This past year something changed with me and I don't know why or what happened.
I get anxious all the time now, and it's ruining my relationship with my boyfriend. My boyfriend came home last night for college break, I hadn't seen him in months and I'm enjoying my time with him when I get another irrational thought that says "what if I don't love him"?
I've dated my boyfriend for 2.5 years and I know that I love him, I love him so so much. But I keep getting these irrational thoughts that make my stomach drop and make me shake. I don't know what to do and I don't have access to a therapist. My mom says I should get a prescription but I honestly feel crazy, this is not like me.
My family has no history of mental disorders, and I've always grown up wanting to get married, have kids, and be happy. And these past few months it's like the tables have turned and I have no idea what caused it.
I was just hoping someone understands what I'm going through and has advice.
Anxiety question - scared and weird situation?
Added 28 Nov 2014:
this is the first time I've ever asked for help, but I really feel like I need it
Gdela, I'm sorry you've been feeling so anxious. Sometimes it seems anxiety hits us out of the blue. Are you college age, too, like your boyfriend? I ask because sometimes anxiety disorders or other mental health concerns can come on around this age. Don't know why. That's what happened to me many years ago. I would go to the doctor for an evaluation, to see what's truly up. Also, are you sure you have no access to a therapist? Are you in a rural area that doesn't have therapists or something? If not, check the phone book under mental health or call the local hospital or mental health center for a referral. If you're in college, sometimes colleges have student health services you can check out. Or if you're in high school, talk to your guidance counselor or a teacher. You don't have to go through this alone.
It sounds like you've talked to your mom and coming here for help is a good step. There are many caring people on this site who would help you. Only the best to you.
The main thing about all of this is"You are not alone"Having suffered with anxiety for 50 yrs these strange feelings "irrational thought" are very common place.A girlfriend and i had treatment for O.C.D. you relly get intrusive thoughts with that.For me i find that i don,t act on these thoughts and usually the next day they are gone.One big mistake i did make and ive been married and divorced twice tell your partner.Ive been in recovery from alcoholism for 32 years but i still go to mtgs and heres the important part,find someone to share with.This can have very positive results because as you open up so does the other person.About medication,i can tell you after many years there is no WONDER drug but medication prescribed correctly can make your life manageable.Hope this helps,have a good week end.
First of all start with your doctor he will be able to help he sees this often. He will be able to suggest something and find out why you are experiencing anxiety. This should help you feel at ease a bit. Then follow his instructions. Take care. I also had bad anxiety in my 20s and had to change my life to a more calm one. It helped a lot.
Get a prescription? Sorry, that's not very helpful advice. I would have you seek out professional counseling on this, that is the best advice I can muster up as it sounds (based solely on your report here) like an emotional issues, not a mental health issue. Solid advice form a one-on-one relationship with a trusted professional counselor (rather than meds which only dull your senses) will help you immensely.
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