when you have so many problems ... espesially panic attacks on top of the pain it seems like everyone can just pick up an go ... get in the car an go but for me its so hard sometimes ... if i try to go somewhere without taking my valiums i know whats gonna happen ... a panic attack an i hate that feeling i pray so much just to be normal im so tierd of making excuses as to why i cant go places ... sometimes just a trip to the grocery store can turn into such a big ordeal ... ive left my groceries in the store so many times i cant count ..is there anybody out there who knows what im going through?please write me an lets talk ... its a sad day when you cant go to your sons 8th grade graduation for fear of flipping out in front of everyone i feel so guilty for not being able to go to very important school events over the years ... i feel like i let all 3 of my children down ... please tell me im not alone in this
I am 41, male... and you are not alone.
I have suffered in the past what you are experiencing, making excuses not to go out, feeling guilty for it., having to take a huge amount of klonopin just to go somewere, afraid I am as you say going to "flip out".
Could not drive to the offcie it is a 10 minute drive.
Everyone gets lonely sometimes is a part of being human, now for us it is hardest, because from my experience I believe we have become oversensitive and our sense of reality is completely different to "normal people", things affects us more, it is part of who and what we are.
I suffer from manic depression, anxiety attacks, ocd, paranoia... etc.-
This is about you not me, I also wish I was "normal" but the thruth is , and I have accepted it a long time ago... it will never happen.
You must be strong , you must control your mind, your emotions and feelings your sense of reality and do not let them control you,be brave, we all are, but some people are to inmovalized by fear that they do not see it, feel it... it is inside of you..look deeper and you will see what I am talking about... it is a part of being human beings.
I take many medications, as I am responding to your question I am undergoing a very strong anxiety attack, but I will not let it get in the way, control, see you can control your emotions your conditions( some with the help of doctors and meds).-
Have more confidence in yourself always have a possitive mental attitude, do not let your condition destroy you as a person, it will not only affect you and your loved ones as well, and I know you want the best for all of them, but first you must make a greater effort to overcome these chemical unbalances in the brain... they can be controlled..it is hard..I have been there... but it can be achieved so again be stronger have more courage to do what you must do, I know you can do it... but it is that fear which makes your panic attacks more prone, think positive ... just go, and at the start if you feel very bad go back to your refuge, until one day you will not need it anymore... what I am trying to say is set yourself free from yourself. Start with small things, test yourself, and little by little you will gain more confidence in yourself and that awful sensation of fear will go away.
This will take some time, for things do not happen overnight.
My very best goes out to you.-
You're not alone lindagail1965! I've been agoraphobic as far back as I can remember. According to my current shrink, there are many people who suffer in varying degrees from this problem. When I was very young, I can remember feeling scared to even go outside to play with other kids. I've also had a lot of trouble with panic attacks, particularly during this past year. I've always led an isolated life. This is a big reason why I didn't have children. I can't begin to imagine how hard it must be for you to do the things that you're expected to do when you have children. I do have a husband and several animals. I also do a lot of arts and crafts. All these things keep me quite content in my home. Have you had this problem for a long time like me? Even if it is a relatively new situation, it might be a good idea to consult with a therapist.
I've come to the realization that much of my drug and alcohol use was a tool to bolster me up for going out into the world when I had to. Do you have a husband or partner who you can share these feelings with? There are many useful relaxation techniques these days that also might be of help to you. I learned hypnosis several years ago, and that was very beneficial. Of course there are a variety of medications that can be helpful. You need to talk with someone who can assist you in finding positive ways to handle your specific issues. I think it was smart of you to reach out to the people here. I've consistantly been impressed by the knowledge, sincerity, and heartfelt empathy I've seen displayed by the members of this website. I believe many people will respond to you here, and that you will be offered a lot of very useful advice. You came to the right place, keemo7
I too have both chronic pain and anxiety/panic attacks. It is a horrible thing to go through. We are all suffering similar things but we have to remember we are all very different also. I started having panic attacks even before I had chronic pain back in 1995 after my Grandpa died. I've also been diagnosed with major depressive disorder and PTSD.
I know it can be hard enough to get out in pain but when you add panic attacks on top, it makes it even worse.
Personally I have suffered from them many times but even with passing out/fainting, I forced myself to stay in the situation at times as most anxiety/panic attacks we feel like we are going to die if we don't get out immediately so it is a "flight or fight" body response. I knew from a friend that if I started to flee every situation when it came up, I would have an even harder time conquering this horrible, terrifying experience.
I had one at an amusement park waiting in line to get on a ride the 1st time yet even after passing out for 20 seconds or less and feeling physically sick afterward, I rested and kept going. After that it has happened many times over and the more I resisted leaving, the more that the attacks have lessened.
I also had to take Xanax and still do to prevent them and the anxiety I still have. If I do have an attack, I take a Xanax immediately to feel better; sometimes I do and sometimes I don't.
I feel your own attacks are far worse than I have experienced even though I've been personally terrified to even leave my home at times over the years.
I do believe you can work on this and get better with help. I agree to have more confidence not only in yourself but also about any situation you are in and always tell yourself in your mind that this will pass.
Even my Mom has had them where she has also had to leave the groceries at the store and leave.
I know when it has hit me I feel like everyone speaking starts sounding like echos and my ears start ringing as my head feels dizzier by the second and everything starts spinning fast.
I have heard and read that when an attack begins you should bend down (if you can) to a position of standing at a very low position with your knees bent forward and lower your head down and remain that way for a few minutes if need be. It is supposed to help stop the attack in progress but if they are still that bad, it will take work to get to that point and I wish you the best.
My prayers are with you as not only I but others I know suffer from this to varying degrees.
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