[worriedinDE]

Originally Posted by MaisieC

Worried,

What he did was CRIMINAL, literally. Break it off, change the locks, talk to the police. He doesn't have access to your money anymore, does he? Make sure he doesn't.

Seriously, you should talk to the police. I know most women don't want to press charges, and you don't have to, but you need to tell someone and get some information about what your options are. Don't allow him to keep you isolated and terrified.

I'm sorry he's turned like this. We commonly say, "it's not him, it's the drugs." But drugs don't have a fist. If he smashes your face in, it's him doing it. You need to get away from this man.

Please be safe and let us know how you're doing.

Take good care,
Maisie

He doesnt have a key to the house or my car. I unlinked any of my accounts from our previously shared bills and i plan to forward his mail to his parents. And your right i do not want to press charges and i dont plan to unless its necessary like he shows up here or something. Luckily i live with a room mate and she is very supportive. For the most part we are home at the same times which is nice not so scary and well if i go out after dark i carry pepper spray. Thank you for your support and concern.

[Psyched]

Confused,
Masie is right. This time it was the wall, next time it COULD be your face. I don't want to sound mean, but this guy crossed the line and YOU deserve better. I hope you will seriously think long and hard about letting him and his habit go their merry way. If he wants to self-destruct, by all means go ahead; BUT YOU should not have to be a casualty in the war he's waging on himself. If you allow him him, he will keep these threats coming; they could just be for psychological purposes, but I'd be willing to bet this loser will eventually take it to the physical level and I don't want to read about you getting hurt. Please take care and don't hesitate to involve the law if it becomes necessary for your own safety. God bless.

[dalejrfan71]

worriedinDE,

This guy sounds like an a$$hole and he needs a major "tuning up" for what he did to you. If this guy tried this in public and I saw him do it, I would not have any problems walking up to him, spinning him around and punching him between the eyes. I would also suggest taking a restraining order out against him.

Does him family know what he's up to or what drugs he is doing? I would also suggest telling his family about his addictions. Keep an eye on your car because he might try to vandalize your car somehow to get even.

[anotheraddict]

I just want to agree with the others. This guy is most definitely not worth your time or energy. Get out while you can. Don't let him sweet talk you and convince you it was an accident or anything else of that nature. If it happens once, it will happen again. Take care of yourself, and remember that he's not worth you risking your life over. That's what you are doing if you get back with him in any way at any time.

Jean

[Lost83]

Worried,

WTF! I am so sorry, he has taken this to a whole new level. There is no excuse what so ever for him to lay his hands on you EVER. As a wise man once told me, (well many times) past behavior is the best predictor for future behavior. Please don't put yourself in harms way. Let him go and be free to take care of this addiction himself since obviously, he wants no help from you, I think his actions prove that loud and clear. Focus on yourself, you are young and there are plenty of fish in the sea that are looking for someone to have fun with not abuse and put through hell. I hope your life takes a turn for the better and soon, that is something you do have control over. Be strong, I know it's hard.

[Psyched]

Well said Lost. Human behavior is often predictable and, as you so eloquently put it, past behavior directly relates to future behavior. I am a little worried about our friend though as she han't posted since she first told us all about this moron going on his rampage. I hope she is well.