Im a mum who has fibro back problems and arthritis and im a single parent to a child with additional support needs my daughters dad hardly ever take her and when he does he brings her back early im sick of getting landed with other people kids and none of them take my daughter to help me out I have no friends or any form of respite all the kids do is smash glass bottles and constantly ask for food even when I give them some ive told the kids parents and they deal with it but Im getting to the point where i don't want to answer the door cause the these undisciplined little brats
No wonder you're stressed girl! If you go to your doc and explain how you feel he may give you something to take the edge off. He may suggest a councillor, which isn't a bad thing at all. It helps to "get it off your chest" to someone who is trained to give you constructive advice. Between Meds, and someone to talk to, you'll be feeling better in no time. prayers to you! Keep updated
Nattygks,,, Dear you have more than a plate full its no wonder you do not feel well,Do you see a doctor my friend?? I would take this note to your doctor with all you have going on in your life i would be depressed too.Your pain,lack of sleep because of the one child.Who are these kids that come over Just put a stop to it until they can learn to behave to start with.TODAY.AND have you any support group for your child that you can chat with many disabled children and familys have support so you can get some ideas from them even if its a online support group check this site dear.You should see the doctor with all you got going on there is help for the depression medications or support does the child have a caseworker???
I AM so sorry but you are going to use your backbone for those kids that do not belong to you.Tell them until they can lean to behaive you don't want them in the house like they are grounded.Sound like they are using you for soda and such.Please check out support groups i know of many they help.And get in to see the doctor and explane your feelings the sooner the better for your own sake dear..put your foot down.You must seek some help from the doctor and caseworkers if you have them if not check into it.I am so sorry I hope i am not sounder harsh i just know how you feel and you must get help from the doctor now for the depression and your Childs doctor may know of some support groups for special needs... Please look into some of this and let us know how things are going you must help yourself before you can keep up with all the other stuff you have going on.The sooner you get in and get some help the faster you well be feeling better dear..lots of great people here please keep in touch and let us know your doing something about it..you need some of this pressure taken off of you.your friend Chuck1957.
Hon, you don't need anyone else's problems, you have enough of your own. I'd be stressed too if the neighbor kids came over and wanted me to feed them and acted up. Learn to keep your door shut to them. Tell the parents you are ill and can't deal with them. And have a talk with the girls father, he needs to step up and be a father to her instead of dumping her on you when he can't handle her. He needs to get on board with her care.
Sometimes you have to take the steps to free your life of stress. Kids have a way of taking advantage. Start saying no. Dont watch peoples kids and tell the kids they cant hang out at your house. You need to take care of u. Do like u said... dont even answer the door. Eventually they will stop knocking if u dont answer the door. Your problem with your child and her dad is a common one. Just tell yourself if he takes her for visits great and if he dont then thats still great. His loss. Do like i had to do. Tell him if he wants to take his child he has to keep them the whole time otherwise they arent going. Having fibro itself causes depression. You dont need all this other crap adding to it. Rid yourself of all the stress u can. These extra kids need to go bug somebody else. You dont need it.
The advice is good. There is help you can get. After school programs, local activities for the kids. You have to be straight with the parents. Kids are not appropriate to talk with. All you can do is ask them to leave and then call the parents. If parents are not available, then call social services. They are not your problem.
Call your local church, or if you don't have one, call Catholic Social Services. They are non profit, non denominational. They help people with problems like yours. I use them myself. Wonderful groups that can help you are all over the place and they or any other big group will get you the resources you need. They even help make the calls. You have people who can help with them. All you do is make one call and the rest will follow. Lots of help in the world once you know where to look. Once the chaos is under control it will get easier to treat your own problems. This can be done. It can be better.
I answered your post days ago/ don't no why it wasn't put up... I had suggested that you go the legal route...
the father should be held accountable to help you out no matter what..and I am glad to see in your comment that you are taking legal actions..it is not fair that he doesn't help you out and just takes her for a little bit/ then brings her right back..my son's dad did that once or twice and I told him if he did it again he wouldn't be seeing his son at all..this is when my son was young he has adhd..not so bad no as he is grown he is 24 now..but his dad I guess didn't want to deal/ cared more about having fun then his child..until I put my foot down..as far as these kids coming to your house you must put a stop to it and get your health and visitation etc straightened out so you have time to yourself to get your health in check and have time to think with no one around so you can focus on what's best for you/ your child... sending prayers your way for your health/your daughters health..and that all things work out for you..keep us posted we are all here for you when you need us... your friend..
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