Should I leave my husband because of his drug addiction?

19 Jan 2012

Hello, can you convince him enter rehab? Perhaps stage an intervention?
I can only tell what I would in your position, I believe if you have made it clear to him what his doing is harming you and your children and if he does'nt enter recovery immediatly you need to leave. I would'nt entertain any thoughts of a reunion until he is a rehab facility or taking the steps. God Bless you and your family. -K

19 Jan 2012

Tough love give him a choice get better or get out his family should come first. He will come back if he leaves

19 Jan 2012

Drug addiction becomes a family disease. It affects everyone involved. While you can't force your husband into recovery unless he wants it, you can tell him the alternatives, but be prepared to follow through. Idle threats will only make the problem worse. I recommend you seek some help from an organization like Narcotics Anonymous. They have a sister group called Nar Anon which is for loved ones of the addicted. You can google Nar anon and find meetings near your location. Once you have a support system you'll be able to make wiser decisions as to what you should do. Remember you and those children come first. God bless you and I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.

Laurie

19 Jan 2012

19 Jan 2012

Run, don't walk to your nearest center for women, and they will help you get you of (and fully understand the implications of) this mess. I have seen this up close and personal as my sister raised her four boys and her husband used all their money (even stealing from the children) for 18 years to support his cocaine habit. She lost everything because she "couldn't be mean to him" and "cause it wasn't his fault". They lost 4 businesses, their house, cars, insurance, trust of friends and neighbors, herself respect. I know I am taking the hardline here, but you are still young, as are your kids. You deserve better, your kids deserve better! How long has he been an addict, did he hide it before your marriage? Has he made ay attempt to get clean and take responsiblity for his family? if he won't seriously try, save yourself a world of hurt and get out of this situation now! My God Bless and keep you and your little ones, Harmony

22 Jan 2012

Hi mm,

It's time to put you and your kids first. You are the mother of these children and they count on you to provide a safe and comfortable home. It's time for you to take a stand and tell him to get help or you are ending your relationship. Take a stand your family depends on you and this decision. You yourself get help for support through all this. Of course people here will be a strong support for you. But you need a place for yourself and your kids that feel safe too. Take care and keep us posted o.k. if you want.

22 Mar 2012

I have been in a 2o year realationship with my husband and have been waiting for him to change and stop using drugs and he is still using i wish i would have gottin out years ago we have 3 grown kids now and i feel like i should have left him when there were small and not put them through hell we have gone to NA I have threatened to leave take the kids i have thrown him out i have cheated i have tried everything to change him and it dont work what i have learned you can not change a person and drugs are way more powerfull than we are he has to want to stop using you or the kids can not make him stop i have been through hell because i choose to stay married i have wanted out for years but hung in there hoping he will stop and he does for a while but always returnes to lying and not coming home spending money we dont have making me provide what he should be doing you and your kids deserve better than that we dont want our children to grow up to be addicts or attract addicts try to offer him help and if he wants it than support him in every way and if he dont want help get out