I am a 32 yr old female who has had a lot of ups and downs in life my family life is wonderful my father passed tragically when I was very young and I only have a few memories of him. My mom did the best she could to be both mom and dad and I grew up with the ability to do anything I wanted to do whenever. Throughout my life I have lost some of the most important people in my life... lately I just cant seem to get with it I dont want to get out of bed i'm miserable and very irritable especially at work I find myself saying just end it already God because this life sucks... I find myself avoiding everyone and not really wanting to talk to anyone cuz really I got nothing nice to say... and dont want to bring anyone down I dont know what I should do scared to be on something that I have to take everyday and scared to talk with my doctor I also suffer from major social anxiety and my father was a manic depressant/ bipolar dont know if thats the same thing what can I do before I push everyone that loves me even further away? Help please
Am I depressed do I need help?
Added 6 Nov 2016:
I have had blood work done things are normal I have been on birth control since May. I feel this is something deeper than I know what to do with and can remember feeling this way for a majority of my life just seems like its getting worse with age and harder to manage I can't afford to lose my job and am afraid I am going to if I cant learn how to deal with 400-500 people thats a lot of personalities I deal with on a daily basis working in a gas station that's always busy it never stops.
Added 6 Nov 2016:
I went on the birth control to hopefully balance out my miserableness I feel no different from how I felt before it.
The symptoms that you are experiencing are those that need to be addressed which may involve lab work to discover what might be causing your irritability and this association with the external world around you. It could be many things it doesn't necessarily have to be depression it could be a hormone imbalance so it is very important that you get yourself so a good doctor that can recommend a good lab workup for you. Have you noticed any changes is in menstrual cycles are eating habits for other things that may be outward signs of stress. Another thing is at the age of 32 you should be seeing GYN physician for annual checkups anyways. Depression can be caused by many things and it isn't always a pill that you have to take to straighten it out but if it is a hormone imbalance or something similar and it definitely needs to be addressed by a professional I would extremely suggest that you do that also again I would like to know what your eating habits are like
I agree that you could have hormonal or thyroid or some other issue that may show up in lab work ordered by your doctor. Any of these can make you depressed. But if you add genetic factors (bipolar father), the fact that you do not want to get out of bed, you are trying to isolate and you have anxiety; it sound like depression.
Tell your doctor just what you wrote on this site, even if you have to write it down and take it in with you. The sooner you address the issue the sooner you will come out of it even if that means taking something. Just by what you have endured in life you had to be brave and courageous.
It is time to take care of you so you can be there for others.
Hi ack: I empathize with your feelings. I agree that it is a good idea to get blood work done to check your hormones and thyroid levels. I also found out I was deficient in Vit B12 and Vit D3 through blood work. I am treating all issues that showed up physically in my lab work. I take thyroid hormones, I take HRT, I take B12 supplements and I take D3 supplements. But another piece of the puzzle was still missing for me. I needed to take an antidepressant to treat my anxiety/depression, which presents itself in many ways. I also have social anxiety and GAD. I think it takes treating all symptoms, physical as well as mental, to feel balanced. Your doctor might prescribe Wellbutrin for your anxiety/depression/(possible bipolar) issues. Wellbutrin will not throw a person with bipolar tendencies into a manic phase, which is possible with many other of the antidepressants.
I'm not saying that you are bipolar, just wanted to mention a course of action for it in case it is part of the picture. You might ask the doctor for something to treat the anxiety initially (which I presume is something you have to deal with, according to the symptoms you've listed above) to begin with, to help you to start on the road to good health and feeling better. My heart goes out to you. Keep posting and let us know how you are doing. "G"
You have received a lot of good advice.
You have Major Depression and possibly a chemical imbalance with the Bipolar family history.
You CANNOT fix this by yourself !
The past deaths at such an early age has also caught up with you. Unresolved grief for more than 6 months becomes complicated.
Please don't make yourself suffer any longer.
Women in their 30s are at their best!
The longer something goes on the harder it is to fix.
The body is like a car. If something minor occurs and you don't fix it, your repair bill will be higher as a result of more things breaking.
Don't let pride get in the way of getting help. Everyone needs it sometime in their life.
Be strong and fix yourself as you would fix your car.
You are worth it! You have a lot to offer !
I agree with all the above. You may not need to even take medication though. You might just need someone with an empathetic ear. It sounds like you've been thru a lot in just 32 years and maybe just talking with someone who is understanding could help a lot. Some people don't like the idea of taking pills every day and talk therapy I think is a good place to start. It's true, you may have have a chemical imbalance, but the dr won't know that til after he/she gets to know you better. I wish you well and God bless. Keep us informed.
ack84; did you talk with your doctor!!! I know you had an appointment but did you go over your problems this would be a start. A good trick to writing them down or print out what you have here and take it to the doctor. You have all the classic signs to me of being depressed and the type of thinking your doing is not good. You have at least gotten to the point you know this is not normal. And have had some of this in your family. But also all the things that have happened just lately with a close death in the family or friend can trigger even more. So please if you did not get up the guts to talk to your ob-gyn, Print this out and get in to see your family doctor that is a start. They can do so much more nowadays with depression which also is known as a chemical imbalance and it may take a few different things but a doctor can help you get that good feeling about getting up and with it again and enjoy life even more than you did prior to you noticing this.
Many times we go many years or even most of our life and not notice that we are not right until something jars us. Please let us know if you talked with the doctor you are much too young to feel like there is no reason to keep going on this way. And the sooner you get with it the sooner you can find out what is going on or at least get the boost you need to get back in the driver's seat. I know it is hard. So if nothing else sits there and write things down on a pad like family history and midway start to put down what you are feeling now. And just hand it to the doctor I have done this many times when I just could not get the words out. or you get in and end up leaving not saying a thing thinking it well go away. But this is something you need help and the sooner the better. Please update and let us know that you are getting somewhere. And if not there are other doctors this is so normal now for people to suffer from different types of anxiety and depression at the same time. Best of luck you well come out of this. Just thank God that he has shown you there is a problem and you must move on to seek the help you need. best of luck. And please feel free to update us. Once you start to get some relief you well never regret it.
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