About 4 weeks ago, I started in counselling. I just couldnt handle my life the way it was going. I was very close to falling off the fence into the darkness. I wanted to go to sleep and not wake up.
Ive now realized that I need to surround myself with positive influences. I must let go of the negativity in my life. That means letting go of a mother and sister who do not care what Im suffering from. I have a support system in place now with my husband, daughter, and 2 very special friends. I feel so drained after my sessions like I must decompress myself. Do you feel this way after a counselling session? Do you feel the need to decompress? Any and all responses are welcomed. I see a psychiatrist 5/2 to reevaluate my meds. Thank you in advance for your help.
I would like to ask about counselling and how you feel after a session?
I wish I could help you, I have never felt that feeling after counseling. But I do know for positive that you have to surround yourself with positive influences and get rid of all the negatives in order to recover. I have felt the feeling that you are speaking of wanting to go to sleep and never wake up, it is awful and I do wish you the best. You are in my prayers. I know that God will help you.
Hello Tee. Try not to let the sessions act as a pressure type of thing. You are the captain and the person listening is the first mate. You are in charge and control. Hope your medication visit is going to be a great one. Medication is in my opinion, extremely important to treat any diagnosis, more so concerning the mind. Regards pledge
I'm so glad you started counseling. Half of the battle is to recognize within yourself that you need it. I went through a very difficult time several years ago and had to be hospitalized for 2 weeks with severe depression. I was in counseling for 2-1/2 years for severe depression and PTSD. In the beginning, the sessions were extremely draining because I was talking about deep seated issues that I had ignored or buried -- I thought successfully -- for years. The fact that you feel the need to decompress means that you have a good counselor. He/she is helping you to pull out your issues from wherever you have tucked them. Once you have talked about everything that is causing you emotional pain, it will be less like running a marathon. The one thing I learned that I have never forgotten is that Nobody can MAKE me feel anything -- I have to allow it. Once I took ownership that I was a doormat that others were walking on, I gained a strength that I had never had. Now I am a very blessed, content, strong, independent woman. Someone else may not like me, but hey, that's ok, because I like myself. Tee, alot of us who have chronic illnesses and/or pain have people in our lives who don't try to understand what we are going through. I do not get angry at them anymore, I pity them that for some reason they have such a small capacity for compassion and understanding. In some cases, their hearts are just blood-pumping machines. Hang in there! It will get easier with time. You will find the inner peace you are seeking.
I went for counselling for 3 years for PTSD. Alot of what we talked about was very draining and emotional as well as tramatic, but my counselor would always do an exercise with me to help me calm myself and would never end the session until I was feeling ok. That feeling of needing to decompress should be dealt with at the end of the session. You need to tell the counselor how you have been feeling as to me he/she is not finishing their job. A session should always end on a positive note to be truly helpful.
Take care of you
Hello Tee. Been dealing with increased depression myself. They think it is adrenal insufficiency and had blood drawn this morning. Hope to get answers soon. All too familiar with the darkest paths.
Every session can be different. My guess is you are grieving for the loss of family in order to become healthy. A very good topic to discuss. When in that mode we really look at everyone around us and can ruminate on it too much. To be technical, that ain't good! lol. No need to look back.
Since the counseling has been a short time, be sure you have talked with the therapist regarding the goals you wish to achieve. Feeling better is a desire, finding rewarding parts of your life is one such goal. Therapy takes time and effort. So very happy you are pursuing this. It does and will help. And be sure you work well with the therapist. Not everyone out there is the right fit.
Often one gets assignments on what to do and how to do it and then reports the next session on how it is going. Many things are nothing more than a great big "duh!" moment. Love those...
Keep at it. I am 100% behind you. And remember to laugh. Karen
Your counseling sessions can end up all kind of ways! Sometimes you vent and get things off our chest, other times your counselor will make you examine things in your life that can be draining but necessary. Other times you need to do things until your next sessions. But it is all needed to help you better cope and understand you, family, friends and your life. It's all good in the long run! It's also difficult at times. I wish you the best! You will be happy you did counseling if you have a great counselor in the end!
I am bypolar and have been for several decades now. I have seen counselers in the past but they don't do me any good so I fire them. There are some good ones out there so it is best to ask around. You should feel pretty good after a session or at least hope in your recovery. If your meds. aren't working then you need something else or an incease in what you are taking or get a new psychiatrist. Good luck to you and always remember you are the one in charge.
Hi Sugar buns!
Tee, considering what you've gone through, I think your thoughts and feelings are totally understandable and legitimate.
The way your mother and sister have treated you the way have since your sisters birth, your counselor is right. Search for positivity. And in your case, you have to be the bigger person. Your smart and kind and loving and supportive your strong, and the list goes on. You have a lot to offer others. Everyone on dc loves you. I'm sure that any life you touch, loves you. What's not to love?
As for the counselor, she really sounds like someone that you just "clicked" with. That's a rare gift. Let her know, too that you really appreciate her. Care takers usually aren't complimented or given the appreciation they so deserve. And many care takers are family members. That's a touchy situation.
Yes, I do need to relax after a session and at the same time, I feel good all over. I've been released from the bondage I've carried around for way too long. And I'm certain that you will, too. You're probably getting into some heavy stuff. I know I did. One time my x and I went to a counseling session 2gether. I got so upset with my x that I hit the back of my car and scratched the car beside me.
Tee, you have the right to be angry and hurt about your mom and sis. When you do let go, you'll be free to go on with your life. As it is now, your still being imprisoned by the insensitivity of your mom and sister. Who needs it? You have a full life. Your content, but when you have a flash back from the past, your gone from the world. That's how PTSD is. I'm not saying that you have PTSD by any means. We have no control of flash backs. They just happen. It's not that we plan on getting up at 3 am to have a flashback.
Sweetheart, we have a choice each day to make and that is:Am I going to be strong or weak. Consequently, some days were weak and some days were fine. '
I'm with you, tee. Whatever you decide, I'll accept. I'm not on this earth to judge.
Love you, Tee
Hello darling Tee,
I've been in counseling before and YES, I felt drained afterward yet, I must tell you, some of the "drained" feeling was a good feeling, some not so much. But it will pay off my friend.
You will know in your heart when you are finished with counseling. You will feel lighter, introspective but lighter. You may have a smile on your face for a very, very long time as well as feeling lighter, like the burden has been lifted.
I pray you feel some solace in your search. I know you will, though, you really will!
At first blush, I felt selfish for seeking counseling and spending that money on myself, YET, it wasn't selfish nor was it a waste of financial resources. Don't let your psyche tell you that you are selfish, far from it!!
We all have our own lessons to learn in our journey's on this earth, don't you agree? I believe counseling helps us deal with those lessons.
I'm sorry that I had to answer so quickly and not take the time to read all of the beautiful answers you received! But I will come back to read them when I'm not rushed.
I too am in therapy. I go twice a month. I am tired all the time. Just saw my psychiatrist he did nothing with my meds. Was in E.R. on monday they said all the disc in my neck were extremely swollen and pinching on the nerves they gave me 60mg of predisone for 5 days I still am in pain but I guess that is what happens. Now the say I dont have Fibromyalgia. I am changing all my doctors to closer doctors and getting second opions
Tee, I am starting group therapy sessions next week. I will let you know how I do. I am going to see if it is for me. The admit person ask me to give it at least two weeks. It's outpatient therapy. I think it may help along with the meds. As for your mother and sister, that is hard. They are your family and you love them and need their support. But, you can't listen to them. Don't talk to them for awhile and concentrate on yourself and get better. You can do this. Hang in there.
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