Anxiety and Stress - Am I still supposed to feel nervous and anxious when entering a crowded room or
- 12 Jul 2013 by Stiff Steph
- 14 Jul 2013
- anxiety, generalized anxiety disorder
... walking toward a group while on anti-depressant?
I still feel very anxious and nervous when approaching a group of people or entering a location that is crowded. I was bullied by my classmates in the room I spent most classes in, one girl was the "leader", she passed notes to students that belittled me, I never saw the notes but I knew she passed them because of the way others were treating me and I didn't do anything to these people or say anything to them but I thought this girl was a friend but she WASN'T. Remember the t.v. movie and book called 'Odd Girl Out'? That was was my high school life, I liked the movie because I identify with it.
Yes, people can still have anxiety while taking an anti-depressant. Sorry about your bullying by your classmates. It happens too often and is so unfair. Since you had a traumatic past, it would seem like therapy could help you. Or you may be able to treat it with an anti-anxiety medication. Wish you the best.
Hello. My answer is yes, but medication has nothing to do with it. I am nervous when I enter a room. Especially a situation like yours. It is a pretty normal response and doesn't truly reflect how well you are doing. There will always be situations when just about anyone is feeling anxious. Even people who appear to be under control may not be. Facing your old accusers is going to cause some tension. But golly, actually going there and doing it takes real strength and confidence.
Remember that no matter that the time was a year, five years or forty, they grew up and so did you. Half my class at ten years looked like little old ladies and men. It reinstated my confidence. That is for sure. And they not only could no longer harm me, cause I knew I was doing well, but they were rather surprised how I was doing.
The cause of anxiety is rehearsing a fantasy in our brain. The fear is what makes us stuck. Since a room full of people does not turn out the way we think it will, it never fits our fantasy. I will never tell the girl off. I will never be asked to the sleepovers. I know now my life is my life and not their picture. And best of all I never needed them in the first place. You are free Steph you just forgot to look at yourself in the mirror rather than their picture, poorly drawn and not life like. I was betrayed as well. It has nothing to do with my wonderful husband and beautiful daughter. And I never had to see them again. Anxiety disappears when we get it right.
Pills don't cure this. Understanding does. What is your real story? Karen
Hi Stiff Stepn
What AD are you taking
I found a low dose of Effexor and buspar helps with social anxiety
Are you an adult? If so, it's time to take charge of your confidence! I know what that girl did to you is a scar that will never go away, but, you can do something about it. It's not the way you look, but the way you carry yourself that makes a difference, if you fake it till you make it you may just get to a point where you no longer feel bad about entering a crowded room.
Dig deep for your confidence, also think of your best attribute on your face, do you have an ear to ear grin? If so, show it, that can allay a lot of nervousness.
I used to be in your shoes, had panic attacks and anxiety when my daughter was born, to the point that I didn't want to be around people, and I'm the most social woman I know! But by putting myself in those crowded rooms or parties, even for a small bit of time, built confidence upon more confidence.
That and medication can help greatly, but the medication won't bring YOU back totally, you have to work at that.
You can change your life IF you want to! I don't say this to be "in your face" but to encourage you to dig deep to find that confidence!
That girl who did that is probably asking the proverbial question, "Do you want fries with that?" at this point, so don't worry about her. If we harbor resentment toward someone who hurt us, we can't heal. Just my opinion Steff, and I do hope you took this in the spirit it was intended, EMPOWERMENT!
P.S. that girl in school can't hurt you anymore!
Don't ever say your not good enough. If that person can't see how amazing you are, then they're the one whose one whose not good enough for you.
May peace be with you,
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