My daughter was diagnosed when she was 16 (now 27) with BPD and also Bipolar Disorder. It explains a lot about our relationship being on again off again at a whim. She gave birth in December to a beautiful little girl that I have been trying to get custody of (she is in foster care) but the courts have been paying so much attention to my daughter's lies and it is killing me. I started reading a workbook titled "Stop Walking on Eggshells" which has a text also, and it is so accurate about her that I cannot imagine how much pain she must be in if she even knows reality. I am so confused about all this and would like any help I can get about clarification from experience. Thanks so much.
My Daughter has it and won't get treatment. She has told me that I will not get to see my grandbaby (due next month) and she loves to hurt me. I seem to get the brunt of her illness. She balmes me for all of her problems. I know I have B/D, but I have never set out to hurt her.
Hi Retiredelfin. I just read a review on the book you suggested; "Stop Walking on Eggshells," and it sounds like it would be good for anyone involved with bipolar and bpd to read. It sure would be nice if people would educate themselves more on these illnesses. I'll put that on my list of books to read (there's only one ahead. Big time reader, huh?) I would also recommend a book written by Sylvia Plath called "The Unquiet Mind." I was enlightened by it as you are about Stop Walking on Eggshells.
It must be strenuous to be in your situation. My heart goes out to you. I'm not sure how I'd deal with it myself.
I'm on the flip side of you. Before I tell you about this, I want you to know I don't want any pity. I'm 62 and was diagnosed as Extreme Bipolar Disorder when I was 56, at which time I had my first "manic episode." I became angry at people for putting their high expectations on me. (I now know I put those expectations upon myself) I became angry and angrier and angrier until there was no one else to get angry with. I was disowned because I was a mad woman and hurt others so badly with my words and actions. I don't blame them. I spent some time being homeless. I was robbed and beaten, and sexually abused. I found out how much I valued a roof over my head and food in my tummy and a place to go to the bathroom. I was homeless for 6 months before I finally decided to go to a hospital, and soon found out that I wasn't voluntarily going into the hospital. I was committed. I was under court order for one year. It's been 6 years since this happened. I have a criminal record and I'm bankrupt. Because of that, I'm unable to find housing where I feel safe. I'm only allowed to see my mom with 2 people present to observe my words and actions, so I've only seen her 3 times because I feel like an unwanted visitor. I have 5 brothers and sisters, and we haven't seen each other at all. I've asked them all for forgiveness, and of course I asked mom. I've become so withdrawn that I only leave my apartment with my daughter. I step outside my door sometimes.
I'm only telling you this because I thought it might help in some way. I don't know. I wished I would have had support like your giving that sweet baby. Your not a quitter. I can tell you're going to get through this just fine. Your daughters lies are like anyone's, they catch up with us. I'd say the best you can do is to pray for her. In a small way, I'm thinking your daughter needs your help.
Take a rest. You deserve it. Do something, anything. Have a picnic in your car or buy yourself something if you can. Honor yourself as a mother and grandmother in any way you like. If you want someone to chat with, I'm here. And so are the other fantastic friends we have on drugs.com.
God bless you with peace and joy and His undying love,
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