Help, i don't know what to do no more....

[mpet75]

I've been with this guy for 2 years, he was amazing, romantic, left everything for me, moved from cities to be close, got a good job, was saving all his money and living by himself at a nice place. He is 19 yrs old... and we was about to start college he started feeling very lonely and according to him trying to make friends he started smoking pot.
Ever since he met these guyfriends, his life turned into a mess. He started binging on pot, he would smoke till he'd eat the whole kitchen, vomit or past out. He'd spend on pot $100 in one night and binge smoke with his 3 friends all night long...
I couldn't believe it.. I still can't... who smokes so much pot? why? i mean, can u get higher than when ua re already high? why is he into such destructive behavior? he wasted all his savings into this... his place is a mess, he is about to get kick out of school, he has gained like 40 pounds in 4 months, he is careless, he doesn't shower no more, he is heartless, insensible and seems to enjoy how miserable I feel sicne he is doing this.
He doesn't like to hang out with me no more, he only calls me a few times a day and always hang up right away, he never listens when i try to talk to him. He ignores my emails or messages. And I feel so sad, abandoned, I don't have peace no more... if I don't answer his calls for days I feel guilty for turning my back on him, if I do answer his calls it hurts me so much to hear in his voice how heartless and careless he is....
I obsess trying to figure out where he is, what is he doing, with who is he hanging out, and if I know again it hurts me deep inside, and if I don't know anything i also suffer a lot.
It's been about 4 months we don't have a normal conversation, he acts so immature, all he says is chill, stop tripping, gotta go....
I'm angry at myself because I don't know how to end this... I called his family, so they could help him cus I couldn't deal with it no more...and yesterday his mom called me and told me he was doing spices and pot and who knows what else...

How do I come at peace with my decision of letting this go? how do i stop hoping that he wil be again the guy he was 5 months ago.... Please those who have been in my place, tell me what kind of thoughts helped u....

I take everything he does so personal...I feel so useless.... impotent... unwanted... rejected... this is really killing me...

[yezdegerd]

I've been with this guy for 2 years, he was amazing, romantic, left everything for me, moved from cities to be close, got a good job, was saving all his money and living by himself at a nice place. He is 19 yrs old... and we was about to start college he started feeling very lonely and according to him trying to make friends he started smoking pot.
Ever since he met these guyfriends, his life turned into a mess. He started binging on pot, he would smoke till he'd eat the whole kitchen, vomit or past out. He'd spend on pot $100 in one night and binge smoke with his 3 friends all night long...
I couldn't believe it.. I still can't... who smokes so much pot? why? i mean, can u get higher than when ua re already high? why is he into such destructive behavior? he wasted all his savings into this... his place is a mess, he is about to get kick out of school, he has gained like 40 pounds in 4 months, he is careless, he doesn't shower no more, he is heartless, insensible and seems to enjoy how miserable I feel sicne he is doing this.
He doesn't like to hang out with me no more, he only calls me a few times a day and always hang up right away, he never listens when i try to talk to him. He ignores my emails or messages. And I feel so sad, abandoned, I don't have peace no more... if I don't answer his calls for days I feel guilty for turning my back on him, if I do answer his calls it hurts me so much to hear in his voice how heartless and careless he is....
I obsess trying to figure out where he is, what is he doing, with who is he hanging out, and if I know again it hurts me deep inside, and if I don't know anything i also suffer a lot.
It's been about 4 months we don't have a normal conversation, he acts so immature, all he says is chill, stop tripping, gotta go....
I'm angry at myself because I don't know how to end this... I called his family, so they could help him cus I couldn't deal with it no more...and yesterday his mom called me and told me he was doing spices and pot and who knows what else...

How do I come at peace with my decision of letting this go? how do i stop hoping that he wil be again the guy he was 5 months ago.... Please those who have been in my place, tell me what kind of thoughts helped u....

I take everything he does so personal...I feel so useless.... impotent... unwanted... rejected... this is really killing me...

Ouch, make sure he doesn't start on any other drugs. With addict tendencies thankfully he's only doing the easiest drug to come off of. Tell him how you feel and if you're really that depressed give him an option and stick with it. No reason to spend everyday miserable if his life is straying apart from yours. It sounded like he started off very devoted to you, maybe he just needs a reminder