I am 51 years old, a cancer survivor and never, never, ever had an STD in my whole life. I either abstained, or was very careful. After an 8 year battle and winning Breast and Uterine cancer, and no sex what so ever in that time, I met someone that I finally allowed into my world, and I truly thought he cared about me. Lo and behold, not only did he know he had herpes, he denied it to me. Yes, I asked in the beginning of our meeting if he had any STD history. He lied. I believed him. After about 6 months of dating and being intimate, I noticed two small blisters by my vagina. Got it checked out and guess what, the SOB lied to me. When I confronted him, he just laughed and said yeah, he has it, and now I do to and that now I had to stay with and that no one would ever want me. He deliberately did this! I wanted to gut him. Needless to say, we broke up, rather loudly (on my part, I was so livid!) and told him to crawl back into the same gutter he crawled out of. I am still very angry. How does one stop this break out? I am soooo devastated.
yes, drugs like acyclovir can suppress future breakouts. Your life will not be that much different. I know it feels devastaing now, to find out you have an STD but there are many many people in the US who are living with Herpes. It was wrong of your partner not to disclose he had the virus before becoming intimate with you. You may even be able to sue him for it. I'm not sure how much good it would do but it is a possibility if you wanted to persue it. CDC estimates that, annually, 776,000 people in the United States get new herpes infections. Genital herpes infection is common in the United States. Nationwide, 16.2%, or about one out of six, people aged 14 to 49 years have genital HSV-2 infection. Over the past decade, the percentage of persons with genital herpes infection in the United States has remained stable. So you are not as alone with this as you suspect. It doesnt mean that no other man will want you!! You can live a normal life and have an active sex life as long as you take precautions. Persons with herpes should abstain from sexual activity with partners when sores or other symptoms of herpes are present. It is important to know that even if a person does not have any symptoms, he or she can still infect sex partners. Sex partners of infected persons should be advised that they may become infected and they should use condoms to reduce the risk. Sex partners can seek testing to determine if they are infected with HSV. Read up about the virus. Knowledge is power! Find out all you can and take an antiviral to suppress outbreaks. Antivirals like acyclovir are very effective at reducing outbreaks. Outbreaks are most common in times of stress or when you are sick so try not to let yourself get run down. Outbreaks generally lessen the longer time goes on so your chances for outbreaks are greatest in the first year then they gradually lessen over the years. My best friends husband is infected with genital herpes. They have been married over 20 years and have 4 beautiful children and she has never contracted the infection from him. Dont feel that you will never be wanted because that is just not true. Find out all you can and educate your partners. The ones who are worth your time will not be deterred. After all, one in six out there is already infected.
There is no excuse for what he did. Other then he isn't a human. If I were you I'd be putting his name and the fact he has it wherever I could. Online and in posters. If you find he's seeing a friend or aquantance I'd tell them. He'd be sorry he did that to you. The acyclovir will stop or greatly decrease an outbreak.
- Acyclovir Information for Consumers
- Acyclovir Information for Healthcare Professionals (includes dosage details)
- Side Effects of Acyclovir (detailed)
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