[no_more_tram]

I think we all need to focus on more positive reinforcement around here. It seems that some people have to put in their 2 cents even if it hurts that person. Most of us are either clean, or trying our best to get there, and we should all know that the last thing anyone needs during this process is name calling, and negative remarks. So let's let this thread be our POSITIVE one. If you can't be nice, move on to the next post! It truly helps when we all show support for one another, and to some THIS very site is their only place to recieve any. Whether you want to give congrats to a certain someone for making it so many days clean, or just say something to make our day a little brighter

To all of you that are Clean: Congratulations to you

For those on their way to becoming Sober: Good Luck, and Stay Positve

[Robert_325]

Not everyone is negative here. I do agree though that some people need to lighten up a little at least.

We do need to face the reality we find ourselves in but I do agree it should be done as tactfully as possible. We can't always pat people on the back however and say that all is well and make things out to be rosey when it isn't. Getting clean can be very difficult and serious at times. Honesty is imperative to our recovery.

Try to understand that if I am a little harsh at times it definitely isn't meant to be hurtful. I only try to do the best I can to make people understand the severity of the situation they may have found themselves in. Hope that helps and makes sense. God bless.

[Debpurpletiger]

This needed to be said, and you said it perfectly.

[no_more_tram]

Originally Posted by Debpurpletiger

This needed to be said, and you said it perfectly.

Thanks so much

[no_more_tram]

With all these views someone else has surely got something to say!!

[John Weelsen]

Originally Posted by no_more_tram

I think we all need to focus on more positive reinforcement around here. It seems that some people have to put in their 2 cents even if it hurts that person. Most of us are either clean, or trying our best to get there, and we should all know that the last thing anyone needs during this process is name calling, and negative remarks. So let's let this thread be our POSITIVE one. If you can't be nice, move on to the next post! It truly helps when we all show support for one another, and to some THIS very site is their only place to recieve any. Whether you want to give congrats to a certain someone for making it so many days clean, or just say something to make our day a little brighter

To all of you that are Clean: Congratulations to you

For those on their way to becoming Sober: Good Luck, and Stay Positve

Yes! After your post i am feeling myself much better
All people was happy after your positive post. joke

One positive news more :
FDA wants to Forbid Sandwiches in US!
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/in...1100847AAxSuMk

[MaisieC]

no_more_tram,

I know a couple of people here were really unnecessarily harsh with you, and that was hurtful. I hope you saw that a few of us told them to knock it off. No one wants to see that kind of insensitivity around here.

I think that people in general are VERY supportive and positive on this site. But I agree with Robert that sometimes you have to level with other people. I don't know if you were reading the forum a few weeks ago when there was all that upheaval, but those of us who were are very tired from it. There was some nastiness. Also, to go along with it, there was a flood of "supportive" posts...a total love-fest of people telling each other they were doing great. Trouble is they weren't doing great. Not everyone is doing great. It's not helpful to tell people they're doing great when they're still using and they're not getting clean. Then it just becomes a bunch of addicts hanging out making excuses for each other. I'm NOT saying that's your situation at all...I'm just saying that's where this site has been, and it left a bad taste in my mouth.

Everyone needs support and encouragement, and I think the people on this site are really good at providing that. But I don't want to see this site turn into nothing but cheerleading, because then no one learns anything. Sometimes the thing that makes the difference for an addict is getting the right piece of information at the right time. When we're using, we're not thinking clearly, and we have to rely on others to help us and sometimes point things out that we can't see ourselves. It's often the way to get to the next level. And you can't STAY clean on cheerleading alone; what keeps you clean is really serious self-knowledge and knowledge about the disease of addiction. You've struggled yourself with starting and stopping--everyone does when they're getting clean--and it usually takes more than positive reinforcement to get to the point where a person is really ready to make the change.

Anyhow, I wasn't going to reply at all, but you asked for more responses. I'm sorry those people were rude to you. But there are LOTS more nice people here than mean people!

[no_more_tram]

The reason I wrote this thread wasn't just based on a few negative remarks towards myself, but I basically wanted a Positive thread to encourage and congratulate others for their success. Of course not everything is rosy, but for those that are trying their best to get clean, or who have years of sobriety should be rewarded with support.

The truth is important and very much needed when dealing with addiction, and I have always appreciated when someone is straight forward with me, or tells me how it is. I find that enpowering.

There are definitely LOTS of people on here that are excellent supporters and care about us. Just to name a few(and these are ones I came across and have gotten support from) Robert, Melinda, Intel, Maisie, Ruth, Heather, Debpurpletiger, and sorry if I have left out any others. That's JUST to name a FEW.

Let's keep this thread going, so that others who are struggling, have something to look at when they are going through rough times. From personal experience reading these types of threads are insipiring. So let's keep it up

[melinda7.5]

Hi nomoretram
I love these positive threads, I'm sorry someone was giving you a hard time I have been busy the last couple days and I think I missed it...but just pay no mind to them, they just don't get it...we can keep this thread positive...
how is your tapering going...bring me up to date...
and P.S. Robert made me shrimp and pasta for dinner...oh man that man can cook...
have a good night, Melinda

[no_more_tram]

Originally Posted by melinda7.5

Hi nomoretram
I love these positive threads, I'm sorry someone was giving you a hard time I have been busy the last couple days and I think I missed it...but just pay no mind to them, they just don't get it...we can keep this thread positive...
how is your tapering going...bring me up to date...
and P.S. Robert made me shrimp and pasta for dinner...oh man that man can cook...
have a good night, Melinda

Hi Melinda...I'm NOt tapering I had to jump off of 8mg Suboxone, cause I wasn't able to get a refill and at that time I found out that I couldn't get the refill I only had 2 2mg left, so I had to take the pludge. I am taking it day by day and It wasn't as rough this time jumping off the subs as I had before, luckily this second time of taking the subs I was only on for 18 days. First time was almost 4 months so that was MUCH harder, I was so sick that I needed help taking care of my kids. BTW how is Robert doing, I saw a thread about the car crash, hope everything's ok, sorry to hear about your car. Seems something ALWAYS has to go wrong at some point in time. Thanks fo asking how I'm doing. Take care.

[no_more_tram]

So many views, yet so little replies. C'mon people let's keep this thread going. It really helps to be positive, and give one another encouragement. Everyone needs some. Hope everyone had a good weekend!!