I left my boyfriend with the agreement from him that he would not abuse his medicine and then I would come back. The first two months have gone by and he recently told me he was unable to take his medicine at the dosage he was prescribed. We made a deal when I first left him, that he could try to do it on his own but if he couldn't beat his addiction then he would have to give it up entirely and possibly go to rehab. Well he's now not taking it at all (lord knows his dr. will never prescribe amphetamines again), atleast that is what he tells me. I can't always believe him considering he has had to confess to abusing adderall three times to me, so I am never truly sure that he's not taking it right now. It has been a "supposed" week and a few days since he has been on it. Before this first clean week was even through he had already been talking about trying to get back on it responsibly in a few months time in order to go to grad school. I know how I feel about this pertaining to our relationship (that's for my therapist and I to discuss) but what I would like to know is has anyone had any success or know of anyone having success in being able to kick a habit and then use again responsibly? Even if it has nothing to do with amphetamines please let me know. I seriously do not believe he needs adderall for grad school, yet he thinks he will not go at all with out it. I just don't think a person can, should start thinking about taking their drug of choice before even a month of recovery has gone by. Can someone please please shed some light on the situation for me who has had some experience with this. Whether it's firsthand or third party I am in desperate need for some input. Thank you.
I can only speak from an alcoholic stand point on this. If I was to try to drink one beer, that would never be enough even though I could make promise after promise. The very fact that your boyfriend thinks that he can go back to taking a regular dose of something that he has abused to this extent is showing his addictive attitude that he can control it. He is in denial. There is no way that any doctor, who is good, would prescribe this or any drug like this to any one who is just getting clean, or in recovery for that matter. That would be like giving me a drink and telling me to sip it... yeah right. And I have been sober for almost 2 years. Im not going to lie and say that the urge doesn't creep up on me because it does but I have put precationary items in place for myself... people, places and things. I would recommend if you are serious about maintaining this relationship that you attend NA-open meetings and also learn about the 12 step programs. Addictions are hard on both the addicted person and also the people who love them. We lie, cheat, decieve and do what we can to get our drug of choice. He has to seriously be sick of being sick. You giving him a ultimatum is not going to work if he is not ready to get his life straight and stop making excuses to just use again. He can go to school without taking "Adderall" and do just fine. He is making deals and it wont work. With addiction it is all or nothing.
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