counselling, either for yourself or both you and your husband.
first off he is more then likely taking them for recreational purposes ( thus the instant defense and threat of leaving) there are many ways to tell, one if his pupils don't dilate in light change as much as normal, if he suddenly seems more energetic and happy... then after a few hours grouchy and tired, and they are most likely oxycodone (percocet) which is a highly addictive narcotic analgesics derived from opium and in high doses (30mg or more) can be very pleasurable, in order for you to help him and find out whats going on you must not approach him when he's high and don't be aggressive or make him feel as though your gonna take his drugs (trust me that will not get you any were) you must understand that every one has reasons to take drugs weather it really is a physical problem or emotional either way is a slow come down process, just get a little more info on what hes taking and i would be more then happy to give you more advice if needed.
Hi nicky29,sorry about what your goin through,i agree you need to find out what kind of pills they are if you can,but your husband sounds like me in the past when i've slid back to pills,and yeah its not a good idea to address this while he's high.it sounds like you are really hurtin', I'm sure he loves you and your children he's just in a bad place right now.keep us updated best wishes *amy
Hello nicky29. You've posted before and it seems as if things are much the same, nothings changed. You said in an earlier post, that he had spent time in prison. Don't know if you remember but I mentioned to you, suggested that you confrount him, telling him to assume his responsabilties as a husband and father. You might mention to him, that he has a record (criminal) and that drugs and a record can/could send him back to prison. That might wake him up. As to his habits, if he wants to, and thats the magic word, wants, he'll have to clean heal himself, no amount of lecturing, convincing will change that. The want to change has to come from himself. Theres lots of support here, remember I mentioned that there are many ladies on this site that can and will be here for you. Join a group, its a good place to be.Take care nicky29, best wishes for you and your family,
Nicky,im so sorry for the hell your going through. this is what id do. give him childrens liquid tylenol or motrin sure you have some around with three kids in the huse. tell him to put it directly on the bad tooth and gums it will numb it in one minute.offer to help put it right n the cavity. spit it out after. offer to help. andd make him a dentist apt. then he wont need the pills within a aeek after an apt.if he goes maybe hes not lying. but even if he does listen to what they said and see if hes still using save money get things ready incase hes lying make arrangements for you and your kids. dentist can give him toredal for pain after if needed nonaddictive. if hes lying dont put up with getting sick, or you and your kids putting up with bs find somewhere you can be happy cause you can be happy without him.
im sure you love him for maybe who he was before but do you love who he will be as an addict? will you let you and your kids suffer through the hell that comes alomg with it? remember you make the choices your kids dont! so you decide whats best for them cause thats whats will make you as happy as well. your a mother thats what we do and i guarentee you will be happy and someday you will find love again. you dont need someone who is gonna lie,or keep things from you. i hope it works out for you either way but it doesnt look good right now but you can fix it be strong, dont let this pull you down stand up and walk with pride. take care and let us know what you decide.
thank you all so much, it's been very comforting hearing yalls advice. I've been thinkin maybe we should seek couseling, just so I can say I tried everything I can before I end it. I've thought so much about ending things, but I just don't know how the kids will handle it. I have a 3 year old girl, a 2 year old boy, and a 9 year old boy, and he is the one that is noticing stuff already about his dad and our relationship, I just don't want to mess them up in anyway, but I know if I'm not making myself happy it's effecting them in a bad way, I just want them to grow up and know what a happy relationship is.
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