... inside to the point of blowing up! I suffer from chronic back/hip pain and take kadian 60mg 2xday. I am just so mad and angry at everyone around me. I have no patience at all and at time just feel like smashing whatever I can get my hands on. I try to explain this to the dr. but with all the drs I have seen to try and fix my back they all seem to disreguard it. They all say I'm depressed. I don't really feel like I have anything to be happy about. I can't work anymore because it causes so much pain. I think I would be better off all alone. I have 3 kids, 16, 14, & 12. I am engaged but I'm probably messing that up because I am so mean anymore. I am tired of being miserable all the time. Please someone respond, I will answer any ? or info I may have left out. I don't seem to get anywhere with the dr. so I thought advice here would maybe help. thx in advance
yayablondie you gotta try to go easy,i get like that sometimes angry about my condition having other problems, but what always bring me to a reality check is that; who will watch my kids if i lose it!! so review each situation one at a time if you cant solve it, put it on a shelf until you come back to it to only make a decision about what o do with it, but it cannot consume you why? because the kids need you.do not rush to do anything at this point take your time while you monitor your anger...
i will go for a long drive looking and thinking, with just 1 thought that i cannot solve until i reason with myself what to do with it, the weight of it,is it really neccessary,and now what happens with it that i must immediately come to grips with, all in all the point is; processing-your thoughts- no more racing with anger- i take my time now,,this is what helps me, i have bipolar, i really gotta take it easy, and i had to getta grip on my anger, one of my children 17 she is crying out for help... so i had to begin prioritizing myself, changing therapist and then getting my daughter an therapist as an outlet for her, i hope some of my own experience would shed some light to yours... stay kool yayablondie..take your time with every thought, control your anger as best you can..vtech10
Hey, I am sorry for your pain and other problems. I hate to even mention this as it sounds like you do need your pain medicine, but, sometimes narcotics can produce the symptoms you are having. The fact that you have basically 3 teenagers is also a trigger. I am not sure what the answer will be for you, but I would sit my 3 teenagers and my fiance down and let them know that you realize you are not yourself anymore, but, that you are working on it. It is also possible you are depressed somewhat and may suffer from something called anhedonia ( the lack of pleasure) but you have figured out some of the things bothering you that you would like to fix, and that is a start. I realize you have some physical pain issue, but, if there is any type of exercise that you can do, walking, or even just some regular stretching may help somewhat. You will want to be very careful and try not to cause any more pain. You may need a physical therapist to work with you and your doctor to do this.
The physical activity really does help reboot certain systems in the brain. Make sure you are getting decent food, you don't have to go vegetarian or anything. Some biofeedback or hypnosis might help and you usually can find dvd's or tapes of biofeedback and hypnosis in book stores and sometimes libraries. I would suggest some therapy, to help mastermind and coordinate how you can combat each issue. You are trying to raise kids and be in a relationship although you now are less physically able to do so. Sound like you might need to make a last ditch effort to let the doctor know just how bad you feel, OR switch doctors. Just because a doctor specializes in one thing does not mean they are an expert on all things medical. I think maybe he/she ( the doctor) has no idea what to do for the anhedonia and anger, so, they suggest nothing. If you are seeing a pain management doctor, then of course stay with a pain management doctor when you change, if you aren't, you need to be with a pain management doctor or group. If you have a regular doctor ( internist, G.P. or even an ObGyn) please talk to them and see if they know of a therapists in your area who deals with disability and chronic pain and then make an appointment to see them. You are overwhelmed and disabled, and that is enough to make anyone mad, I hope someone else will have some suggestions for you soon. Be sure to check back over the next few days as others will answer for several days, if not weeks or months.
It is kimmie1 here again. You gotta get it together girl. I know it's very hard to live in chronic pain. I do it everyday. Some days are better than others and you will have a good one soon. It's your turn. At least your kids are old enough to help care for themselves but they need there mom too. I have been there and done that. We are all here for you. Remember think pain free... This to shall pass...
i can totally relate to you in so many ways. i have chronic pain and they finally did a mri and found gallstone. i have to have it removed. it has taken months i mean months to figure that out. i was put in a nut house for three days cuz it drove me so crazy.i went in there vomitting and couldnt even walk. i had bottomed out. they put me back on a antidepressant and klnipin for my panic disorder which pain intensifies. it helped alot. stretching and sleeping witn a heating pad help. i also see a chiropractor. now im on loritab till they take my gall out. so i have to deal with coming off pain pills being a attic and im still in fear that it may not whats causing the pain. i know its hard. try not to focus on it so much pray that god leads yot. u to the right doctor to help find out what the problm is. also what are your symtoms. of pain. exacly where is it at. it will get better. i have two kids im 24 and all the meds they have me on plus the pain i fear will run off my fiance.
just pray that you dont take your pain out on kids or him. and endure this. like that girl said although it feels like youll never get through this too shall pass
It sounds like you are very frustrated more than angry actually, if you had a little more support from your doctor that would probably help. Alot of doctors take the easy way out and say depression so they don't have to listen to it. I went through so many doctors because of that. I now have an excellent doctor and she doesn't hesitate to listen and take her time with me. She sees the patient as a whole not just a problem. I agree though I think you should find a therapist that deals with chronic pain and the frustration/anger that goes with it, I know it helpd me alot to have the extra support. Is you family supportive? I know it's hard sometimes for kids especially those ages to understand, they want you right there the minute they snap their fingers but they need to understand mom is not doing well right now.
I am sorry that your doctor seems to be disregarding you but I know the feelings your going through, I have had 5 back surgeries and sometimes I still can't move good, I also just fractured my L-3 vertebre so I know the frustration. I had a specialist that yelled at me and said that all I wanted was more surgery and left the room, I was in shock, that is the last thing I want more of right now, needless to say my primary doctor who is not a specialist had to order the back brace for me. Sometimes a change in doctors may be necessary to get a fresh opinion and hopefully someone who cares about you as a whole. Hope this helps some feel free to write again if you need to o.k.. Good luck with this doctor, I hope he wakes up. By the way I don't think you are having a nervous breakdown, you just need alot of support right now and by the sounds of it a new doctor. Don't be afraid to ask for support if you need it, it doesn't mean your weak. Hang in there you will get through this. I will be thinking of you and your situation, wish I could run over there to give you a big hug sounds like you need one.
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