... trying to gain some positivity and have been rereading some of the DBT but its soooo hard. Right now I am jjust sitting here on the computer watching hubby straighten out the house and I feel super guilty because I just feel so letharic I can't even think of the idea of helping out ( the house isn't in bad shape just some things out of order) feel like I can't get out of my mind
Borderline Personality Disorder - Trying really hard to be positive and not agitated and/or said?
Added 29 May 2011:
Oh my gosh every noise is killing me right now the vaccum cleaner is going my son is playing and screaming like a nut and it makes me want to crawl out of my skin and just run out the house. Its almost painful for it to be so loud. When I am not doing too well loud noises are brutual to me because my senses are so heightened.
Yes, senses are heightened when you are cycling from high to low and back again. Rapid cycling is part of the illness and you need to accept it in order to learn to cope with it. If you need to shut the door, just explain politely that you are getting over stimulated and need to take a break. Your husband is trying to help by pitching in, please give him the benefit of just letting him know you appreciate his help but are feeling vulnerable right now and need to remove yourself from the overstimulation. Going to your room or quiet place is ok.
I use to have a quiet place just for that purpose. When the stressors were too great I would excuse myself and take a break in my quiet place. I now live pretty much alone so I don't get overstimulated much anymore, but I also have learned to develop a life style to accomodate my needs. There is nothing wrong with that. We do have certain needs, everyone does, just some of us have different ones because of a mental illness. A diabetic has to carry insulin and eat correctly, we have to modify our life styles in ways to reduce stress. I know is sucks sometimes but learning this is very necessary.
I'm hoping things have quieted down now and you are feeling a little better since you posted this. Hang in there girl, you will learn the tools necessary to deal with your needs and everyone will grow in character and strength because of it.
I never knew loud sounds could bother anyone else; I thought it was just me until I read Laurie's answer. In fact, I've thought a lot of things were "just me". I, too, was reassured it was considered normal for Borderlines to experience this. For me, it seems to be "tension", such as two people arguing or disagreeing. Loud voices & tones really make me very uncomfortable; I just want everything "to be o.k." & "fine". Most of the time, I need to leave the area to get away from it. For other people, it is simply two individuals working something out, but for me, it is extreme tension. My parent's marriage was extremely chaotic & volatile when I was young. Today, they are happily retired together. Hmm, would have liked to have seen that when I was 10.
Reading these Q & A sessions are really preparing me for therapy. I feel I'll be able to better explain what bothers me most, therefore getting the most out of the session itself. Thanks, girls!! Hope your day goes well, Jenny & Laurie!! Smile big knowing you're helping someone you've never even met!
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