[msdc_13]

Hi I'm a 25 year old female, married with one daughter (2 years old). When I was single I was taking valiums and different kinds of drugs but when I got married I became health conscious and I dont want my daughter to immitate me. I quit smoking, taking drugs but I still drink occassionally, when I'm depress or stress. This past few days I feel so stress not only physically but more on emotionally. At first I tried drinking wine before I go to sleep but it doesnt help so I tried taking valiums which helps me not to think of my problems and helped me to sleep well but my concern is, I dont want to be addicted with it and the side effect to me is I'm being so forgetful. I also feel guilty everytime I see my daughter because as much as possible I want to be a good example to her. Can you help me and give me some advice what to do? thank you so much. I really appreciate it.

[tamara02]

hi msdc,try to half your dose of valium,see if that helps,your daughter is just 2 and its good you want to set a good example for her,what seems to be stressing you so,Tamm

[hatelove percs]

seeing a doctor about an anti depressant might work for you. something like amitriptyline is good for mood and sleep. that is what my doctor put me on when my daughter was two and it really helped a lot, then i weaned off of it later.

[msdc_13]

quote:Originally posted by tamara02

hi msdc,try to half your dose of valium,see if that helps,your daughter is just 2 and its good you want to set a good example for her,what seems to be stressing you so,Tamm

Hi Tamm thanks for the advice. I'll try to do that. Well I'm a type of person who's very private and has an extreme attitude. As long as I can keep and solve my problems to myslef I will do it but when I feel that I'm giving up thats the time I want to take valium or at least drink one glass of wine to calm down. I work and study at the same time. I feel bad not seeing and spending much time with my family especially with my daughter. I'm really having a hard time to divide my time in everything.I think too much, even when Im asleep I'm still thinking. Im too scared of what will happend to our future. thank you again -msdc

[msdc_13]

quote:Originally posted by hatelove percs

seeing a doctor about an anti depressant might work for you. something like amitriptyline is good for mood and sleep. that is what my doctor put me on when my daughter was two and it really helped a lot, then i weaned off of it later.

hi there maybe I can try that too. would you know the name of the pills so that i can ask my doctor about it? I dont feel depress everyday there's only a certain time especailly when Im alone or everytime is see my daughter growing really fast but i still know how to handle and control my moods and temper. The only thing that sometimes I cant control is to "think". My mind is so tired of thinking. I'm not a type of person who shares my personal problems because I find ways to solve it. So do you think i still need to take anti depressant? thank you -msdc

[mpvt]

Taking valium or drinking alcohol doesn't solve your problems,they are still there when the drugs wear off.Can you talk to your doctor and maybe seen a specialist.Drugs aren't always the answer for living problems....Good luck....Dave

[msdc_13]

quote:Originally posted by mpvt

Taking valium or drinking alcohol doesn't solve your problems,they are still there when the drugs wear off.Can you talk to your doctor and maybe seen a specialist.Drugs aren't always the answer for living problems....Good luck....Dave

You make me feel more guilty Dave hehehehe but honestly thats a really good advice and I agree with you. Thank you so much

[mpvt]

Believe me I'm not trying to make you feel guilty.Benzodiazepines were developed for short term use unfortunetly the doctors have not prescribed them this way.It's not your fault that a doctor order's these for you but why don't they take the time to sit with you and get into your head and then make a decision of what to do.That's what I was trying to get across,you have nothing to feel guilty about especially when you are here looking for help.Hang in there.....Dave

[Vcamo]

msdc, How long have you been taking the Valium? If you have been taking it for several weeks I would start weaning myself off of it. I took it for around 10 years and it took 12 weeks to wean myself off of it. I would never take it again.

I take 100 milligrams of Amytriptline (sp?) at bedtime to help me sleep but I've been taking it for so long it doesn't really help all that much anymore.

If there is any way you can possibly get by without taking any medications I would try just about anything. It's awful when you have to let drugs control your life. I wish I would have been smart enough not to have taken that first pill.

[msdc_13]

quote:Originally posted by mpvt

Believe me I'm not trying to make you feel guilty.Benzodiazepines were developed for short term use unfortunetly the doctors have not prescribed them this way.It's not your fault that a doctor order's these for you but why don't they take the time to sit with you and get into your head and then make a decision of what to do.That's what I was trying to get across,you have nothing to feel guilty about especially when you are here looking for help.Hang in there.....Dave

Hi again Dave thank you so so so much for the BEST advice. When you informed me about the diazepine, i researched it right away and I got scared to what I've read. I realized and found out that valium is not the answer to my problems, it can even worsen my situation. Thank you for saving me. Thank you again. Maybe I'll just try to busy myself everytime I feel depress. Take care and God bless

[msdc_13]

quote:Originally posted by Vcamo

msdc, How long have you been taking the Valium? If you have been taking it for several weeks I would start weaning myself off of it. I took it for around 10 years and it took 12 weeks to wean myself off of it. I would never take it again.

I take 100 milligrams of Amytriptline (sp?) at bedtime to help me sleep but I've been taking it for so long it doesn't really help all that much anymore.

If there is any way you can possibly get by without taking any medications I would try just about anything. It's awful when you have to let drugs control your life. I wish I would have been smart enough not to have taken that first pill.

