[cowgurl]

My fiance and I have a very, very close (some would say abnormally close) relationship. Since day one, I have known that he had a history of drug abuse. His drugs of choice cover the board: heroin, cocaine, crack, opiates, benzos, and he also smokes pot every night. He has been to rehab and detox multiple times starting in his late teens and early twenties. He is now thirty years old. To my knowledge, he had been clean from heroin since he was 21. About a week ago, I went to use his phone so I could send my Mom a text. Our of common courtesy I asked him if I could use his phone so I could talk to her, which he said was fine. I opened his text message folder and a message popped up from one of his drug dealing friends we'll call 'Bob'. Bob said he was headed over to our house so he could give my fiance half a bundle. I just about s*** my pants. The night before I saw this message my fiance and I had had a great talk about how he was cutting back on his pain meds (he had shoulder surgery in July) and he was saying it was the responsible thing for him to do and he was going to stop injecting Oxy. I confronted him about using heroin, which he denied. Now, he and 'Bob' text every day which my boyfriend then deletes. I am not sure what to do about my fiance. This has been an ongoing battle since we got together, but this is the first time that it is very obvious that I know what's going on, and he still won't admit it. I hate snooping around, I don't like to snoop and I don't lie. I'm not really sure how to move beyond this.

[doc.rose]

If he isn't ready to get help, there isn't much you can do. If i were you, I would not put up with the behavior. Leave if you have to. Do not tolerate this behavior under any circumstance!!Look into detox facilities and then give him the option to go.