I am having a hard time because I had to go through an exam to get it and I am a virgin, so I felt upset and ashamed that I went through that exam for yaz and it didn't work. Is there anyone who is a virgin and went through the exam to get yaz and it didn't work? I feel so alone and am the only one who has been through this :(
Sorry to hear your doc put you throu this. My daughter had a much better doc who said until she was sexually active or 21 she did not need the exam. However, she was very anxious for that first exam as she was still a virgin. She too felt alone and ashamed. She is a gorgeous young woman and waited until she finally had a true loving committed relationship. So please don't rush into something just to get the pill.
This is what I told her. This is your body. You have the right and the responsibility to care of it. But the same applies to what you tell others. She went to college and felt she was the only virgin. Both college and high school caused a lot of teasing and friends betrayed her confidence. She stayed with her ideas and wasn't going to mess with some guy just to seem normal. It takes strength to get through these things.
If there is a planned parenthood in your area or a woman's clinic, go there. They will totally understand your need to control your mood and cycle. There are many solutions for PMS.
You are not alone. You have the right to say no for a future exam unless you are having a problem or become sexually active. And don't talk about this on Facebook and so forth. Ok? You are fine and the right doc will help you. Don't forget to look up PMS on the web in the medical sites. Good luck.
Kels91, hoping today is a good kels day! Had a thought that you might want to talk with your school counselor ( if you have a good one) or get in to see one if you have a good health plan. The reason is that you need an adult as your advocate to get you through this time and talk through this.
However, this is part of being a woman and though it was not appropriate for your age, it is done and over. You were not meant to be shamed or humiliated. Since you are not tight with your parents, talk with a counselor to get it out of your head. Since my daughter felt the same, she was in tears, she also came to the realization that it wasn't the end of the world and that no one could take away her sense of self but her.
Just so you know, my first exam was in an ER after I was raped at 18. I Got past that whole series of events and married a few years later. You can do anything if you believe you can.
Every woman goes through this exam process and every woman adjusts. It doesn't matter how old or why. I know you will too. Stay tough and go after the things that count. Like getting that log started and working on your plan for after high school.
I know you can get past this and that you will be just fine. It is A bump in the road and you are back on track. Be well and be happy. You are not alone.
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