... with it on Tuesday. He had gone for hydration therapy on Wed and Thursday. His twin brother took laundry back Friday and found his twin dead in bed. It appears to me that he vomited and may have choked. I guess I ache about this happening when we all thought he was going to make it. I do think he is ok now. I had a clear feeling all is ok for him, that he is on his new journey in life, I have trouble letting it go. I know he is out of here and I am certain he still exists, but I have trouble with this. I maybe should not share this as it seems worse to reach out. I feel very weak talking to you all about it. I know we all go through loss of people but I have trouble with it . I have a great wife, and kids, but I am somehow actually lost in this world.
So sorry to hear about your loss.The loss of a loved one is always very difficult especially when it is so unexpected like that. I, too, have lost a few very close friends in the past. The only thing I can tell you is to pray and know that time will help heal you.
It has been 6 years since my best friend passed away and I still have dreams that he is alive today. For the first few years There were times when I would pick up the phone to call or text him and stop myself in the middle and remember that I can't. I also stuggled because I was with him hours before he passed and decided to leave. I think if I would have stayed like I planned he would still be here.
But time has helped me to accept his passing and I realize it is really not my fault.
Talk to your mutual friends about him. Support each other. They are probably feeling just as lost as you are. It also might help to get some counseling or to talk to a pastor at your local church. Take care and I will be keeping you all in my prayers.
First I would like to say I am sorry for your loss! Second if it gives you any comfort if you are a believer, the day of our death is already by God and nothing would change that day so there is nothing anyone could have done to change that. I also have a friend who has bone and blood cancer and will be getting chemo and radiation to extend her life but I know her date is already chosen also so I will enjoy what time I have left with her. It is never easy and I pray that you find comfort and be able to move on from this place you are stuck in. Greave and then move on with your life! You will always have fond memories of this person and hold on to that.
Merry Xmas and enjoy your family! A lot of people are alone at this time of year!
You will get through this, however dark it is ... there is still light at the end of the tunnel. Remember your friend loved you too and would want you to continue living life filled with happiness, joy and love not just for Others but also for yourself. He would want you to Smile more an frown less. And to fulfill your goals in life as he would of wanted to do himself. To embrace llife and or to mourn life, We have to experience life
Life... My heart & prayers goes out to you! I just recently lost someone that was close & dear to my heart,to me. There's not words that can truly described the feelings We endure of Our loss, our pain, our emptiness, the hurt We have deep inside our soul. Though surrounding yourself with family / friends can help tremendously and if you are a believer in Christ, listening to the Scriptures being read or reading it yourself can help ... a lot. Just remember to breath,take a deep breathe an exhale. AND REMEMBER U R NOT ALONE!
You are feeling anxious because it was unexpected and a shock. Give yourself time to absorb the loss and grieve the situation. It's hard not to be obsessed with it for awhile. Know that this type of anxiety is a normal response to what you're going through and will lessen a bit each day. We all feel lost in this world during times of stress and personal loss. You have to rely on your Faith, Friends and Family for support during these times. If you find the anxiety to be overwhelming, contact your doctor. You may need to take a short round of medication to help you through it. Situational depression and anxiety is real. We all need extra help sometimes - nothing to be ashamed of. I will pray that you find comfort and resolve as you work your way through it and I'm really very sorry for the loss of your friend.
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