In my case it seems to be the one thing that is really affecting my quality of life and am not sure how to deal with it. I have ADD (without the hyperactivity) and have very low energy levels. I take Adderall and that helps me with focus and keeping track of time, but my biggest problem is dealing with every day life- cleaning my house, keeping on top of my bills, remembering appointments, etc. Housekeeping is a biggie, and I am too embarrassed to ask anyone for help or to even hire a cleaning service. I don't know what to do to deal with this.
Yes, things & people seem so hectic these days... I'm always feeling very stressed, but I try to keep up the best I can... take my meds. & try to get up a bit earlier every day, as its tough for me to go to bed, and hard to get out of bed. I think about all the things I have to do, and delay it! So, I have to make myself get a start! Believe me, its hard.
I'm caretaker for my mother. And, I run my papa's small company because he passed last year; we also have a nasty lawsuit going. I work 7 days a week, but I'm grateful my dad left us something to run! I don't always do all that needs doing, but I try to do better each day. Its very tough for me to get and stay organized at all, and I try to multi-task, and forget what I was doing... many times a day. And, I forget things or get way too detail oriented, which causes me to go over things too many times (hyperfocus).
You seem a little depressed to me. Could you be? Schedules really, really help me (Adult ADHD), the stricter, the better! So, I keep trying to stay on a schedule. I put a huge calendar up in the kitchen, and write all appointments in there for mom & me... and, we do things in doubles (haircuts, smog certs., Dr. appts.!). I'm 58, and not going to give up yet! It also helped to get rid of many things & consolidate. Toss it, or garage sale it. The more I had around, the harder it was to keep up with life! You may want to check with the Dr. to see if you are on the right amount of meds., and have a thyroid test, too, while you're there!
Just my 2 cents, hun. Good Luck!
Names Rawboots. I'm an adult, 34 to be exact... Or so my age tells me so : ), butI too suffer from adhd. I also am on adderall. At the beginning of being put on the med, it was nice. It helped me with such tasks as looking forward to getting out of bed, living life, chores, most of all dealing with all of the @$$holes at work. Full time, everyday. Doesnt seem to be helping anymore. May I ask, do you regularly see a therapist ? The help part is a difficult thing to ask for. You tell yourself your better than that, that your normal and what exactly is it gonna help. Ive bn there. Im there now. It is very difficult. But honestly talking about it and maybe looking up some whom you can consider being friends with quite literally might help you and give you that confidence you may need. You should never be embarrased about wanting to be happy. Hope I may have made a new friend :) . Take care,
Sorry honey but ADD is ALL ABOUT inefficient executive function (front of the brain) been on Adderall for 13 years and still struggle with all those pesky tasks and details. Adderall will not FIX you inefficient executive function. What it will do is help your mind stop skipping from thing to thing to thing long enough so you can start to practice some new habits that will improve (you will never be the type-A, hyper organized, anal retentive type no matter how much adderall you take - I love a clean house but have only ever had it to the level of my satisfaction which I could afford to have a lady come in for 4 hours a day every 2 weeks and do the heavy cleaning - kitchen, bathrooms, vacum, dust, blinds windows, fridge every 3 or 4 months). What adderall has helped me do is IMPROVE my ability to organize my thoughts, tasks, home etc so I can have some hope of actually accomplishing SOME of it every day.
Did you ever start to sort your sock drawer, get it all strewn about on the floor then realize you had to go flip the laundry from the wash to the dryer, then while there realize you had to get that check in the mail, having forgotten the socks about 5 minutes into the dryer? Adderall will assist your executive function by allowing you to focus longer on one thing than you could without it, but you still need other tools. I highly recommend (of the thousands of organizational books I've read) Change Your Stuff, Change Your Life by Julie Morgenstern (Amazon and available used for $2.50). Her book has a unique system called the Kindergarten Classroom System of Organizing. It was like she was writing about me, one who needs to see what I have, forgets a lot, writes lists, loses lists, etc. She is the ONLY organizational EXPert to GET HOW I THINK AND HOW I AM and has figured out the best way to organize according to my needs, not the standard way. Highly recommend you read this book ONLY cause all the others (am suspect about these organize for ADD, no ADDer could write a book about being organized due to lack of organization) same the same basic thing, blah, blah, blah. Good luck.
I'm the other way with to much energy. That is just as bad I think sometime.
If I dont take my pill I drive my coworkers CRAZY, start a dozen things but nothing finnished by the end of the day! LOL
Live by lists & sticky notes, and a good wrist watch! If you get board on a task. Stop & start another one, but leave yourself a note so you know where to start again when you go back to it. Lable everything & keep it simple, people like us can't (or wont) take the time to stack old plastic butter bowl's or pair them with the right lid so just Pitch that crap, keep ONLY what you REALLY need. I find it eccential that our kind live clutter free & as organized as possiable. If eveything has a home that's easy to get to, we will put it there. I wish I could be of more help...
The best way I can describe this thing we live with, is that it's like sitting down to watch TV and changing the channel every couple of mins. all day long. It's very tiring at times just trying to keep up with "OUR" ever changing thoughts... As a child I was considered stupid in my special ed classes, Spanked alot in & out of school, blaimed for anything bad done in the neighborhood because there was no such thing as ADHD, you were just a BRAT and got your butt whipped daily back then. LOL
Once diagnosed in my at 30, I was able to get my GED, and a degree in the medical field with honers! Who knew? LOL Good luck...
