I decided to join after going thru medication withdrawals for the past few days. I didn't know where else to turn and don't know how to get or ask for the help or answers I need. I have family and friends but feel alienated because I feel alone, even when surrounded by people; they just don't understand. I get tired of being home all the time, but find it harder and harder to get out and enjoy my life. I just don't know how to handle this anymore. I use my back pain as an excuse at times when I'm not even hurting and it is effecting some of my friendships. They don't understand and I feel like I have nothing left. I'm always angry or sad. I find it easier to open up to people who don't know me because they won't judge me based on what I'm going thru. Some friends or friendly advise will be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time.
I so understand what you mean. I have absolutely no support where I live. Family that is nearby does not have time for me and hubbie seems to always need to go to work although he could take some time for me if he really wanted to as he is a farmer so self-employed.
This is a wonderful place to connect with people who have the same problems as you do. I have made some friends here and one really good friend. It is wonderful to have people who understand you like they do here.
Take care - you are not alone.
Hello Tiffers. Most of us have gone through what you are describing. I know I have. It really is not just you. You describe the text book definition of depression. The doctor that told you to seek counseling really cared about you. These days it is not a stigma to get help. It is no different than all other medical help. The mind is complex. The habits we form and the way we do things often blind us from what we need. It is so much easier to do as you have. And it takes real work to make some changes. But only until we understand what will help. Then it is very easy. Why we fight with our ideas is simple fear. Fear of change, fear of feeling like a failure, fear of losing our dreams, fear of what others think. Silly us. It doesn't really work that way. It is one thing I have learned with my age and illness. Others want to help and sometimes I was too stubborn to get it. Then people drift away because they don't know how to help.
Or we hide ourselves so they don't know we didn't do it.
Being on this site is an excellent first step. You can air feelings, thoughts, ideas and people will give you feedback. Some will say you aren't doing yourself good. You already knew it but it helps to hear it from a stranger. Others will say you are listening and making good changes. You will get both. There is little judging here. It is safe. Our friends here have already let you know that you are fine to go to a therapist. In fact, you would be silly not to do so. Nothing better than someone who only has your best interest at heart. That is what a therapist does. I am currently seeing someone and it helps. You can do this. You an get much better. You can refind the joy in your life. I know, because I have done so. And I have a terminal illness and home bound. Shucks, I would trade if you really want to stay home. Would give a lot to be out and about. Not to make you feel guilty. Giving you perspective. Please take care of yourself. Get the help and return the love around you. Blessings come from everywhere. May they endlessly fall upon you. Karen
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