... happen sooner or later, just didn't expect it to occur right before my trip. But I have another appt with a new pain doc in January. Me and the old doc just couldn't agree on anything. Tried to do 'things' his way and my pain kept getting worse. In addition, I know what has worked in the past and I am not in the least subtle. This most recent doc didn't even look at my old records. Can anyone tell me how severe nerve damage and cervical and lumbar stenosis miraculously disappear? Big question now is how to act with new doc, a moron, imbecile or cretin? I need some help here. My doc in Arkansas thought I was his best patient. Anything?
BIG PROBLEM! My pain doc dropped me. Yikes ... I can see trouble on the horizon. I knew this would?
Added 13 Dec 2011:
Oh, on Fentanyl 25 every other day and 2-15 oxy's a day...certainly not controlling my pain. I can't even sleep ... this is driving me insane.
Hi, I don't know the history, so I hope this is on track. Ask your Arkansas doc to send your records, along with a letter of introduction to your newest doc. Put on your "subtle suit" at least through the first appointment. You can always get more intense, but once a doc has a picture of you being intense or, as I had one doc call it "demanding", nothing can take that picture away. Yes, you are the expert on what you need, but most docs have pretty big egos that need to be convinced that WE believe THEY are the experts. Best to you...
Hi, not sure if I can really help but I just read your question and had to say something. In the past my views on pain Dr's were not good, the few I have seen were very pill happy and not good for me at all. I left them after a while, and found another pain Dr who up to now has stuck with my wishes, which was I do not want a bunch of pills unless everything else has been tried to find out why I have this pain in the first place. I have only had 3 visits with her, but I laid down my wishes on the first visit and it seems to be working just fine. she found I had a hip problem and she injected my hip a few weeks back and I have very little pain in that hip now, before she worked on me it was a good 8-10.
So I guess what I am saying is when you meet your new Dr in the New Year, have your wishes written down because I always get a bit flustered on the first visit, and ask the Dr how he likes to treat his patients and see if your wishes agrees with his/hers. This method has worked twice now for me, so good luck and let us know how you get on. Liz.
I'm like you,I know what works & the "non-drugs" they try to prescribe like Ultram or tramadole & I tell them in a subtle way "that crap doesn't work & your wasting my time? I've been taking 8 8 mg Dilaudid forever & it works & I never call for my scrip early so she's fine. I'd try the same also mentioning that there are pages & pages of Tramadol horror stories about addiction to that so say what works & what doesn't & if he/she can't help you look elsewhere. I found my doc first trip & she's been on board ever since,can't say it will work but dancing around the subject you want narcotics won't either,it's either yes or no. Good luck.
Laura, I am so sorry. I feel partly responsible because I told you that your pain doc should be open as he gave you more patches. Eichs!!! I don't know if you have a significant other or not, but bring a man. Sorry to say, but they just think of women as hysterical liars but when you bring a man with you to a man or woman doc, they listen better, esp. when the man does some of the talking. When I was having real problems with my old pain doc, my husband would come with me, and all of the sudden I was respectable again. I hated that man, but with the shape of the US and the ideas that we are all druggies, you have to have some kind of recognition by another person. Good luck, I feel so bad for you. Keep up you positive thoughts, and take your mind off the pain as much as you can. Ellen
Well crap. I had typed a long response and hit the wrong button on my "smart" phone and lost it all. I am going to send you a pq anyway. Sweetie I am so sorry you're having all these problems. It seems like it is next to impossible to find a "good" pain mgmt clinic. I am so sick of catering to these "experts" fragile egos and letting them experiment on me like I'm some kind of a guinea pig. I, like you, know what works for me but getting them to listen or sometimes even care is fighting an uphill battle. By the time I leave the clinic I feel like I've been chewed up and spit out. This is not how it's supposed to be!! I know it's not me either because I see several specialist and they don't treat me this way. Nor does my primary care doc. I think if there is any way possible I am going to just get my meds from these doctors in the future.
I'm tired of jumping through hoops just to get the medication that works for me and I'm not on very much pain medication in proportion to all I have going on. Anyway, I really hope you have better luck with the new doc. Did the other one at least give you scripts until you get to see the new one? If not that really is terrible. If I can help please let me know. I'm sending prayers your way sweetie hippie chick!!
Your friend -Terri-
Good evening Imariani!!
I don't really have any answer but I wanted to let you know I feel for what you are going through. I've only been in pain management for the last 3 months after a failed back surgery that left me in more pain than I started with!! I thought things we great with my PM doctor until this last visit when the nurse got really snotty with me and told me that her husband had back surgery and didn't need narcotics! After that I seen the doctor and she was completely different than me, she changed my Opana ER 10mg to every 8 hours instead of every 12 hours and told me that it is a dose for a dying cancer patient and if it don't help she will need to take me off everything because I must be dependent on it. Dependant after only 2 1/2 months of pain medicine??? I don't know what the nurse told her but I know something happened! I have reports to back everything, I'm not a drug seeker but I'm scared when I go for my next appointment that when I talk to her about this it could get bad and I will end up in the same boat as you! I guess rather than an answer I also have a question that I hope you are one of the nice people that answered your post could answer and that is what is the pain level that the doctor try to gt you to? I was definitely at a 10 before the PM and now with the increase I am usually around 6 which I feel it still almost unbearable! I ow not to expect all the pain to be gone but I as well can't sleep and I'm lucky if I can get more than 2 hours at a time without waking up in pain! It is vry frustrating and then to have the doctors treat you like a drug seeker! Horrible!
Good luck to you!!
I wrote a novel to you. Reread it and WOW, fdid I sound like a pompous ass, so I delted it.
IF I were in your shoes (and I do hope they are lovely shoes) I'd play the "Gee whiz, this worked in the past" card.
Take a list of what DIDN'T work with you, and have explainations with the list, allergies, side effects, ineffectual meds, etc. That may help.
I feel for you and you will be in my thoughts!!
xoxo P.S. You really have a great sense of humour... or was that rage?
I agree with my friend SweetLemon. Sometimes (even tho you know better) you have to let them take the lead, but be armed with a list of what you have been on & how each one worked or didn't work. If you go in asking for specifics drugs, they automatically think you are a drug seeker. Takes notes, lots of them, & take them with you when you go. Best of luck to you Laura...
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