We who deal with ADHD are heroic. What others do easily, takes enormous strength on our parts. Do not be ashamed of yourself. We need all the help we can get in certain areas. In others we shine.
I was born with ADD, my friend was born with a club foot, he needs help in certain areas too. My point is, ask for what you need, tell your friends what you have. My experience is that they may be relieved to know it's not them. Your best friends will have empathy and compassion. They too lose their car keys, just not all the time.
It is almost like someone looked into my life and posted a topic for me! (Though I supposedly have the hyper activity part... you'd think I'd be thinner then!) I have 4 little boys, one with Asperger's Syndrome, ADD and Depression to boot. The need for me to get more organized and into a routine is even more critical because of his needs. I am past the point of looking for the "magic wand". I am just happy to find out that I am NOT alone!
I'm 24 years old and take 30mg. of adderall in the morn. and 20mg. at noon.I've been taking this prescribed for about 7 years now and YES the add. helps Alot!!but still I find myself hardly every finishing 1 task completly.Without it tho. I wouldn't ever start a single task at all!!!
Im 48 yr old man, and the word "suffer" is a perfect adjective to describe being adhd. My life had been a train wreck due to the adhd. I look back and can see that I tried to use it to my advantage... I am sooooo full of energy that I funneled it into my job (im a deck/porch builder) - as a result, Ive flourished and feel pretty proud that I can easily out work the young bucks. However, I live in secret misery, I have the worst insomnia imaginable. Im on so many anti depressants and anti anxiety drugs its disturbing to me. Thank God for doctors who recognize that it is add or adhd. Ive been made to feel like a loser my whole life due to things I cant help. I have lost soo much because of this (my 18 yr marriage, my kids)... Its hard to accept that I am disabled in some way. When they first told me I had adhd I felt like a freak and cried about it as I read a book about it..(it described me exactly).
Dealing with it for me looks something like this...
Dont have ANY clutter, and throw lots of things away so that your room and house arent a source of anxiety and misery.
Take your med's and be honest as crap with your doctor.
Love yourself despite your add, accept it as a gift and try to use it to your advantage... you can do things with add that "normal" people cant..find it!
Ive tried the post a note thing only to have 5 zillion post a notes stacked on top of each other and none of them being addressed. So, for me..I prioritize the most important thing of the day or next day gets taped to my bedroom mirror so I dont miss it. I do one thing at a time and have had to just "let it go" on the 4000 other very important issues. All you can do is one thing at a time, so "F" the others. You have to get pissed at the others and in your mind tell them that they will eventually be the priority of the day.
I hate that I have this adhd believe me, all I can do is do all I can do... I admit that I have pretty major depression and anxiety over my "un done" things... but hey! what the heck can I do about it??? nothing. I dont have any help so F it.
Anyway I wish you the best, dont get down on yourself because of having a disorder that you cant control. Sincerely Fallentim
I'm a23yr old female, and I was diagnosed with ADD about 7 months ago now.I was missed diagnosed when i was younger, they told me i had a server learning disability. Being born with a lot of things wrong with you doesn't help, I was severely under weight due to problems eating, many allergic reactions, having a weak immune system and growth problems
From a young age l knew there was something wrong with me as I was a lot slower at doing things then my sister and brother, not fitting in a school and was always bullied about my height and not having any friends. The worst problem is hyper sexuality first I thought it was great like everyone else would think but ever since 17 and the loss of something, It's been problem because I love sex more then everybody else does. My ex's loved it Its really embarrassing and its disturbing.
My life has been a massive train wreck due to my depression and being miss diagnosed but I wouldn't of change a thing, well maybe a couple of things but I think things happen for a reason. Thank God for doctors who recognize that it is add l'm glad that they finally did. Ive been made to feel like a joke my whole life due to things I cant help. I have a hard time due to the last three years, as a nurse watching your grandmother go through all 3 stages of Dementia and then dying, The sudden death of my mum and being lied to my face by my partner telling me that he was in Melbourne with his family when my mum was in a coma in the hospital and Separating from my partner due to needing a break as work was to much for him and needed time alone a wk before my mum died then sudden break up after 3 yr sexual relationship and a yr of being engaged via text 2 days after my mum died and on top of that a year after we broke up finding out that he gave you Herpes. This time last year i was so full of energy on the outside because of getting a new job ( I'm a Personal Care Assistant in Age Care ) and meeting new people. Work changed me l was there for about 3 months and they put on night shift with the only male staff member which is fine because I get on with him and where sorta friends but I couldn't help notice he was pretty cute as well blonde hair and crystal blue eyes.We had been doing night shift for about 2 months and and it happen to be a quiet and slow night and we were coming down stairs, he was in front I was behind I miss a step and l fell taking both of us down I ended up on top of his back I was so embarrassed.
I'm a 58 yr old woman-diagnosed about 5 yrs ago-have only tried Adderal. I recently had a starnge reaction to it. I had been taking 20 mg 1X/Day, told Dr weren't working great, he raised it to 20 mg 2X/Day, I got weird- hyper, grouchy, weird feeling. I went back down to 20 mg 1X/Day- better. I also take 100mg Pristique for depression. As for the lady having trouble with paying for a professional to take care of her medss-I used to have to pay my Psychologist $100 ev. 3 mo. after Medicare got so crappy. Now I have to pray my PCP knows what he's doing. he'd be the first to admit he doesn't. I also have Diabetes, Fibromyalgia, Degenerative Arthritis, and sleep Apnea. I keep my weight down thanks to the Adderal. Go figure.
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