... about anything my sisters responce is have you been taking your medication? It's to the point that I can't stand her or want to be around her. We have nothing to talk about anymore. This month has been horrible and has got worse each week. The one time I reach out it's brushed off again and back to the medication question. So tired of it. Then everyone in my family wonders why I don't bother to call
This sounds to me like a put-down. Several of my family members do the same thing and have been doing so for the past 29 years. Some people are just like that; it has nothing to do with "not understanding," "not enough information," or any other "innocent" reason. I can't tell you why people do this, but I have literally 86ed all but one of my 4 sisters, my only brother, my ex-husband, and all my extended family from my life. As far as I am concerned, they are deceased; I have no family save one grown niece and one sister, who sadly, lives over 2000 miles away from me though we do speak fairly often and amicably over the phone. I do not miss the others, nor do I miss their psychological abuse, rudeness, slander, criticism, and cruelty. I would help any one of them if they ever came to me in need, but I will never socialize with any of them, nor will I ever seek them out. That's the kind of person I am; I don't practice "payback," and I am a kind person who doesn't like to see anyone suffer. I am fully aware that not one of them would even consider offering me help of any kind, and several would knock themselves out to make life MORE difficult for me (and have in fact done so more than once already). We have enough problems without allowing those who are supposed to be closest to us to further victimize and damage us. There is no way these people will ever understand us, mainly because they do not care to, and do not/will not ever listen to nor hear anything we have to say. Being open, reaching out, being vulnerable, sharing any of your feelings or thoughts with people like this is only providing them with more effective weapons with which to attack and injure us emotionally. Be polite if you must be around them, don't sink to their level of rancor, but live your own life and keep your own counsel. Remember, "being family doesn't mean being related to someone by blood. It means loving someone unconditionally and with all your heart." And from the Dali Lama: "Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace."
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