... Soiled undergarments still happen, but that is not my problem. My problem is "Why" can't her constipation be controlled? Please no encopresis suggestions we have been going to Ped. GI's since she was 4! We have tried it all, gallons of Miralax have went through my child. The last GI told us she had too much calcium in her blood, but that wasn't a big concern. I have now read a lot about effects of too much calcium in the body, but it's on taking supplements! My child has never liked milk, cheese, rarely even ice cream. I have never given her supplements. How can her body have too much calcium? I am convinced that that is the chronic constipation problem, along with processed foods (sodium) and hydration. How can I balance her calcium in her body? Magnesium? Postassium... sorry folks but I am sure I see a light at the end of the tunnel (no pun intended). Also lots of stress lately. Please try to keep this off the encopresis cure. I need to be able to sway a Doctor off the rhetoric... Love you guys and sorry for the long post! God Bless, Sweetpea
Hi sweetpea. Wow, sounds like the docs are missing something! I will have to do some research on this & try to get back to you. I know you read the comment about magneisum, & you may want to give it a try. Have her start out taking 250mg tab for a couple of days, & see if that helps. If not up it to two - 250mg tabs one in the morning & one at night. I take a lot more than that, but being a child I don't reccomend it. I assume she has had a colonoscopy or CT scan with barium to rule out any malformations? It's strange, but sometimes they can find problems such as this with the tests rather than just trying to shove things down her to make her go. If she has had this all these years, can't believe someone hasn't come up with something. It's just not normal for a child to have these problems as you already know. I'll see what I can come up with & get back to you.
You also might want to ask Dzoo about this if you are friends she is quite knowledgable, & has probably already researched such problems. Send her a PQ to as she is not always on during the day hours because of work. LaurieShay may also have some ideas... Mary
First let me explain that high blood calcium is not directly related to how much calcium one eats or doesn't eat. The body has a wonderful way of controlling how much clacium is in the blood regardless of intake because calcium is so crucial to function of heart and muscles. If there is too little calcium your body pulls calcium from the bone while too high of calcium the body deposits the calcium as kidney stones or calcium deposits in other location. Bottom line: if your child has too high a calcium level in the blood, the cause needs to be deteremined as this means her body's natural calcium regulation is not operating correctly.
Hypercalcemia (high blood calcium) can cause constipation among a list of other problems which can be very serious. The most likely cause of her hypercalcemia is her parathyroid glands not working correctly. There are also some types of cancer that can cause this problem. Not trying to scare you, but want to impress the importance of having this problem diagnosed correctly.
Please google "hypercalcemia" and read about the symptoms and causes, then get her to a doctor who will dagnose the problem correctly and start the necessary treatment. The Mayo clinic site (which will come up if you google hypercalcemia) gives a thorough review of this condition and treatments.
Hello. I don't wish to scare anyone either. However, I know a child who was sexually abused by the father who had the exact symptoms. They disappeared when the dad did. The mom refused to believe the child's hints all those years that the dad would do such a thing. The child suffered a very long time. The docs never figured it out. Only when the child was in late teens did it become known.
Being an abuse victim myself, there are not always obvious signs in all girls. There are many orifices, many ways to harm a child. So I say to this mom, have you looked at the bigger picture? Has the child been telling you things impossible to consider? I know the natural response is not in your family. Denial jumps in right away.
Perhaps the child needs to see a good child therapist. With the teen years coming on, your girl will have a very difficult time of it. She needs to be prepared, regardless of the source of this condition.
These are my thoughts. They may be difficult. As a parent we do the difficult. I am thinking of the child. I would jump into a fire if I could save my child. In fact, i would do that for any child or person needing help. Your reaching out is a wonderful start. I hope she is ready for sleepovers and parties and be freed from this soon.
Sweet pea. You are one smart woman. Yes, you know there needs to be a report. They always find another victim. The abuser is always someone's son or relation. We all have family. Your back ground and your inner most feelings are the ones to trust. You know there is no cure for a pedophile. It is a hard truth to face. Saving countless other children and teaching your child that she is strong and not to blame will get her to being a happy adult rather than someone who never owns her own body or feelings. It will keep her home and eating popcorn at night with a movie rather than drugs and early sex. So glad you have the love and knowledge to help her. It takes courage to do this. I believe you have it.
I am long past the feelings with this. Thanks for considering our feelings. One comes to the realization that as an adult one does not need to be a victim. That thought removed the power of him and I lead my life away from him. He died and I had to go to the funeral to be sure. He was such a liar and hater. I told the minister what he was truly about. It was the first time I had heard a minister berate someone who had died to the congregation, let alone at a funeral! It opened the eyes of others. Those who understood were supportive those who did not, well I have had no time for them for years. So nothing changed.
Enough of that, I just wanted to give you some closing feelings. Will be here any time you want to talk privately. I was a crisis counselor for three years. I have seen the rawness of this with others. And I do listen. Hope I am not sounding too preachy.
As far as the calcium, a little high is not a big deal. Since you have the records, it helps to know how outside the range she is. For example, my bilirubin can run .3 or .4 units higher than normal. For one person this may mean trouble. For me, we already know my liver is damaged from the prednisone as it has fatty deposits from it. For me it is one of the signals my disease during a flareup with increased medication doses has to be carefully balanced. In other words, context is important.
I applaud you for your research of older records and blood tests. You might want to plot them in a spreadsheet and look for trends or point of change. Could be valuable for her and the doctor. We have all my records on a clinic computerized system. It is amazing how we can chart, compare, graph send emails. Eventually everyone will have this.
Your response says you are doing all you can. Because this is an open forum, you will receive all kinds of ideas. There are quite a few here with their thinking caps on, I am sure. Keep the info coming. One never knows when something will jog someone's mind of an experience they know.
Hang in there. My hope for you is that her answer will be soon. Very soon. Perhaps the move is enough. And, of course, never let her alone with that boy or anyone until this is solved. Ok? An answer soon, we wish this for you. Karen
I am so sorry your poor daughter had had to deal with all of this. I think it's great that you have, and are considering abuse - you are a good mom looking out and wanting to help your daughter! I would add to this that if you live anywhere near a large regional or teaching hospital like Johns Hopkins, Mayo Clinic, etc. you might want to taker her to see a GI doc there. These large hospitals see the out-of-ordinary cases that a regular GI doc doesn't and are trained to think out of the box. I hope you find what is wrong so your daughter doesn't have to continue suffering. God Bless - ElizaJane
My daughter also suffers from chronic constipation (no bowel control). Every doctor just says miralax, but she has more issues than that, but they don't listen or investigate further, as they say its unnecessary. I have given her tons of miralax over the years and we are still in the same situation. One of the specialists diagnosed her with Celiac disease, so she has now been gluten free for a year, but that had no effect on her constipation. She has no control over anything, and no one understands..doctors, schools, teachers, specialists. I get the same miralax answer, which is not the answer. We've been doing this for years. She has to wear xlarge pull-up type pants to school (and all the time from constant uncontrollable leakage). I'm very frustrated, and this is the first time I have heard of someone else with a similar situation.
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