I'm so confused. Why is it that all of a sudden every young boy has ADHD? Before it was ADD but now they are considered hyperactive as well. Since when does the government and society have the right to say who is normal and who is not? I thought boys were supposed to be more hyper than girls. That's in their nature. Now it's a brain malfunction because teachers want them to sit still and not call out if they know the answer. Smh I've met with every social worker in the school, almost got acs called on me because of his behavior, meet a behavior therapist every week, and now I've met a psychiatrist who gave me meds for him. Yea just give them meds and problem solved right? I'm a better parent because I'm doing what the doctor says? Back in the day the kids got a good butt spanking. That was the home remedy for adhd. They have taken that away. They told me don't spank him because he will be more violent. Because of his brain disease. Come on. Every since then he been worse. Now we rely on the internet to help us raise our children. I feel stuck. I feel like a bad parent and I feel like if I don't give him his meds I will get in trouble. The school puts so much pressure on me I just cry. He just started acting like this age 7. His grades dropped and everyone's making it seem like meds will make all my problems go away. I don't know what to do. I was thinking of letting him live with my aunt for a year so I can finish school and better both of our lives, p.s I was a teen mom, but now I can't work or go to school because he's acting a fool in class. He's been prescribed Concerta 18 methylphenidate. I've refused to give it to him because I've read horrible side effects or maybe I'm just scared to give a child medicine when there is no official study about this. The testing is entirely based off opinion. I really don't know what to do at this point. He's suspended once again, and the iep process has took 3 months. He's still in a class of 30 kids one teacher and they wonder why he's acting the same. They said dept of ed isnt paying for teachers aides. Plus we have to fight to get a para. Futhermore how on God's green earth is a child with ADHD going to learn when they are teaching COMMON CORE!!! It's way too many steps. If anything our children are way advanced, bored, and are so infactuated with technology that, that's what they need to be learning on. Not old textbooks and dusty library materials. They should all have kindles and be emailing their teachers their homework just like how the colleges are doing now. It's not our fault the schools aren't advancing with the times, now our kids can't pay attention. Give me a break. He sure pays attention to that leap frog and tablet. Smh. Sorry this is more of a rant than a question but this is my first time on the site, and I have been searching high and low for a support group in NYC. There aren't any. Anyone else on Concerta? How do you feel about kids and meds? I can't stop crying knowing something is wrong with my baby. Like forreal.
I truly understand your concerns and your rants, I too don't understand how all of a sudden kids and being labeled with this disorder. I have a grandson who is ADHD. he is not hyper like he was when he was younger but he is very inattentive and can't multitask very well I notice. I watch a youtube video made by a young lady ,that helped me a lot to understand a little , watch it ,it may help...
How to Know if You Have ADHD
my grandson is on 18mg of concerta too and I have always been afraid to give him medications. we have tried different kinds over the years... concerta has not caused him too many side effects so far... hope that video may help you some
First, I'm glad to hear that things have taken a positive turn for you and your son. I'm sure you've found out considerably more about this disorder, but I thought it'd be useful to share some information for those who find themselves in similar situations to your past.
ADHD is a real disorder according to all major medical associations. There are physical differences in the brains of people with it, but because it's internal (unable to be seen) there is a lot of skepticism about ADHD.
ADHD is now divided into three types, and despite the name, not everyone is hyperactive. I won't try to explain this when other people have done it better, but that's something which is less commonly known so I wanted to mention it.
ADHD effects people differently, and while some are able to use techniques to address their symptoms others simply benefit more from medication. As with all medication, there are side effects to be considered, and it's up to you and your doctor to find the right solution.
I feel compelled at this time to clarify that physical discipline simply won't prove a solution to ADHD any more than it would depression or a cut on your leg. People with ADHD are not consciously deciding to have their brain function differently, and no amount of punishment will change that. It's not your fault, and it's not their fault.
Medications like Concerta have been studied extensively. There are resources that can help with that (as Kellirenay mentioned). Additudemag.com is a great resource, and if anyone is experiencing the same situation I strongly recommend people check it out. For a different format, the Youtube channel How to ADHD presents nice, if less technical, information that can help both those with ADHD and their friends/family. ADHD testing is not opinion based, but it is more subjective than some things. That's why having the right doctor is critical. If you have any questions, I would encourage you to seek a second opinion.
On a side note, How to ADHD has an entertaining video about why games do a good job of holding ADHD attention. 'Gamification' is something that not only schools can benefit from, but you see it in use at many organizations now.
Finally, I am not a medical doctor. I am an adult who has ADHD (I take Concerta too). As I was growing up my parents shared the concerns you had for your son. I have never had hyperactivity, and they weren't able to access good resources to help them understand the condition. I was able to do well enough in school, but a consistent comment from my teachers was they thought I lacked "focus" or didn't apply myself enough. That was difficult as a child because I felt terrible about those observations. I was doing my best, and it wasn't always good enough. When I was old enough to see a doctor on my own I was again diagnosed with ADHD, and we went through the process of trying some different medications. The difference in my life has been profound. I'm able to work now with a focus that was simply impossible for me without the medication. I literally can't do my job properly without it. I mention this because I want to make sure you/others don't just feel like they're poisoning their children. Some people simply need medication to function similar to "the average person", and when that's the case you're doing the right thing for them.
Best of luck to you and your son.
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