Hi Alicia,
Sorry about your condition, and even more sorry about your daughter's.
Do a lot of research about the drug before you talk to her, especially the possible side effects, and even more so, the side effects when combined with alcohol. Then either ask her a lot of questions and don't believe a word she says, or don't ask questions because it serves no purpose in that what would you do with information that is inaccurate anyway. We raised a boy and a girl, and learned early on that if their lips were moving they were lying! Many thoughts were just suspicions, but our now 30 year old, college double degreed, daughter has "come clean". Actually has let me know how high school was just a primer for the way she drugged and drank her way through college. And how much she regrets doing so and blowing her chances for ivy league grad school. Pretty perspicacious revelation for a 30 year old.
When they were younger, and I heard the parents of their peers comment "Not my Johnny", "Not my Mary", I could only feel a great deal of empathy. We NEVER made those type of statements, and we had good kids.
And by the way, if you are her Best Friend, first your not, and secondly your not supposed to be. You're her parent!
Good luck, you've got your hands full. |