Which is the better/stronger of the two. I'm 64, male, urge incontinence, frequent urination, inability to hold it in as I near a bathroom (urge suddenly increases 100 times as if my bladder knows "oh boy I get to drain myself"), and bladder control worse when anxiety/stress is high in my life.

Have been on VESIcare for 10-12 years, but Medicaid not approving it. It didn't work well anyway.