Im a 23 yr old mom to a 4 yr old,and a wife as well. Ever since I can remember I find myself stressing over nearly everything. I over analyze situations too. Now im stressing trying to decide if I want to take medicine for it. I dont want it to make me a different person in a negative way. Ive read and heard about people becomming almost "numb" and completely different once prescribed meds for being depressed (which I dont have depressed feelings) having anxiety. Please help! :(
13 Jul 2012
Being a mother is stressful... Being young and a wife and mother is stressful... Life is stressfull... I am a mother of 3, a young mother at that, and that in itself can be overwhelming... As a mother and a wife you're likely always going to over analyze situations... I would also suggest talking it over with a healthcare provider..but I would do a lot of research and try other approaches before giving in and taking medication. As of right now maybe it isn't as bad as you think it is and could possibly be something that could be adjusted with routines (very specific times that you do everything each day) as well as diet (not going on a diet) but cutting down on things like caffine that can make you anxious... As well as excersize... I know a lot of people say diet and excersize will make everything better... But seriously... It works... It is an AMAZING stress reliever... The more you do it the better you will feel..
And in my opinion it will be much better than any medication... Especially when considering medications that you can become dependent on... From personal experience you Really don't want to do that. I hope I could be of some help..I just started this forum stuff and happened upon your question... Seriously consider other stress relieving options before caving to the medicine...
13 Jul 2012
Unfortunately life is stressful. Talking about it with a friend or therapist, and trying to get your mind off of whatever is stressing you at the time, really helps. We can't all take meds, but if it gets to the point you can't function, then it needs to be considered. I've found in life, there are only a few things worth stressing over and the rest has to be forgotten.
13 Jul 2012
My suggestion is that you try something like biofeedback. You can Google this & learn all you need to learn. Taking meds at this point in your life is only going to lead to taking more & more until you get to the point that you will become dependant on them. I had 3 childen in 3 years , & was also very ill at the time. It was a very hard time in my life, but you only have one child who soon will be starting school. Get a job even if only parttime for the time being. It sounds like you really need something different, & new in your life. A parttime job until your child starts school is a perfect solution. It will give you outside interests & also keep you busy. Just my thoughts...
13 Jul 2012
Hello meagnash. In answer to your question it truly depends on you. If you believe you need a drug/medication to help you to feel better, yes. The anxiety medications are far more advanced today than some 30 years ago in regards to side effects. People can become "numb" and indifferent but that almost always is associated with a diagnosis for example psychosis, and as well as the dose, amount of a drug that is being taken. Most people live active, fruitfull lives on thier particular medication(s) that they take for thier condition. Best of wishes, pledge
13 Jul 2012
Hello. Pledge is very right. If you think you need the med, go see an expert and find out. Being a good parent requires good decisions. I believe you have made it by asking. Overload of anxiety can make you numb as well. It isn't always some med that does this. For the benefit of your family, please see a therapist and get evaluated. Knowledge is powerful and reduces anxiety. Not knowing makes us feel out of control and filled with swirling thoughts. If it were a toothache you would get it fixed, right? Being a good mom requires you to be present and happy. Wishing you a healthy choice to get some help. After all, it isn't your fault you are anxious, it is just your way of the body reacting. Isn't it great there are solutions?
14 Jul 2012
Hello and welcome to the group. I know what you mean about analyzing things... I do the same thing. I've been on anxiety medication ever since 1999, when I started on Xanax (alprazolam). I was started on .25 mg at the time I had to cut it in half because it made me sleepy that was my only complaint. I took the meds whenever I was having a panic attack. I'm currently taking Ativan 0.5 mg, take twice a day daily.
I went to counseling it helped me with stress and anxiety. You can benefit it, in my opinion. I have found distration work very helpful I use it for the anxiety and chronic pain. When I say distraction I mean, is the divided attention of an individual or group from the chosen object of attention onto the source of distraction. Distraction is caused by: the lack of ability to pay attention; lack of interest in the object of attention; or the great intensity, novelty or attractiveness of something other than the object of attention.
Tune in a TV show/movie, do some reading or writing, talking--- this helps with the tension. I suffer from migraine headaches, sciatica, fibromyalgia. and among other medical condition. I know this all seems, "Easier said than done." I would state with the deep breathing--- take a deep breath then breath normal, do this several times during the day. I'm on Ativan, Lamictal and Risperdal for the anxiety and depression, bipolar disorder type II. I find the medication and counseling work for me.
I hope this helps.
14 Jul 2012
Well life is stressful alone without beeing a mom. You know how you are and what you can handle. If you are feeling too overwhelmed you can take it at a low dose to see how you feel. Not all meds are the same so maybe you will like some over others. Sometimes you might need for awhile until you feel like you can handle your life again. Or maybe you need it all the time to release some of your daily stress. Only you know for sure.
Good luck and take care.
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