It's not a lack of compassion, compassion is a feeding device unfortunately. I've lost one brother to compassion. We kept trying to help him when he didn't really want any help and we kept feeding his addiction until the addiction took his life. My other brother on the other hand genuinely wanted help and we gave him help, and he cleaned up his life, but he didn't really always want help in the beginning, in the beginning we kept feeding his addictions through our compassion and he kept right on with what he was doing.
The only solution with an addict is to take a hardline approach and stop feeding their addiction The lady said she can't keep paying the bills indicating that the husband is either spending all their money on drugs booze, and sex calls or that he isn't working at all and a great burden on her. She needs to look out for herself first with a person like this and needs to take a hardline approach with him that will either work or not, either way he will be out of her life if it doesn't.
A very close friend of mine was a major alcoholic and his wife was fed up with his getting up at the crack of dawn to go to the liquor store and get more booze, drink all day, all night until they don't sell it anymore (2AM law), sleep for 4 hours and start all over again. She tried "helping" him through different therapy programs and while they worked briefly he'd fall back into the same pattern. I advised her that unfortaunately she must take a hardline approach and remove the one thing in his life that he loves more than life itself. That was to remove herself from his life.
She threatened to leave him if he didnt' stop drinking, he swore up and down and promised that he would quit. And he did quit for 3 days then started all over again. I explained that she didn't take a hardline approach at all, she just gave him a warning, now take the hardline approach, pack your bags, grab the kids and go to your mums house. She did. He immediately called her when he was sober enough and swore up and down that he would stay sober but just please come home. She told him that if he stayed sober for 3 months and kept sober after that then she would come home again.
He stayed sober for the 3 months, not a drop (I know because I was the one stopping in each day to see how he was getting along), she came back to him with kids in tow and he's been sober and a solid provider for the family ever since.
Had she just kept feeding his addiction with compassion he would never have gotten sober.
So with the information that she provided I still believe its best to drop him like a hot potato and see if he is going to sober up or not, if he does then maybe they can work out any bad feelings that she may have against him for all that time of smoking away their money, if he continues down the road of drugs going up his nose, then she's better off for having gotten rid of him from her life.
Now as to me... Yes I've read that the
lyrica is often used for fibromyalgia but I wonder what else the lyrica drug is used for. I know that there are a lot of drugs out there that are prescribed for things that they have not been FDA approved for but that work, I wonder if there is another reason besides fibromyalgia that doctors are prescribing Lyrica for.
P.S. Sorry to sound harh, but when you've been dealing with addicts that make all kinds of promises for over 40 years, you start to learn what actually works and what doesnt.