When taking oxybutynin 5 mg can it cause dryness in ur private for a woman ?

Feeling dryness in most parts of your body is a common side effect of oxybutynin so it's probably the cause of your symptoms as well.

The other known side effects of oxybutynin is stated below:

Check with your doctor if any of these most COMMON side effects persist or become bothersome when using Oxybutynin:

Blurred vision; constipation; diarrhea; dizziness; drowsiness; dry eyes, nose, skin, or mouth; headache; indigestion; nausea; stomach pain; taste changes; trouble sleeping.

Seek medical attention right away if any of these SEVERE side effects occur when using Oxybutynin:

Severe allergic reactions (rash; hives; itching; difficulty breathing; tightness in the chest; swelling of the mouth, face, lips, or tongue); confusion; difficult or painful urination; fast or irregular heartbeat; fever; hallucinations; mental or mood changes (eg, agitation); seizures; swelling of the hands, ankles, or feet; vision problems.

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