This gets on my nerves when they loose your ? anyway i see the pmr doctor today im a nevous wreck.what all do i say when telling her about my ilness? i dont want to seem like im asking for meds.even thos i really need them.please help.im so nervous that ive been crying cause i dont want to be n withdrawls i just cannt take this its too much.any suggestions before i go?im a nervous wreck i already feel so negative cause eveery doc.has just about turned me away.ive run out of options.im so much a nervous wreck please help.i know im going to start crying cause imm so depressed and so scared.
Does anyone have an idea how I should aprouch the dr about my pain?
- 5 May 2011 by jaypee
- 5 May 2011
Please do not cry, but if you need to... well go ahead.
Do not be nervous, you are going to see a Dr., you have not committed a crime, you are a patient in need of an understanding Dr. and medications for your conditions,be honest with the Dr., tell him / her what you feel and what you do not want to feel,you must be strong , confident... have faith in yourself.
You are not going to see the Dr. for a favour, you need help.
When you have calmed down, I suggest you sit down and make a list and write down point by point of how you will start the conversation what you have(your conditions), the help you need and the medications you must be on. When you get to the Dr.´s treat and talk to him / her as what they are ... human beings, then they became Drs. but do not treat nor talk to them as if they were GODS because they are not so relax jaypee, I know it is hard for you...
but you must remain in control so you get the help you need and the medications as well, as I said , have faith in yourself and you will succeed.
All the best your friend,
Hi: I just answered your previous post--hopefully you will get it shortly.
You really need to find away to turn your negativism around--- otherwise the docs will pick up on it, and will not give you a fair chance to state your case.
I went to doctor after doctor from 1992 till now. Most didn't help me at all. Some tried, but just didn't have the knowledge or tools to make a difference.
I refused to give up--I KNEW that there had to be SOMETHING out there that could/would make me feel better (human?) some day. I had massive pain throughout my body, extreme exhaustion, brain fog, etc. What I didn't have was clinical depression--so I always felt that I was stubborn enough to keep going! Do the best you can today--just deep breathe alot before you go into the appointment, and tell yourself that you are DUE for things to start going your way!!!
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Mary-madhatter 5/5/11 3:42 pm ET
Try not to worry about it so much. Like Maso said you should make a list of things you want to discuss. Because when you are nervous, you forget what you want to say. Just be honest with the doctor like you told us, tell him the same. Don't worry if you cry. If he is a good doctor he will try to calm you down and find out what you really need. Don't forget every doctor is different. There are good ones, and bad ones. Good luck and keep us posted o.k. Take care.
jaypee! Are we too late? If so how did your appointment go? Wish you had asked earlier. You should have taken notes about your pain. Like what time of day is it the worst, what makes it better or worse etc... We all get nervous of the white coats as I like to call them even tho' most don't wear them anymore. It's really hard when someone else has control over how you can control your pain level. That's why it's so impoortant to write these questions down so you don't forget them in his presense. It will help him to determine what you should be on. Since your appt. is today, start making quick notes NOW, & let us know how it goes. Try to be calm & answer his questions intelligently. Don't beg or cry. Most doctors see this as a weakness. Just some thought sweetie. Hope all goes well...
I know it's a lot to think of and to worry about, concentrate on giving as much information as possible, How long yur pain has gone on, what helps, what doesn't help, concentrate on you and the help you need, don't worry about what he.she thinks, it won't help a thing concentrate on your needs to take the best care of your pain, any X-rays, other tests results you can get will help, but don't allow the stress take your right to get the help you need, You or your Insurance company pays, he puts his clothes on the same way everyone else does, talk with him, convince him that you hurt and that you are willing to take Urine screens blood tests or whatever in order to prove that you are doing the right thing, she will help, she wants to see the real you always be very open and honest with her, Hang in there!
remember you can do this, you are stronger than you think you are, Telling her exactly the way it is allows her to know that you aren't nervous and upset although nerves anxiety go with Chronic pain. Keep us posted, We want to support you!
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