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Old 10-29-2009, 11:01 AM
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Hi Robert,

Just a quick note to thank you for being there to help and encourage me when I needed it! You certainly have done more than your share to help others and you should be very proud. I can understand how you feel, there will always be people that won't be happy unless they are making other people miserable!

A round of golf sounds great!!! You have earned every right to live your life to the fullest, take a break my friend. It is important to remember the goodwill and friendship you have extended to so many, I hope you can dwell on the many success stories you have helped with!

Perhaps after a break, you will be revitalized. I suspect that it is your nature to always try to help people. As a closing thought, if you ever start Robert.com be sure to drop me a note, I'll sign up!

Thank you again from so many,

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Old 10-29-2009, 11:42 AM
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Mitchigan,
Oh I like that!! lol Robert.com and you have to be invited to be a member so he can screen out negative people! I would pay for that. It's cheaper than therapy. Ha ha. How about Robert??? lol
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If I had a dr who would write scripts and I could see people legally in a clinic setting I would do it. But forums survive with selling advertising, not from members.

This forum is such a small part of drugs.com it's all the freakin ads everywhere that generates the income. They would make it fine if this forum didn't even exist.

If I had it to do all over again I would have gone to medical school, but I'm afraid at my age it would be cost prohibitive. I wouldn't have enough time left to make it worthwhile. Such is life. God bless.
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Old 10-29-2009, 04:30 PM
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Robert, I am proud to know you man. Do what you need to do and that is that!!!..... CA In your retirement I suggest Farmville on Facebook, nothing like trading one addiction for another. Me, I now where overalls to work and bring my laptop home to make sure I tend to my crops.. LOL
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Old 10-29-2009, 07:32 PM
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Robert, I am proud to know you man. Do what you need to do and that is that!!!..... CA In your retirement I suggest Farmville on Facebook, nothing like trading one addiction for another. Me, I now where overalls to work and bring my laptop home to make sure I tend to my crops.. LOL



Thanks for the kind words buddy! But MAN I can't do that goofy Farmville thing on facebook. That would drive me crazier than this silly place. Yoville is the same way. Neither of them make any freakin sense to me whatsoever. I'm just not into farming I'm afraid. My farming was limited to growing some premo plants back in the late 1960s and early 1970s. I was really good at that but my yard is just not the place and I'm afraid that I'm just not into that anymore either. Guess I'm getting boring in my old age.

I did check today into starting into some regular yoga training soon at a local health club. Doing that and some weight training I think would be good for me. It would seemingly have to help my knees and back both I believe. I've got to go to Houston for a couple weeks on business but when I get back I will make some changes. I have to do something to help lessen my physical pain. I think yoga is a good possibility for me. It's very low impact, stretching with strength training, I've done almost everything else. That with some light working out on the machines could only help me feel better. I won't work out with 450lbs on the leg machines like I used to, I'll just take my time and be a little easier on myself. I still like the "no pain no gain" concept, that's just from being an athlete. But I need to be a little kinder to myself than I used to be.

I know my racquetball days are over. I mentioned about playing racquetball earlier today and Melinda started laughing at me the way I "cripple" around here. She really knows how to hurt a guy. Just kidding she is wonderful to me. But I wouldn't last one good match playing racquetball anymore and I know it. I loved it when I played competitively, and I was good. But the fact is I am history after playing hard for 25 years and adding in all the injuries. We all have our limits ultimately whether we want to admit it or not. The mileage runs up high enough and that is it finally. Such is life.

It's got to be a self-improvement program for me regardless as soon as I get back from Houston. Then when spring comes around and it gets warm I can work on my golf game again. I used to shoot 81-83 several years ago but I would be lucky to make it around the course now. LOL I'll definitely use a cart but it's still good exercise. I'm going to get back into as good of shape as this old body will allow me. I know I've got some good years left and I don't want to spend them in constant pain.

Melinda and I still have our Bible studies and I do other ministry work too. I'm going to be getting more personally involved in leading some church study groups. I'm excited about getting that going. And I've got this really hot and incredible girl I'm getting ready to marry soon. I totally enjoy spending my personal time with her as much as we are able. We both also want to do some foreign missionary work together in other countries for two or three years or however long we decide. It's just time for our focus to change to some other things besides constant posting wherever that takes us.

