Here's my story, I got hurt at work 2 years ago and have been unable to work. I've applied for disability and waiting on court date. In June my wife and I decided to live separately and it has taken a toll on me and my depression. I have to live with friends because I have no income right now. I have a 10 year old son from a previous relationship that I share custody with and when he leaves I cry. I feel all alone. I only get to see my wife a few times a month even though we talk or text everyday. I don't know what to do, I still love her with all my heart and I tell her I miss her and she says she misses me sometimes. I have developed panic and anxiety over all this so much I barely go or do anything. I want my family back but she likes being on her own. She was previously married for 14 years and we were married 4 years. I used to be a people person but my self esteem is gone and I feel hopeless. Please if you have any suggestions let me know. I currently live a mile from my wife but barely get to see her do to her work and her kids. I need help, I've seen a psychiatric dr and zoloft didn't help.
Zoloft didn't help because this depression isn't caused by something in your body, but by the circumstances. If she doesn't want to live with you, you have to accept that for now. A therapist would be good so you had someone to talk to. What about a member of the clergy? Maybe once you have some money, you'll be able to feel better about yourself. Then you might be able to cope with your marriage. I would ask my spouse if we could meet for an hour a week, somewhere to have a cup of coffee or in the park. Then do what friends would do on a date. Not beg for him to take me back, or complain how I feel. Maybe then she can remember why she fell in love with you. Pushing her or begging will get you nowhere, I know that for sure.
Sorry it took me so long to get back to you Ashton But seem's like the answer already is about all i could say to.You should try the dr again and see what he or she says but many times unless its depression caused by chemical imbalance or short circuts etc its hard to treat with regular antidepressants if nothing else call your doctor and see what info you can get,Life events finances ect are not really treated the same way as us with depression one thing that does help me is force myself to get out and take short walks or i drive to a mall,or park and try to keep myself busy wish i could be more help.
wish i could come up with something better check with the doctor before you get to deep in the rut my friend..Chuck Wise retired pharmacy technician cPHT PDX OREGON..
Have you tried writing in a journal? What about volunteering somewhere with animals? You need to heal and love yourself before all others. Lexapro or pristiq helped me. But, it only helps the panic attacks while they happened. It's up to you to learn how to prevent them. Worry less about the wife yes it needed to be said. She is who she is. Try to fix your injury so that would take away some stress. Your son will bounce back have as much fun with him as you can. He is only young once. I'm not known for sugar coating so I apologize if I come across as harsh. I'm dealing with disability as well from spine and PTSD issues.
Good luck and be your own advocate
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