Why do parents want their children to grow up with a severe complex because of ADD/ADHD? Early on in my education I was diagnosed with ADD and my parents and the school made every effort possible to make me feel different and less than. In all actuality I have an extremely high IQ and while I did struggle at times in a typical classroom environment, I usually understood the material beyond my peers. Maybe it's time we stop telling children that the way they are is what's wrong, and start telling the school system that they are wrong. Empower your children, rather than making them feel that they need a medication to make them think right. There is more than one way to learn, and we can accommodate every way there is, without putting perfectly capable children in remedial classes that will only hold them back.
My son has borderline Adhd and when we recognized it along with the school we got him tested through specialist to confirm that he really had it. We waited as long as we could to put him on meds. He was of age to tell us what he was feeling at school and in general. When he told us he could not stand it anymore we tried meds until we found the one that works for him. That is Concerta. It was a struggle for him, us and his teachers but finally he says he feels normal with the meds. I guess it's different for every child that goes through this. He does not feel like is not smart at all, if anything we all see how smart he is once he could concentrate without feeling interupted all the time by things happening around him. We have always been supportive of his Adhd. He is normal to us. It's like any other medical condition you can have. You know you have it, you deal with it and move on to a great life.
I feel for you. Both my children were medicated. The oldest had ADD, the inattentive type-no hyperactivity, the youngest was very ADHD. ADHD/ADD runs in our family. I know I had it as a child (and still do) but it wasnt recognized. I wish I had a dollar for every teacher who said I needed to apply myself better. My oldest son's behavior wasnt an issue so he didnt have too many problems but my younger son did. He was like you, I think. I, and my husband, however, realized the school was the problem and not my son. Any time anything happened, my son got both barrels punishment, even when 4-5 other kids were involved, they would be let off but my son would be in "in school" suspension or some other crap! They would call us for the stupidest stuff! He was just being a boy, but having the diagnosis automatically seemed to make him a "troublemaker".
He never minded "in school" They would set him up in the office with his whole days work, which he would finish in 10 minutes and would fart off the whole rest of the day-he was happy as a pig in s&*t. ADD/ADHD kids often have above average intelligence and an unprecedented ability to think "outside" the box. They are NOT learning disabled! A lot of people, including school personnel, do not understand ADD/ADHD. Hopefully, in the future, as you kids begin your lives as adults and go into the work world may choose to go into education and change the way kids are treated. You are right-ADD/ADHD kids are NOT stupid, in fact they are often way above average intelligence. Their brains just process information differently than the average brain. I think medication can help. It certainly helped my kids. It is attitudes toward these kids that needs to change. I was so glad when my son changed from elementary school to high school (where I didnt bother to let them know he had ADHD). He rarely has trouble in High School. Do I think his behavior is better? No, they just dont have the attitude towards him-he doesnt even take the medication anymore. As he has matured, his ability to cope has matured too. I think his grades would be better with medication, but he no longer wants to take it and I figure it is his body and as long as he passes his classes and stays out of trouble, I wont make him do something he doesnt want to do.
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