We will both still be here but we won't log on every day. Once I finish up with a few remaining people that I've previously committed to helping and they are clean I will start backing off more. But we will both be around here and there ... won't totally disappear. We will probably be around as long as the place is here to some extent. God bless.
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Old 10-29-2009, 08:41 PM
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Robert_325,
I've been spending too much time in the community and didn't realize until today that I could still post here. (DUH)
I will graciously honor and respect your request not to send you more people...yes, I'll admit I did my fair sahre of Robert plugging because I've never seen anybody totally commit themselves to the service of others the way you do-not even in my own hospital. I know you are doing the right thing for you because after a while, if you don't take time out for yourself, you'll end up coming to visit me! <I work at a psych hospital everyone and Robert knows this>. I will continue to read your wise words Robert and I hope you will do me the honor of re-sending me a friend request on Facebook, because in my newbieness on there, I deleted your first one completely by accident
I hope you and Melinda are doing well and I hope others will see how much you care and try to step up and help others and give POSITIVE feedback for all seeking a kind word! Take care Robert and I know you'll be seeing this and checking back with us from time to time! I pledge to do my part in attempting to keep this place a great resource like I know you have tried.!
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Old 10-29-2009, 09:48 PM
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Robert_325,
I've been spending too much time in the community and didn't realize until today that I could still post here. (DUH)
I will graciously honor and respect your request not to send you more people...yes, I'll admit I did my fair sahre of Robert plugging because I've never seen anybody totally commit themselves to the service of others the way you do-not even in my own hospital. I know you are doing the right thing for you because after a while, if you don't take time out for yourself, you'll end up coming to visit me! <I work at a psych hospital everyone and Robert knows this>. I will continue to read your wise words Robert and I hope you will do me the honor of re-sending me a friend request on Facebook, because in my newbieness on there, I deleted your first one completely by accident
I hope you and Melinda are doing well and I hope others will see how much you care and try to step up and help others and give POSITIVE feedback for all seeking a kind word! Take care Robert and I know you'll be seeing this and checking back with us from time to time! I pledge to do my part in attempting to keep this place a great resource like I know you have tried.!




Thanks Ken. I have always appreciated the support you have given me here personally and your support of the forum as well. It's nice to have medical professionals on the forum who are so helpful to others and also open-minded about how we do things.

Obviously we don't strictly adhere to what some drs would consider standard protocol but you've been around here a pretty long time and know we get results. We do what works. You know how there are lots of people in the medical community who don't think too highly of forums like this period. I think some of them feel threatened to an extent by the forums that are successful though that is not our intention ever.

You've helped lots of people on this forum and I know you'll help pick up the slack as you're able. And I will be in touch with you for sure. Talk later buddy! God bless.
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Old 10-29-2009, 10:43 PM
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Robert :
Happy to hear that u r taking time for you and your family, as it should be ! Thanks for your past help, support and advice. and glad to here that u will still be on sometimes.

Could I ask one more favor ?
On your post 12-26-2008 Suboxone therapy. You suggested going to Need to Talk forum and check the thread titled Glad to be here and that there was a recent induction done exactly as recommended , sorry but can't find it. Would like to take it to my Dr. (see below) I would like to try to roughly figure out how long this could take me, if all goes fairly smoothly.

After too many delays and postponements on the Dr.'s part and on mine, tomorrow I finally have app t Oct 30 to see a Dr.(psychiatrist) to begin Oxy to Suboxone. He was the one who suggested the Subs, but way over prescribed
After I found this site, and you, and your Induction, tapering method, I brought it back to him. I expected him to be offended questioning his knowledge etc. but amazingly he was quite impressed and on board. WOW. He is acknowledged for addictions but I think his only info re Suboxone is typically from drug manufacturers, not real life His only requirement was that I did it as in patient. 2-3wks. Not just to deal with the Subs, but he felt that my depression was not simply from the Oxy, that I had 'issues'. hmmmm.
For many reasons and responsibilities, it is not an easy thing for me to just close up life and go in there. and also maybe I was afraid he was right. Maybe I am crazy. But until I am off Oxy and then the Subs I really won't know will I.
I am confident that I will succeed kicking it all. When I first saw him in June I was on 120mg a day but on my own have managed to taper to 100mg, I tried 80 and didn't last.
The underlying Pain I think I will manage. it's taken me awhile to realize the diff between it and the pain and body aches that come from the Oxy - when I am in need of a dose.and the aches from CFS. Along with my spinal\damaged nerve difficulties my biggest fight is CFS. Unless you have it, it's hard to get anyone to really understand what complete and total exhaustion is. Fatigued down to the bone ! So dam tired can't even keep my eyes open.fall asleep sitting up, where you can't lift a muscle and every part of your body aches. I will have months on end where everyday by 2-3pm I crash for several hrs, and then after, I feel like a dishrag and the rest of the day has been wasted too. But fortunately I have good periods too. and then I go like hell to catch up on life and all the things I missed.
What I am getting at is that, yes I want to be off the Oxy and be able to get my head back together and rid of all the a other side effects, but I will still always have the CFS, at least with the Oxy it gave me some semblance of life with energy. Alot of the effects that Oxy have are also contributed to CFS, ie depression, cognitive and more, so again until I kick it I won't know.

