The woman [alcoholic] is staying in her car for a couple of weeks already, no money and her family doesnt want anything to do with her. I am a total stranger and couldnt give her a room to stay, but every morning she shower and have breakfast at my house and then she go back to her car for the rest of the day. I give her money once a week for petrol and cigarettes, she promised me she wont use it for alcohol. After 11 days clean she had a couple of drinks again, according to her somebody else bought it for her, the next day she had another glas. What do I have to do now? Keep on giving her a place to shower and have breakfast or just distanciate myself from situation. It feels as if I enable her again to start drinking because I provide a comfort zone?
You have to get her out of your driveway car and all. Her family have given up on her; I wonder what obligation you feel? She will steal from you given the opportunity. She will use you until you have had enough.
Ask her to leave or ask the police what you should do? You will want the police when she is ordered to leave regardless.
Your help and support for this woman is is highly commendable the only thing is you are what they call enabling her.All AA asks is " A desire to stop drinking" that's it.Now i've been in recovery for 33 years and for me i had to reach "my rock bottom".Honest if i can do this anybody can!Find a meeting and listen.Give it 6 months the pubs and clubs will still be there and see how you feel.God bless
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