... shopping. He was perscribed massive amounts of Oxicotin and xanax among other meds. How can these pain management doctors get away with this. What can be done about this problem. I am so angry I don't know where to turn. Please help me if you can. Thanks!
1 Nov 2011
wow I am so sorry you lost your son. My deepest condolences to you and your family. I don't understand in this day and age how your son got away with Dr. shopping for pills. Everything is in computers now and all the pharmacies are connected so that this shouldn't happen. What state are you in??? I would go after the Dr.s if you find it is their faults and were perscribing to much to him. But if he was going to multiple Dr.s and talking them into stuff I really don't think there is much you can do but post all you can everywhere ,and tell your story and maybe it will stop another tragedy like what has happened to you. It is very sad to see anyone pass on from drugs. I will friend you and any time you need to talk privately you can Leron
1 Nov 2011
Oh Sherwhee I am SO sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine the pain of losing a child. I do know that the DEA is cracking down on these pain management clinics that are basically just pill mills. I'm sure that's not much of a comfort to you. They are really cracking down in the state where I live. I'm not sure what you can do but I am sure there are others that will respond to your post that can be of more help. I just wanted to offer my condolences and any comfort and support to you during this difficult time. I'm glad that you are reaching out and I hope you find the answers you are looking for. Sorry I couldn't be more help. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
1 Nov 2011
Oh Sweety... im so sorry about ur son..i wish i had magic words that would help u but nothing said will help..i know ur angry me too... but just for now..morn pray find his baby pictures wrap urself in one of his favorite shirts and remember him... deal with ur loss for now..in time im sure u will get done what needs to be done..God bless u and praying for u..sincerely Crazed50
1 Nov 2011
My dear dear woman, sherwhee... wow... I am so so very very sorry to hear of the loss of your son. I cannot even begin to imagine the pain in which you are enduring. Your son's spirit is now free of whatever dark forces were causing him to take all of those drugs prescribed to him. Yes, pill mills are the culprit as far as the ease of access to the drugs. I do not know in what state you are located, but all sates, with the exception of 13 of them have Prescription Drug Monitoring Plans (PDMPs). This private non-government program monitors controlled substances, i.e., strong prescriptions from the time they r dispensed, who dispenses them, what doc writes the script, etc. These programs will strongly curtail doctor shopping. So, Sher... I do not know if u are n one of those 13 states who do not have one of those programs??? Even in states where there ARE the PDMPs there are still those who slip thru the cracks... IF your son was getting some of his drugs off the streets...
who knows what he was really getting.
I KNOW that none of the above will bring your son back and it is doubtful at this point if it even registered with you... sorry I digressed.
Time is the great healer in grieving over a loss. I hope that you have gotten connected with some type of support group where you and perhaps others who KNOW what you are truly going through... kindred spirits... of sorts may be able to comfort one another.
I wish there were something I could do or say to help ease your pain. Try to remember your son's sweet spirit before being kidnapped by these very evil drugs. Your pain will ease over time. Perhaps, as someone here suggested, you could possibly get involved with your state's legislators to develop a PDMP, if not already established. Please come back here anytime, ANYTIME that you need comfort and support. Someone will always be here.
Again, sherwhee, please accept my deepest condolences in the loss of your son. I will most certainly keep you and your family in my prayers so that you may find some type of comfort in this most difficult time.
May God Bless you and keep you...
1 Nov 2011
I have no idea what to advise you to do,but you got some great advice from the other guys here already.
I just wanted to say how sorry i am for you losing your son,i cant imagine what you and his dad must be going through,my deepest sympathies to you and your family!
1 Nov 2011
There are simply no words to address this sadness and such a terrible end to your loved one, and too short of a life. We are never supposed to outlive our children, and when things happen out of balance like this, it is just ... wrong.
It just isn't supposed to be that way.
I truly am SO very sorry for you and your husband. Please know there are many people here that you may talk to and with. We truly do care here and have great compassion and big shoulders to lean on!
Please post, post post... as this may help you. And WE will help any way that we can!
God bless you and your family, Sherwhee,
1 Nov 2011
Sherwhee, the place to start is to contact your state's Board of Medical Examiners and file a complaint against the Dr who was prescribing 480 80mg OxyContins. If one Dr was giving this many pills per month then that is irresponsible prescribing. If he was getting this amount from duping several different Drs, then there is not much you can do. A Dr has to trust that his patient is being honest with him too. If the patient is lying to multiple Drs to obtain meds then it is more a fault with the patient. The Drs were only trying to help him although there could have been some checks and balances that perhaps should have been caught. If they had tested for the presence of drugs and he was getting the same drugs from multiple sources it wouldnt show, if the were testing for presence only. Had they tested drug levels then they may have found that his levels were too high and questioned that.
It is terrible that a man so young died this way and my heart and prayers go out to you and your family. I would start by contacting BoMEX (Board of Medical Examiners) to find out if his pain Dr was truly prescribing him those quantities and have him investigated.
1 Nov 2011
I am so so sorry for your loss. I don't even know what to say other than my prayers will be with you. You're absolutely correct in that something needs to be done in regards to the problem that this country is facing. I am so sorry that your son fell victim to this epidemic. I know that the government is in the works of trying to correct this problem as the original solution proposed wasn't seen as a measure substantial enough to address this problem, and it really wasn't. It however has now has been months since that had been announced, and is a total tragedy that due to government and it's snail like speedy movements weren't able to move quickly enough. The fact that information regarding scheduled drugs are not linked up properly across state boarders has made obtaining multiple prescriptions way way too easy.
It is totally unacceptable and is an example of government not doing its job, especially when there are so many lives that have already been taken, an epidemic that is now several years old. Once again, I'm so sorry for your loss,
1 Nov 2011
Hello sherwee. All I have are words, no advice or suggestions. I live in Ontario, Canada & our healthcare system is different & so much easier here.
I wish to offer my deepest & sincere regrets to you & your family, sherwee. The loss of your son must be overwhelming right now. We always seem to have questions & doubts when tragedies, such as this, happen.
Your son is in a better place now, free of pain or torment. He loved you but just wasn't strong enough to win his battles against his demons. He is at peace now.
With deepest sympathy from Wendy
God Bless you.
2 Nov 2011
Hi J.K and i am soooo sorry about your son, oh dear God i am so sorry!! Please feel free to ask for any help or if you need anything, i lost my best friend to a oxcy over dose 1 yr ago. I will pray for you and family my friend hearing this brings tears to my eyes as i write this msg a mom shoul never have to barrie there son! I lost my lil brother a few yrs back and my mother has never been the same! not trying to make you more upset or down but i kinda know where your comming from.. I am so sorry and this should never have happend.. much love and prayers!! God Bless Hun.. Mickey from chicago..
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