Not sure when he wants to start this. and I only want to stay in there max 2wks. I am hoping that I can stabilize at 6mg. but doing the math, there is no way I am staying until taper is done.
Another big problem is that my drug plan has just capped, not eligible till Jan 2010, Subs would be free in hospital but after the 2wks would be out of pocket and I just can't do it. And he hasn't yet agreed to supply me with a RX of it, initially he said I would have to go to my Pharmacy daily for my dose. I live way out in 'boonies' and my fatigue often makes me unable to go out, or drive. And having Xmas creeping up factors into too.

Wish me luck tomorrow. I'll stay on here to post my progress and to rely on the great support from all the great caring members on here too. God bless u all
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For those people I am currently working with on taper plans and what not I will continue to work with you as I have been. But I do not want anyone else referring new members to me with their problems. I have no intention of being the "go to" person on the forum any longer. There are plenty of people currently there who are capable of making quality replies.
When I feel like posting I will do so, but I'm done spending ten and twelve hour days on this forum with people who think this forum is some kind of a joke. I am not going to accept responsibility for 75% of the threads on this forum any longer that get posted with "Robert this" or "Robert that". I intend on spending time with my family and doing as I please in the future.

I'm not resigning from the forum. I will continue to post as I have for years when I see a reason to do so where I can help an adult. I will post or reply at my convenience once I complete my obligations to those people who are trusting me to help them as I promised that I would. God bless.
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Old 10-30-2009, 01:09 AM
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Lucy ...... Here is a link to the thread Glad To Be Here as you asked for. If you follow this exactly you should have no problems.

There is some conversation in the thread along with the medical specifics but you and your dr together shouldn't be able to fail following the protocol of this induction to the letter.

Here is the link to follow. Good luck and God bless.

http://www.drugs.com/forum/need-talk...ere-50301.html

I would also print the sub therapy post in the link to follow in case there are any questions. Pay close attention to the INDUCTION section of the following link which includes the COWS(clinical opioid w/d scale)worksheet found in the INDUCTION section of the thread
http://www.drugs.com/forum/featured-...apy-50887.html
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Old 10-30-2009, 02:56 AM
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I've been on this site longer then probably anybody active, over the years I've seen a lot of people come and go, but none as good and helpful as you Robert, you know, I've said it to you a couple times, I was afraid you were going to burn out, and then I see you devote even more of your time to helping people in need, it's a glorious thing that you do, and it's nearly impossible to keep up that kind of pace for as long as you have. You are simply amazing, I applaud you for all your work. I know what kind of time answering well thought out answers take, and all the research behind it, and some days the words just don't flow like they should and it can easily take 45 minutes to write a couple of paragraphs, then multiply that by x number of posts. I say "good for you" taking some time off, you deserve it, and I know there will be days where you will spend hours helping people here. The forums have become very busy in the last year, especially the last 6 months, and with the introduction of beta it's only going to keep increasing, there has to be a line drawn somewhere, and I think it's going to be good for you to take a breather. I use to be much more active, but people like you took up my slack as others will yours, so don't look behind, just do what you can, if you want, when you want, that's what I do. When what you enjoy becomes work and is no longer enjoyable, it's time to think about other things to do, and I'm glad that's what your plan is. I'll see you around like always, and btw, You Rock!
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Old 10-30-2009, 09:18 AM
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God never ceases to amaze me.
It was a long night wrestling with my doubts and fears about facing today. To go or not to go. I have little to no support from my 2nd husband, who is long haul trucker, and I live pretty well isolated,except for my 4 dogs who are my babies.

My son is however my Rock ! We have always been there for each other thru some pretty bad times. He had left home at 15, lived on the streets, and was on every drug there is. I lived in daily fear he would come back to me as a Toe Tag. I prayed everyday for him. I never gave up on him,I always believed in hi and told him so.
Then there was a major life event, my Mom passed of cancer. and he came home. It was a long road but since then he has become the man I always knew was.
He is now married, living in Toronto, and studying for his BA in Sociology. Volunteers and works with the homeless at a Mission. Who better than someone who's 'been there done that'. He is readily accepted with his almost total body tatts (hmmm) and his disarming smile, so filled with compassion, so full of life. He knows that he has only done this thru God's love.
Now our roles have reversed and he is my rock, he has been my support to kick this.

