... started. I lost my husband 4 years ago. He never caught my herpes.
Now I have fallen in love with someone new. Since I never have outbreaks anymore, I decided I did not need to tell him about my herpes. I figured I would just take the pill every day, would not have an outbreak, and so why should I take the chance of telling him and have him walk away. He is also widowed, and had been married to the same woman for 40 years. I know he will be freaked out by this. I never expected to fall in love again, and it will be devastating to both of us if telling him causes us to break up. I am so nervous about this. I try to force myself to put it 'in the back of my brain' but somehow I am not having much luck with that.
We are madly in love, sex has been great, but I'm so afraid of what might happen.
Has anyone here avoided telling your partner?