I suffer from social anxiety, but have been learning to cope with it. Today however my husband and I where going to see his parents and I had the worst panic attack while getting ready to go and on the way there. It was to the point that I had to drop him off and come home. I was an absolute wreck. His parents don't approve of me and it just keeps getting worse every time we go down there because I'm such an anxious mess. HELP!
I'm sorry your anxiety is affecting you so much :( I am Bipolar II, and one of my many symptoms is anxiety. Although my anxiety is better now-I have to admit there are places or people I try very hard to avoid, because of it. I believe VERY firmly, that at the end of the day "I" will be the only one suffering from: anxiety or whatever the flavor of the day it is... My anxiety has reduced due to medication and other tools... (nothing fancy... trust me!)
For example: This past week I had to have an MRI. I am SOOOO claustrophobic it's not even funny. I had one done yrs. ago, and although my anxiety wasn't so bad, it was still hard. So, because I had to have it done... I took 2 Ativans (with the ok of my Dr.-I normally just take 1mg.) I brought an eye mask (?) and viewed myself on the beach... sounds silly, but it worked... the whole thing lasted 30 min. It seemed much longer than last time, of course! The fact that I knew that if it got bad, I could ask the technician to get me out, also helped.
My brother suffers from severe anxiety. One of his biggest stressors is getting stuck in traffic or even "thinking" he will get stuck in traffic. A few yrs. ago, I got married on the beach. To get there, there is only two lanes for most of the drive. About 90% of the time, you are stuck in traffic... He felt horrible, but he asked me if I would forgive him if he didn't come. I immediately understood where he was coming from. All of us, got dressed up again after the Wedding and took pictures with him. It was that simple :)
I guess what I'm saying is: a) you are NOT alone!!! b) a good med will help you take the edge of... (just knowing I have it in my purse helps me... ) 3) Maybe you can carry a stress ball or a "stress rock" - you just rub it when you are stressed... it really helps me. and d) maybe take "baby steps" with your in-laws? (a quick lunch or coffee in a neutral place?) Just a thought!
Sorry for such long reply... take care!
Get yourself some counseling, in the meantime, take heed in the knowledge that that approval is a two-way street. You're perception of their opinions is probably worse than anything they could ever say. I'm sure your feeling accepted by them is important, but no one, no one is s o high and might to where their :approval" should matter so much that we begin question ourselves.
Find yourself a good counselor, does not have to cost a lot, you can educate yourself on how co-dependency works, how your husband can and should be putting you above all else, especially his parents, and and how very harmful it is to put such a high value on the approval of others.
You are special, I can tell you that without even knowing you, and I'm sure if you just look you'll find many who will agree. I'll offer this to him: Your WIFE is #1 hubby, get it through your head."
I suffer similar. It's very painful at times and one can feel so small. Almost like the others' eyes are just lasering you down. Be nice to child within and if he's screaming that he wants to get away take care of him and do so. You may have experiences in the past with being judged and therefore are experiencing regressing to those times, making it all that more painful. I would suggest seeing a therapist to try and find some of those bad experiences and try and make them right. That is what I have been doing and I have been doing much better. I relate very much to the pain and I hope things get better soon. Good luck (:
Hi 06191988. I suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder also and at times it can be a nightmare. I suggest going to see a psychiatrist and also having therapy. I don't know if your on any meds but you may want to look into them. Make sure you like your psychiatrist and get along with him/her and that goes for the therapist too. The type of therapy you want to look into is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, I have been going to therapy and seeing a psychiatrist for a while now and I have gotten better with certain things, so it does help. I hope this answer helps you in some way. Take care. I hope things get better for you.
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