As said ,long night, I finally just prayed and left it all in God's hands. and typically, when I woke this morning, everything is beginning to fall into place. I came up with a very workable plan to be able to go into the program, for only the one week for the induction process, that would fit for timing my son to be able to come stay here, continue his courses on line and take care of dogs and house etc. I even have enough pts to get him free train tickets. It is all looking so positive, now just have to make sure the Dr. is on board too. As said God is simply amazing !
I will bring your suggested reading material with me today , thanks again. I am really getting excited. Wish me luck



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Lucy ...... Here is a link to the thread Glad To Be Here as you asked for. If you follow this exactly you should have no problems.

There is some conversation in the thread along with the medical specifics but you and your dr together shouldn't be able to fail following the protocol of this induction to the letter.

Here is the link to follow. Good luck and God bless.

http://www.drugs.com/forum/need-talk...ere-50301.html

I would also print the sub therapy post in the link to follow in case there are any questions. Pay close attention to the INDUCTION section of the following link which includes the COWS(clinical opioid w/d scale)worksheet found in the INDUCTION section of the thread
http://www.drugs.com/forum/featured-...apy-50887.html
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well done for taking ontrol. Wish I was just as assertive. take care and God bless
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Thank you for posting that your son has come back to you. My daughter is a heroin addict, somedays it seems she is totally lost to me. Then I read a story like yours. It gives me hope that someday God will bring her back. Good luck and God bless you.
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Robert:

Good for you. It's a wonderful gift you have given and for those that are serious there is plenty of information and other posters here to avail themselves.

Go live your life and be happy. And...God Bless You for all that you have done here!!!

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I've been on this site longer then probably anybody active, over the years I've seen a lot of people come and go, but none as good and helpful as you Robert, you know, I've said it to you a couple times, I was afraid you were going to burn out, and then I see you devote even more of your time to helping people in need, it's a glorious thing that you do, and it's nearly impossible to keep up that kind of pace for as long as you have. You are simply amazing, I applaud you for all your work. I know what kind of time answering well thought out answers take, and all the research behind it, and some days the words just don't flow like they should and it can easily take 45 minutes to write a couple of paragraphs, then multiply that by x number of posts. I say "good for you" taking some time off, you deserve it, and I know there will be days where you will spend hours helping people here. The forums have become very busy in the last year, especially the last 6 months, and with the introduction of beta it's only going to keep increasing, there has to be a line drawn somewhere, and I think it's going to be good for you to take a breather. I use to be much more active, but people like you took up my slack as others will yours, so don't look behind, just do what you can, if you want, when you want, that's what I do. When what you enjoy becomes work and is no longer enjoyable, it's time to think about other things to do, and I'm glad that's what your plan is. I'll see you around like always, and btw, You Rock!
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Thanks Cats! That means a lot to me coming from you. You know me, I won't leave completely. This place becomes addicting. I just need to do some other things with my life too and of all people on the forum you know as well as I do how much of our life doing this every day can use up if we allow it to. I appreciate your support and kind words. Thanks. God bless.
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Thank you for posting that your son has come back to you. My daughter is a heroin addict, somedays it seems she is totally lost to me. Then I read a story like yours. It gives me hope that someday God will bring her back. Good luck and God bless you.
Kathleen never ever give up. It did take a tragedy to bring us back together. There is nothing he and I don't share, and he has often said that during his time being lost, one thing kept him alive was knowing that there was always one person that no matter what he ever did would always in his corner. We all need just that one ! It just took a long time for him to forgive himself. We are always our own worst enemies. God forgives us yet we keep beating ourselves up.
Only thing he hasn't quite forgotten or forgiven ... is, when I was searching for him, the only photo I had to distribute and post was one where he most definitely look like a Nerd, passing it around on the streets brought on much comedy, I think now one of the reasons he finally got in contact with me was to save his reputation ha ha ha.
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Sheslowlystops,
Posts like yours are not helpful. You have no idea all that Robert has done here. You are a new member so please keep your posts to what you know. Robert has done more for people here than you will ever possibly know. And while he may have done it willingly, many of us put real pressure on him to be the savior on here and his kind and caring nature almost made him a prisoner. I feel terrible that he didn't feel like he got the support he needed so I, for one, will give it to him now when he needs it the most. You don't know him or know how tough this must be for him. He gives so selflessly of himself that for him to pull back and be a little "selfish" with his time has to be really tough for him. It IS fair to imply that other people abused his time. I want you to scroll through and see how many f*cking posts start with "Robert please help" or "this is for Robert". Being the kind of man he is he felt he could not turn his back. There is plenty of information on here about subs that anyone with half a brain could figure out what his taper schedule is but everyone needed to be touched by him. This is the first time I have gotten angry on here so for that I am sorry. But being new, I don't think you really understand what Robert has done here and I found your post inappropriate. He is my friend and I feel terrible that he felt he was not supported here!
Effing-A right, Jenny! Robert has done more than sheslowlystops will ever know. She's got nerve, I'll give you that.

