I hurt a lot of loved ones. It's been almost five years since it happened and I'm still not forgiven. It was a rare case of mania. Thank you in advance for your time.
Perhaps your loved ones should read up on mania or BPD, so they can understand what you go through on a daily basis! I've never personally experienced mania, but I would think that forgiving someone for actions that they are not completely responsible for would be easy.
To err is human, to forgive is divine! I hope you are not hurting too badly over this.
Best wishes to you,
You must first forgive yourself. Then you can simply say your sorry and the rest is up to them. You have an illness and they need to understand and accept that. Are you in counseling?
I would like to recomend you google "understanding bipolar for loved ones" and check out the many websites. Choose a couple and share with your relatives and family. It can be important to have their support especially if you still are having episodes of mania or depression.
Wishing you are your family the best and do stay in touch,
Hi Pickles503, Yeah you never know what kind of curve ball life will throw at you. But God is always there to pick you up. I had a psychoatic episode in 2007 when a psychiatrist gave me a prescription for Seroquel for depression. My family went through alot because I was admited to a hospital for 6 months before they found the right meds for me. I have a loving husband and 2 children under 12. My husband stuck by me even though he wasn't sure what was happening. I know I was one of the lucky ones. Some people are scared when they don't understand what is happening to a love one. They stay away because they are scared. And yes they don't understand. They are probably scared to get close again in case it happens again. They don't want the responsibility to take care of someone who is mentally ill. Not everyone is able to help. Their not bad people, just not educated about mental illness. You have done everything you can do. It's time to move on.
Their is reason you went through this. And you are writting about it and helping other people with the same problem. You are a godsend for others. I always wonder why god has allowed this to happen to me. Sometimes I wonder if it's to write to people like you. Alot of us are like family here. We understand each other. You can get close to some of us, we understand. Hope I didn't write to much stuff here. Just wanted to help. Hope this helps. Take Care smileyhappy
I think you are a really great person to want to write a book to help others and to want to make amends with people who have wronged you too! Remember that it is their problem if they can not forgive you! You have done a lot, probably a lot more than many others would do, to try to right a wrong that happened and it wasnt even something that was purposeful on your part. You were ill! If they cannot forgive you and try to understand what happened to you then they are commiting a wrong to you, as much as you did to them when you were ill. Unfortunately, there is a stigma for mental illness by many in this country, like it is catching or something. What people dont understand is that mentally ill folks are just like anyone else. That either their coping mechanisms are not like everyone elses and/or their brain chemistry is unbalanced. Some people are frightened by mental illness.
It is very sad that a mother can not forgive their child. Dont give up. Keep trying. Perhaps one day they will realize what they are doing is wrong too. Just know that you have tried and that you have done all you could and if they can not find it in their hearts to forgive you then they are not worth the time and effort.
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