I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 yrs now. He lost his previous job due to coke. I was there to pick up all the pieces, helped him get a new job, and offered him to live with me. Now, I find out that he is still using, and tries to hide it from me. I don't want to live like this anymore. It's really bad when he "Comes down" from coke. Sometimes he can be violent or just plain buligerent. We've had MANY arguements due to his addiction. His family lives 3 states away, and he has absolutely no where to live. I want him to either quit or move out, but when I tell him this he gets violent and breaks my things. I cry and think I can't live w/o him. He says he's going to get help, but I don't see that happening. I've tried to give him pamplets about it, but he just reads them and laughs. Please give me some advice to how to help him, or please help me figure out what I can do. I feel like I can't live my own life b/c I constantly worry that he's going to be buying coke.
Dang, that is a very difficult thing to help anyone with. honestly, if nothing youve been doing works i would kick him out. You need to worry about you and whats good for you and someone like that isnt. But im not saying leave him, im saying if he realizes, that hes lost everything he has because of the coke, hopefully there would be a reality check there. if not i highly reccomend calling someone and getting him into a detox program. if you could get him to sign himself in that would be great. if not you can get a court order for it especially because he gets violent. thats not healthy for you. but also dont say you dont think you can live without him. you can i promise you that. but he should give detox a chance so you dont have to live without him. because eventually, it can cause heart problems and he could easily die from it.
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