Robert, I jumped off today and feel great. I would not be here, where I am, without your assistance, patience and guidance. As I told you in my first response, lo those many months go, you are a remarkable man and there is a special place upstairs reserved for you. Good for you, Man, start looking out for #1. I wish you nothing but good fortune. Thanks for everything, Pal, I wouldn't be on Day One (and MEAN it) without you God Bless, my friend.

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Robert:

Good for you. It's a wonderful gift you have given and for those that are serious there is plenty of information and other posters here to avail themselves.

Go live your life and be happy. And...God Bless You for all that you have done here!!!

Donna


Thanks Donna .... it still blows me away when I think about all you went through getting clean. I appreciate your kindness and incredible attitude. God bless.
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Effing-A right, Jenny! Robert has done more than sheslowlystops will ever know. She's got nerve, I'll give you that.

Robert, I jumped off today and feel great. I would not be here, where I am, without your assistance, patience and guidance. As I told you in my first response, lo those many months go, you are a remarkable man and there is a special place upstairs reserved for you. Good for you, Man, start looking out for #1. I wish you nothing but good fortune. Thanks for everything, Pal, I wouldn't be on Day One (and MEAN it) without you God Bless, my friend.

Warmest Wishes,
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Thanks Opee. Just don't give in no matter what! You NEVER have to use again. It's an awesome feeling when you really understand and believe that.

And try to ignore any troublemakers. All they can do it bring you down if you allow it. Blow them off! God bless.
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Thanks Opee. Just don't give in no matter what! You NEVER have to use again. It's an awesome feeling when you really understand and believe that.

And try to ignore any troublemakers. All they can do it bring you down if you allow it. Blow them off! God bless.
It IS an awesome feeling, and I DO understand that. Finally. You stuck with me thru relapse after relapse, when you had so many other things going on. You were the first to respond to me and work with me in the beginning and I'll never forget that. Ever. My resolve has never been stronger. It's 4:21pm and I feel fine. I've never felt "fine" this long after my last dose. My LONG term taper plan was unconventional, but effective.

Already dumped a few phone numbers from my cell, I couldn't agree more. This is when you find out who your REAL friends are, not fair-weather friends that disappear when you aren't lining their pockets with cash or paying for their own junk because they got it for you. These things are clear as a bell, now. I am a much different person now than the trainwreck who started all this off with "Hi. My name is Jeff and I'm a hardcore opiate addict." I am now a human being, and not just a miserable junkie. The sense of pride I have been missing for so long has returned.

Thanks again for everything, go enjoy your life, Man, you've earned it.

Your friend for life,
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Old 10-30-2009, 06:27 PM
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Jeff .... After your repeated relapses for whatever reasons, they don't matter, I really believe you this time. I can see an obvious difference in your overall attitude, your entire being this go around.

You've already done the most important part ... you made your mind up to do this with no options for yourself. You can stand on your head for a few days if you have to. Once you're past that initial few days it's a matter then of STAYING clean. Of course that is the most difficult part. Getting clean is one thing, staying that way is something altogether different.

I really suggest that you get involved in some type of personal-improvement, some type of personal support be it NA, AA, church, Celebrate Recovery, a combination or all the above. You're going to have temptations so make your plan for permanent success. Keep posting on the forum for support too. You've made some good friends here.

Thanks for your kind words about helping you. I appreciate them but don't forget that you are the one who finally had to do the work. Give yourself the credit that you're due. Take care buddy! God bless.
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So this has actually been an enjoyable pace the last four days posting. Had about 25 posts over that period where I was doing that almost each day for a long time.

Melinda and I have been out shopping today, bought new bedroom furniture, haven't just sit and stared at the computer around the clock. I can do this and enjoy it. Plus I have a new bed to sleep on tonight before going to church tomorrow. Talk with you guys later.

