I cannot get him to stop no matter what I do.
My solution is to ask the person to read their will or make one out. Since they are planning on dying sooner than later, best to do it now. You would be amazed how well that has worked. I simply sat quietly with a pad of paper and asked them where we should start. No judging and no talking about smoking. I am sure you have tried every angle you can think of. Just go with it. If he doesn't want to now, tell him you will do at some specific date and time. Then show up. Get started. A week or so will work.
Stay business like and ask good questions. The funeral, burial or cremation and so forth. Thank him and say you wish there was more time and are glad that this was not left as a burden to others. I think you get it. Is this manipulative? He certainly is. Never buy cigs for him. That worked with my mom. Or you can walk away. Remember he is very scared and uncertain. The cigs were safety for him when anxious. Take them away and what will he do? Therapist, if you can.
By the way, he could be just fine if he becomes a surgery candidate. My hubby did extremely well with an ablation. But then, he didn't smoke... Karen
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