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Originally Posted by CharlotteRose  I really need some advice.. My dad overdosed saturday and was not breathing when he was found.. luckly he was able to be revived. My problem is that ever since I was a little girl he has had this problem with his perscription pain meds.. But this is the first time he has ever overdosed... I was able to get him to admit that he finally had a problem and he's currently in rehab. I think he's really mad at me. I am really starting to blame myself.. I never go and see him just because i know that he will be all messed up on his pills and he always is telling me how much he misses me.. I don't think his overdose was an accident.. Right now I'm just really confused and angry and sad... Can anybody give me any advise, maybe even from his point of view? |
This is so typical of a drug addict's behavior. Realize it is not your dad really talking to you right now it is the drugs. You have done nothing wrong. Your dad's point of view is twisted by the addiction. So you can only pay so much attention to him now. He needs help and you are there helping him.
Addicts menipulate you and twist things and people around their little finger. He, as an addict, knows you are the weakest person and his best shot for sympathy because you love him and are still trying to help. That is why he is playing your emotions. The best thing you could have done for him was to get him into treatment. He probably is mad at you. Who cares? You are there trying to help him when he can't help himself. That is great!
When he gets out of rehab pay attention to him. Don't baby him but give him a chance if he wants to try to get better. If he is not trying then blow him off. This the most important time for him. You have helped him take that first step. Now he has to participate and do his part. If he does not participate in his own recovery then there is nothing you can do to help him. Be there for him but don't let him take advantage of you or make you think any of this is your fault. That really bothers me. It is not your fault in any way. Don't forget that.
I am not being judgemental of your dad either. Don't mean to sound that way. I do have sympathy for him too. But I have no smpathy for the drugs. I have been there where he is as have so many others on this forum. I am still there ... just getting better now. I have played my family too just like he is. Don't pay attention to that. He can get better too. I hope you don't blame yourself for anything and your dad realizes how lucky he is.