Happy Halloween! Stick to your recovery plans. We are going to bed. God bless.
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Jeff .... After your repeated relapses for whatever reasons, they don't matter, I really believe you this time. I can see an obvious difference in your overall attitude, your entire being this go around.

You've already done the most important part ... you made your mind up to do this with no options for yourself. You can stand on your head for a few days if you have to. Once you're past that initial few days it's a matter then of STAYING clean. Of course that is the most difficult part. Getting clean is one thing, staying that way is something altogether different.

I really suggest that you get involved in some type of personal-improvement, some type of personal support be it NA, AA, church, Celebrate Recovery, a combination or all the above. You're going to have temptations so make your plan for permanent success. Keep posting on the forum for support too. You've made some good friends here.

Thanks for your kind words about helping you. I appreciate them but don't forget that you are the one who finally had to do the work. Give yourself the credit that you're due. Take care buddy! God bless.
Robert,

You're awesome. Period. Yep, Big difference between getting clean and staying clean. I once read that the past is like a paperback book, good for reading once then throwing away. That's how I feel now about my relapses. Due to the nature of my divorce, any type of Recovery isn't an option. I simply can't take the chance of the ex finding out. THIS is my NA, this site. This forum changed my life. I plan on giving back as much as it gave me. I was once referred to as a mentor here. I like that quite a bit, to be quite honest. I am a termite now. You couldn't burn me out with fire if you tried Keep enjoying life, Pal, I think it suits you!

Thanks, I'll take that credit you referred to, but not all of it. Stay awesome!

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Jeff ..... I'm behind you all the way dude. Anything I can do for you during this time I am here all the way. Hope you know that. I'm not living on the forum these days but I am still checking in. Stay focused and keep me posted. I know you'll pull it off this time. God bless.
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I know I haven't been here long but whenever I have posted a question about my arthritis issues you have always responded with alternative ways I can deal with the pain. There is a hotel here where I live has a pool and a fitness centre open to the residents where I live. I am going to be joining there next month so I can start swimming to strengthen up my back muscles.

I am also going to talk to my doctor about different ways I can treat my pain besides narcotics. I was thinking about trying acupuncture, my wife works at a grocery store and she has awesome benefits through them. My specialist says that her beneifts plan will cover the acupuncture.

As for you not posting here much, you deserve to spend time with your wife to be Melinda as well as doing things for yourself.
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Robert Buddy-
You are my good friend and I will always stay in touch because I have ways (haha). Thank you for everything you and Melinda have done for me. I have not posted in a long time because of all that negative stuff that went on. You got me clean and were there everytime I needed you.I will be down to spend a weekend with you soon!! For the record Robert is not my cult leader (LOL) but a very caring person who doesn't have to do what he does for everyone. This is Robert time now...take care of your beautiful Melinda and do what is good for yourself for a change. I'm looking forward to meeting you guys soon!!
Take Care and God Bless my brother!!
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Craig ..... thanks dude! I appreciate the kind words. And contrary to what some people might think I don't have ANY cult followers. Some people just can't stand it when others succeed so I try to ignore them as best I can. They just want to tear down things out of jealousy or for whatever reason. Just blow them off as hard as that is to do.

Trust me I know how difficult it is to keep my mouth shut sometimes. I've been known to cut loose at times out of frustration. That's one reason I'm taking a break. Today is a posting day, but it's by choice not obligation. That's the way I like it.

I'm glad things have worked out well for you. Just stay focused as you know staying clean is where it's at. It's not as easy as one might think but it can be done.

I'll be in Houston for a couple weeks, leaving Friday. But then I'll be back home with Melinda. So let us know when you will be in the area. Take care buddy. God bless.
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I have been remiss in thanking several of the people who have shown so much consideration to me with their posts on this thread. I just wanted to apologize to anyone I neglected to say "thanks" to and repeat how much I appreciate all the kindness that has been shown by so many people who I've grown to become friends with on the forum.

I still have a few people that I am continuing to work with on a daily basis, even agreed to start with a couple new people. What can I say? I find it difficult to turn my back when someone needs help. Guess that's why I've been here so long. It's not that difficult working with just a few people at a time though vs 30 or more at once.

I will be flying to Houston tomorrow for ten days so I will be in touch with those I'm currently working with but won't be online much other than that. Have some business to take care of there.

Thanks again guys and I will be back in a couple weeks except for those I'm talking to daily already. God bless.
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