... on all year. Up and down. I've been taking amitriptyline 25mg 3x a day at night at first it helped but now nobody wants to be around me and i don't want to be around... i have my second appt with my psychologist next week but I don't know what to say. I tried several medications but had bad reactions with the other medications I am taking or bad reactions with me. So I just don't know. It breaks my heart that my step daughter will not speak to me. What to say to my psyc?
Depression is so much an exercise in trial and error. Everyone is so different in their chemical make up and what brain chemicals are imbalanced. Try to talk to your psychologist to get to the bottom of what causes you to feel this way. Is it bad past memories or disappointments? What exactly IS the root cause of your feelings? (You dont have to tell me-work on it with your psychologist) Once you find out what is driving these feelings, you can take measures to deal with them and hopefully get past them THEN you can begin to mend relationships. Some people are just made in the way that they have very little empathy for people with mental and behavioral issues. They dont understand that it is something you cant help and its become beyond your control and coping ability. You have to learn new and better coping mechanisms so that you can deal with your feelings and get on with life.
The holidays are often so much worse on depressed folks because society makes us think that everyone is so happy and light and we wonder what is wrong with us because we feel more like Scrooge before he was visited by the spirits of Christmas. It is also a time where many people reflect on loved ones who are no longer with us as we get together with other family members so it is just really a hard time of year especially when you are pressured to feel happy and you just dont feel that way. For your own self help, try to remember all the good in your life and focus on the positive. The saying 'Life is what you make it' is very true to some extent. If you focus only on your unhappiness, you will be unhappy. Try to focus on positive self talk-keep your thoughts on the positives in your life. Life is rather crappy sometimes and we have to take what we are given and do our best with what we have been given. Tell your Daughter in law that you are saddened by what is between you. Tell her you want her to be a part of your life. It is likely that she just doesnt understand what is going on with you. Like I said, some people have a lack of empathy and feelings that they have never experienced themselves are beyond their capability to understand. Your psychiatrist and psychologist are there to help you but you have to open up to them and tell them what is bothering you. If this is only your second appt, you are very early in your treatment. Treating depression can take some time and trial and error. Hang in there and know that many people feel the same way. If it helps, try watching Holiday movies, listen to holiday music. If it makes it worse then just ignore it as much as possible. Keep focused on the positive and try not to dwell on the negative especially negative that you have no power to change. It is in the past. Move on to the now!
Depression is very difficult to treat but you CAN get well... But you have to let your therapist help you. And you really need to explain Exactly how you are feeling.
Also you mentioned that you have been on other medications before. So I assume you had seen other Therapist. I would suggest a few things that will help you & your Dr.
Make sure before your next appt.That you write down all the other medications that you have taken in the past & what side effects you had with each of them.
By doing this your Dr. can see what class of anti-depressants have not worked. And then that will be less trial & error you will have to go through.
Be patient as usually it takes a month on a medication for it to build up in your system to see if it is going to work or not.
Unfortunately EVERYBODY works & reacts to all medications differently.
Sometimes you might have a combination of drugs to help you.
But you need to help your Dr. & yourself by telling them everything.
And in regards to your Step daughter unfortunately people especially other family members Do Not understand depression. So right now it is more important that you get the help from your Dr. to get your depression under control.
And I think & hope that once your depression is under control you will be able to Show your step daughter that you have changed. And then you can start to mend the fences. But your Main focus needs to be on getting Control of YOUR depression. I wish you the best of luck.
As you can see, you been getting a lot good advice already. I can understand how you feel because I go through the same thing,. Sometimes it's difficult to explain but in order to get the help you need, you have to talk about everything in order to get the right help. Do not give up trying different meds just yet. It will take a while to find the right combination that will help you as an individual. I have been through all the anti depressants and it took a long time to find the right combination. It is still a struggle with me as some days are good and some are bad. that is the life we live with depression. Work hard on the things you can change and the rest will work themselves out. I wish you much luck and finding what works for you. Take care and good luck. I can only reinforce what the others have already said. And I would offer you the same advice as they have. Again good luck and I hope things work out for you.
You're on a low dose of Amipriptyline and you may need to have it increased. I have the same problem, but I was diagnosed as Bi-polar, but my doctor said that it's a low grade bi-Polar, he calls it "Hyper-Mania/ dpression" basically a lower grade of Manic/depression. So I am just wondering if maybe youy diagnosis could be wrong because amitriptyline25mg helped me at first too and I had to go up to 75mgs and it finally started to really help me and I've been on that same dose for 4 years now. I may be wrong about this, but it's worth checking out! good luck! :))
dear bnagoh, Always remember, You are not alone that's for sure. Having
depression is such a baffling, cunning disease, to paraphrase... It's a Lot
of trial and error, to say the least. But at least you are trying. The holidays
are just so rough to get thru when you are feeling sad. I sure hope that
you write things down as you think of them before they slip away. Keeping a
journal might really help! Things will all work out... sincerely... D-Square
bnagoh, I certainly, among a lot of other's, know exactly the road you are traveling on. It can be a mental roller coaster ride, if left alone. I know for me, and surely there are other's, I denied having a problem for a long time, and refused to take medicine for it. It got to the point that, I too, was hospitalized and was just about mentally gone. Thank the Lord there are people who don't let it get to that extreme and get some help. But I did, and it wasn't just for myself, it was for my children as well. They couldn't have a relationship with me when my mood swings were up and down and all around. My doctor's have had to try many medication's on me too. To find the right one, or as some people say, the combo. I'm not advicating that you need to do this, but don't give up just because you think nothing will work. There are many other avenue's, and sometimes you have to do what you need to do to get well.
Don't listen to the people that don't want to be around you right now. They obviously don't have a clue what you're going through. A lot of people don't. But a lot of people do. Unless you have walked a mile in someone elses shoes, you have no right to judge them. They shouldn't judge you period. There were a couple of people in my family/friends who kinda gave me the funny looks when I started my mental therapy and taking medication. Let's just say they don't anymore, when they saw what a difference it did for me and how it made me a better person, and enjoy life again. You can do this too. Like one of the other member's said... talk to you're doctor like you did when you wrote in. Be completely honest. Tell him/her that you're stepdaughter won't talk to you, and you want to mend the relationship somehow if possible. Things may not magically change in a day, but life is too precious and short to not give it %100 of effort. We are here for you and you can write in anytime for support and help. I truly hope with all my heart that things will turn around for you in you're life and you can mend the relationship with you're stepdaughter, and those people who don't want to be around you now... will see a different and changed person, for the good. You take care. Hold on to that little bit of hope, and give it all that you've got. You're Friend, Ruthie
Don't give up! Sometimes we need to try alot of meds before things work for us. It's just a long process to get off a med and try another for awhile before knowing if it works for us. I know I was 6 months in the hospital with major depression before they found something that worked for me. I am now depression free and very happy.
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