I am not too sure how to start talking about this because it's not me I'm looking to help, My girlfriend (sorta), Is struggling with Anxiety, she can't go too far away from the house because she has panic attacks when she does and she has to turn around and go back home, recently we had a small fight and had over the top emotions from it, ones even she knows were overreacting, and what ended up happening is we broke up or took a break i think is more accurate shes so panicked about what happened she feels like a burden and wants me to find someone else, and that is not something I am looking to do. instead my "mission" i guess is to stay her friend and try and help her through what shes dealing with. Shes said she wants to be with me and i love the girl so much. she just feels like she needs to deal with the anxiety on her own and part of me thinks shes wrong that she needs help with it but i dont really know what to do. She told me she feels like it will never go away it started about 5 years ago, she has incredible anxiety about everything. she was in a store one day and had a panic attack and ever since shes been afraid it will happen again, and its started to seep past the mall experience into everything. shes tried to get help but shes unable to get out of the house to go to the appointments and what not so. Norway doesn't seem to have options I can find to help her. so i guess my question is does anyone have an ideas, about what might be triggering the anxiety or things i can do to help, even some kinda program or something that would help because I am out of ideas
Sounds like to be her panic attacks are turning into something called Agoraphobia..that is just my opinion I'm not a medical doc..But I have the same problem. I did everything she's doing ..I understand her feeling the way she does. She does not understand what's happening to her so she will push you away..not that she wants to. It is a horrible place to be in .when you have no control over your mind and why it's happening to you... she really needs treatment . I hope you continue to stand by her..she needs to be told it's okay all the time .You have to be patient with her. She can learn how to deal with the panic attacks in time with encouragement. I thought I was going to have to be committed. Mine was that bad. With meds I got stronger in time . So if you want to help her look up Agoraphobia. It's nothing for her to be ashamed of at all ..i will.say the panic attacks never go away. You find away to live and be happy ..get help .You stand by her she will pull out of it with proper medical help ..Remember to encourage her all the time talk her through her attacks tell her it's okay and she can do it. Set up goals for her . I will stop now it would take a book to tell it all..hope this helps ..
I have agoraphobia as well, it can be terrifying. I can barely go walk my dog without having a panic attack. It’s getting to the point where I never want to leave my house.
One thing she should look Into is called Systematic Desensitization. It’s where you gradually expose yourself to situations that trigger the anxiety. However, the tricky part is that she needs to learn relaxation techniques first, then use her imagination to trigger that panic. She then uses the relaxation techniques to calm the anxiety. Over time, she will desensitize herself from those fearful situations. Then she needs to start going into public and practicing. You want to take baby steps and start learning and mastering relaxation techniques first.
If you have any questions, please let me know. I’ve dealt with anxiety for so long so I’ll be happy to offer any insight.
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