I need guidance in what steps to take for this pill addiction my boyfriend has we have been together for 2 yrs now and We have a son who is 3 months old and i have a 5yr old... ever since we have been together he has had this issue in his life with pills never lies to me that im aware of he says where he is goin and what he is buyin doesnt hide it in the house but I HATE THIS ADDICTION!!! I love him and cant take it draining our bank account basically, I get no help with bills hardly and feel as if Im doin this all on my own... He says that he is taking the meds for his back but doesnt save his money to see a doctor or get xrays or anything when we first got involved that is what he told me he needed to save his money so he can go to a doctor but two years later nothing!!! I have never had to deal with an addiction in my life and hate that the person I love more than anything has this problem... Percocets and Loracets Roxies (sometimes) are his choice of pills sometime methadone and suboxene... I think i spelled all these correctly! Please give me ur advice and be honest that is what I need Thanks!
16 Nov 2011
First of all... I feel REALLY EXTREMELY bad for you!!! I'm a struggling drug addict myself & my preference is pills as well. I've been addicted to Methadone for a little over 7 years now & done pretty much all there is pill wise in the past & now I'm prescribed Ritalin,Cymbalta,Klonopin for my depression,anxiety & ADD that my addiction has caused because of the CONSTANT GUILT,etc over the years,as well as (need I even mention... the amount of money spent!!). I've been with the man of my dreams now for about 3 & a half years & he doesnt do ANYTHNG AT ALL & didnt understand my addiction(& still doesnt completely,but tries to help me & support me the best way he knows how),but its a horrible disease that most people dont undrstand just cause they havent been around it/known anyone that is an addict.
The best advice I can give you is to just hang in there & try talking him into going to a dr(if he says its the back pain) or try & ask him questions on it:like what all he's taking,how often,& try to let him know that you're concerned & love him deeply & that you dont want anythng to happen to him & that there are doctors & places out there that he can go to. I know the financial struggle is VERY DIFFICULT,cause I'm the reason for our money struggles & we dont even have children(yet anyway). But my best advice to you is to just try talkin to him & let him know that you do care about his life/lifestyle & the well being of your family needs to come 1st & MORE IMPORTANTLY,please try not to fight with him(just talk)because he does indeed have a very serious disease that so many people dont survive. My words to YOU... if you EVER want to talk/vent/need advice,etc,I'll be here for u & you & your family will be in my prayers!!! Hang in there girl & private message me anytime!!! -kat1313
16 Nov 2011
Dear wainright27... I know this is a tough situation for u and I am so sorry u r experiencing this situation. Have u tried to talk to him about this?? His problem is a disease but he has to first admit he has a problem before anything else.
If u r able to talk to him I would do this first. Also if u can get some counseling help yourself to help u figure this situation out. Another suggestion would be to attend an alanon meeting. There r people there who can also help.
It is imperative that your kids not b exposed to this. It is dangerous and unhealthy for them. I wish there were something more I could do or say. Your boyfriend definitely has a problem that is unacceptable for your life especially with your kids. Approach him lovingly and tell him u would like to be able to help him get some help. He also needs to understand that he is robbing you and your children of money and of support.
I will keep u n my thoughts and prayers.
17 Nov 2011
I'm sad to hear your stress and the sitaution you are in!!
I agree with kat and pup,they gave you great advice and i will say no matter what YOU do or how you feel,your boyfriend has to admit he needs help and he needs to WANT it,because until that time,there is nothing you can do!!
You have yourself and your kids to think of and its a very tough place to be right now,but yes talking things out with him will have to be done(although i'm sure you've tried this already)
Your boyfriend needs to see how much damage this is doing to you and your kids and finacially.
I am a recovering addict so i do know that unless you want to get clean,wheather its pills,street drugs etc,the person themselves need to want out of that circle of life before any good can come out of it!!
You can be there to support him,but you also need to be strong yourself for your kids sake!! If he's leaving you short of money now,it will just get worse,i dont mean to sound rude,harsh or forward,addiction is a disease and its something some of us gets sucked into,but it also tears families apart and crushes loved ones to pieces!!
You need to have a really good talk with him and let him know he needs to clean up his act in order for you both to have a proper life with your kids!!
Here for you anytime you want to talk privately,i was the addict but i also know the life i gave my loved ones while using,so i know now how you feel!!
Please take good care of yourself! He is very lucky to have such a wonderful girlfriend and i hope he realises it and gets the help he needs before dragging you down with him!!If he is in genuine pain then he needs this addressed properly by a professional!
Good luck my dear and take care
18 Nov 2011
I just wanted to say that in addition to your post I read, I also just read your bio on your profile page and you have to email me. I added you as a friend, and all I can say is we have an amazing amount in common, no joke. As far as your question above, I have been on methadone for over 20 years orig for addiction to pain killers, but 2 years ago I was in a motorcycle accident in which my rt arm was torn half way off at the shoulder, crushed all bones throughout arm and elbow, and broke many ribs and punc lung, etc... Because I was on methadone that had to be my main source of pain control, although they added morphine drip, dilaudid, oxys, etc, but nothing worked but the methadone. yes, they had to jack me up to 360 mg's, but it did the trick. i am still on it and it totally keeps my opiate addiction under control. No desire to use it, won't work anyway! It saved my life when I started it and still recommend it.
If someone has chronic long term pain, with the ease and ability to abuse narcs, I think methadone is the best. Never tried suboxone and am scared won't work as well, so I'm sticking with it.
3 Dec 2011
Hey wainright27 what I have to say is harsh but needed for you both. I was addicted to pills and smoked pot when I met my soon to be ex wife in 2001. She was the one and I new it at first sight. We had both just graduated high school and starting college. I stopped smokin but the pills where my secret until Jan 03 when I chose to go to the marine corps in order to stop and then we would get married in six months. A couple years went by while I took pills I got from the navy docs. My wife left to go to a funeral back home. I was eating pills all day everyday when fate brought her home as I ran out. No hiding it. All these years she new and sat idle. I said I chose her but that didn't even start to happen. In the happiness of this false hope she got pregnant. My daughter was born and I had been on a five day adderall binge. I had a wreck driving home for a nap. The next two years brought a separation and got out of marines.
I convoked her I had stopped again and she got pregnant again. She put up with the pills and alcohol very well. I lost our house and we had to file bankruptcy. We made it another year before I got drunk and screwed unlike I always did. This time I said I was leaving like a idiot. She said divorce 7 months ago and I had no job no car no wife or kids and to top it off she is now happy with another man who sees my kids more than I do. The divorce isn't even final. It took until seven months ago for me to see what I had for almost ten years. The kids that made her stay now are the reason I go threw he'll seeing them together. If he can't stop today then you should get ready for a ride.
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