... will not judge me not matter what, I just need to feel safe n secure & know some1 we are going to get through this, is this wrong to expect this from my husband who I have drove away??? I really have always wanted my feeling heard n validated
You have every right to have your feelings heard and validated. Unfortunately, this is difficult for someone who doesn't understand the illness. You will get through this, but you may need to reach beyond your husband. There is an organization called the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). They have programs to not only teach your husband about this illness, but also programs to offer you support. You can use your search engine to find there local chapter. I have found them to be a valuable tool. Here to listen and help as you may need.
Hi! No that is exactly what you need is support. And your husband is the one person that will help u feel safe n secure. But if your like me I tried forcing him to do things and blamed him bc of my selfish reasons. We split up and I got some serious counseling. The talking it through helped more then any medication they prescribed me. I was on 10 different ones. Gained a lot of weight then came off of them bc I was tired of sleeping all day. My husband and I are back together. Learning how to control your thoughts n feelings are difficult but you can do it. As for your husband he's a man and men operate differently then women. He doesn't think or feel the you do. So try couples therapy so you can talk out your problems. I was never able to sit down with my husband without a professional psychologist with us. Exercise and eating the right food and multi vitamin go a long way with this bi polar. Study the disorder know everything you can about it.
So when you start to do or say something you will realize more quickly what is really going on. My mother had it, her mother had it, and now I have it. Learned behaviors is all it is you can still be normal and deal with this. Good luck!
I'm really happy that you've finally been diagnosed. Now you can put a name to all those whirling thoughts & awful bouts of depression that occur with our disease. I know I was extremely relieved to have an explanation for my erratic behavior. My family was overjoyed as well that we finally knew what was wrong with me! Your feelings are eerily similar to the ones I had when I was diagnosed 14yrs ago. Unfortunately, I don't have a husband to rely on for support, I am lucky to have a close knit family though.
Your husband needs to be behind you 100% right now. The first few months after diagnosis are the hardest. Regardless of what happened between the 2 of you in the past, you need him by your side now! He needs to step it up & help you get through this.
I hope you have a really good psychiatrist who you have a good rapport with & are comfortable speaking to her/him about your meds. You HAVE to speak up if a medication isn't working for you or if you find one that works well. You will have to find an excellent therapist too.
My personal favorite type of therapy is cognitive behavioral therapy. I've made a lot of progress with it.
No you're not wrong. Even though they may say they understand my therapist says the other person needs guidance e on how to deal with us, I'm just like you, my husband is becoming more distant and I thought taking all these meds would make me where he liked me more. It isn't working, I think marriage counseling for people who have bipolar would help you tremendously.. Good luck
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