Hi Vcamo when I was still single I was hooked with Valiums and other drugs. I don't want that to be happened again. I stopped for 4 years already. One day when I got home from work, too much thinking, stress and very depress I decided to take 1 pill of valium because I can't control it anymore and the bad thing is I mixed it with alcohol which is a no no. Then the next day it was still the same, it doesn't help me at all and my depression was even worse. I'll try my best not to do that again. I'll try to busy myself with other things to avoid it AND I wont let drugs control my life. Thank you so much. I'm learning a lot from all of you. God Bless

[tamara02]

MSDC,I know what you mean abt constantly thinking ,mind racing,my good friend has the same symptoms,I used to constantly think and worry ,especially at nite in bed ,instead of trying to sleep,my mind would just keep racing from one scenerio to another,then finally ,I realized ,that ,What do you get out of worring abt this or that,all the time .I think it says in the bible that worry is a sin,instead you have to Practice to have Faith,,,,,I would constantly tell my self at bedtime to STOP worrying ,then it would start again ,and I just kept on talking my self out of thinking or worring at bedtime,finally,I stopped,I'll tell you what The mind is just so amazing,you can do any thing you set your mind to do,Right now I just started reading a book;Hidden Power,How to unleash the Power of your Subconscious mind,by James K.Van Fleet,Ill let you know if its any good so far it makes alot of sense..Later TammPs You're young ,have a small child,work /school,too much stuff ,huh,feel like you have the burden of the whole world on your shoulders,Just take it easy,sweetie!!!One day at a time ,no sense worring abt the future,ther might not even be one ,we dont know ,thats why ,I said;just take and enjoy that one DAY at a time,and be happy,cause life is to short,Iwas 19 ,Then I Blinked and now I'M 46,Yikes,lol,Love ya ,take care,will keep you in my prayers,Tamm

[bamman]

It's best not to take any medications at all, but to pursue nondrug methods. There are so many books and therapies that have helped many. All the medications that affect the brain cause brain damage, which is on occasion permanent. If you want to get off all meds, it might be good to taper the antidepressant first, and then you can taper the valium down very slowly if you've been taking it a lot. This is just my opinion, but it's best to consult with your doctor as to the best course of action. The Ashton Manual (google "Ashton Manual") contains ways to taper off Valium.

I would do anything to take back my use of psychiatric drugs. I'm now physically disabled after taking xanax last March from the w/d effects. I hope things work out for you.

Best of luck!

-Brett

[msdc_13]

quote:Originally posted by tamara02

MSDC,I know what you mean abt constantly thinking ,mind racing,my good friend has the same symptoms,I used to constantly think and worry ,especially at nite in bed ,instead of trying to sleep,my mind would just keep racing from one scenerio to another,then finally ,I realized ,that ,What do you get out of worring abt this or that,all the time .I think it says in the bible that worry is a sin,instead you have to Practice to have Faith,,,,,I would constantly tell my self at bedtime to STOP worrying ,then it would start again ,and I just kept on talking my self out of thinking or worring at bedtime,finally,I stopped,I'll tell you what The mind is just so amazing,you can do any thing you set your mind to do,Right now I just started reading a book;Hidden Power,How to unleash the Power of your Subconscious mind,by James K.Van Fleet,Ill let you know if its any good so far it makes alot of sense..Later TammPs You're young ,have a small child,work /school,too much stuff ,huh,feel like you have the burden of the whole world on your shoulders,Just take it easy,sweetie!!!One day at a time ,no sense worring abt the future,ther might not even be one ,we dont know ,thats why ,I said;just take and enjoy that one DAY at a time,and be happy,cause life is to short,Iwas 19 ,Then I Blinked and now I'M 46,Yikes,lol,Love ya ,take care,will keep you in my prayers,Tamm

You are sooo sweet Tamm thank you so much. Oh by the way I have good news. I'm recovering with the pills and depression but the bad news, I'm having a hard time to sleep at night,experiencing headaches and having a hard time to breathe this past few days. I dont know why. Honestly you remind me of my mom because both of you are giving me the same advice. She keeps on telling me not to worry too much and thy will be done. I prayed last night and told Him to let my mind free of worrying and it did work but I easily get distracted with things like when our dog barks, noise from the outside of our house etc. I hope soon I will get rid of this, I hate this feeling.

Oh you may not be really interested with this story but i just like to share it with you. The reason why Im working too much because when i was single, my life has no direction. I always give my parents headaches and heartaches. When i got married and had my own child I realized that its really hard to be a parent (especially to be a mother) don't get me wrong but its really hard to be a girl. You work, cook, take care of your child, do the household chores at the same time. I felt guilty for doing bad things from my past. Yeah i dont regret things,I became a better person and learned from my mistakes. Maybe I just want to prove to my parents especially to myself that I can be successful and be the best mother/wife like my mom. The best businesswoman like my dad. Im proud of my parents. They inspire me a lot. Thats all.

I'm so glad that I joined this forum. Im learning a lot, meeting new friends, meeting nice people with good heart like you. Thank you tamm love you too. God bless.

-msdc

[Vcamo]

quote:Originally posted by hatelove percs

seeing a doctor about an anti depressant might work for you. something like amitriptyline is good for mood and sleep. that is what my doctor put me on when my daughter was two and it really helped a lot, then i weaned off of it later.

HL, How many milligrams of amitriptyline were you on and how long did it take to wean yourself off them? I've been taking 100 milligrams at bedtime for over 6 years and I would like to wean myself off of them but I don't know how to do it.