4 Jan 2010
I was diagnosed about 5 years ago. I had great support from my medical Dr. and my psychiatrist. I had been with them over ten years. I went into a psych hosp after an attempted suicide. However, my family was less receptive. They thought I used the disease as a ruse for my odd behavior at times. Finding the right medication is a real challenge too. Bi-polar is very difficult to treat because of the constant changes in the chemicals in my brain. I reacted well to my diagnosis because it is such a relief to finally put a name on the strange behavior that had constantly disrupted my life. I only cried once when I learned that I had the second most serious mental illness there is next to schitzofrenia and second most likely to carry out a suicide. However, I also learned that I can work with my Dr. to keep the right balance of medications and learned how to be aware that the impulses I would get could be managed with proper knowledge.
When I felt stigmitized, I would feel angry and sometimes I got impatient when my children acted like they didn't want to trust me with their children. I moved closer to them after a fifteen year hiatis and had to command their respect and trust by seeing that I forgave them for their "oddities" and they realized we all have them. I found that if I don't stigmitize myself, then I am less likely to be stigmitized. I also find it very important to have a physician and psychiatrist who are experienced with bi-polar patients. We need proper cooperation and respect with our care. So much more is known now about the disease and proper treatment. This is a very complicated disease and treatment is ever changing and can become illusive, but concentrate on the second chance you have now that you are diagnosed. It's time to use your energy to participe in your life instead of helplessly watching it.
5 Jan 2010
Hey frankie72; I have been diagnosed for about 30 years. You know that saying; the destination is not the key but how you get there is. That is how bi-polar is, at least for me. I kept thinking, okay I'm gonna get to where I want to be now. It isn't like that. You are a work in process always. You have to take EXTRA care of yourself in every aspect of your life for the rest of your life, whether it's taking your meds. faithfully, having emotionally supportive friends or getting support like you are here. Looking back my biggest challenge was going thru the hundreds (if not thousands) of med. adjustments over the years. I always thought that I could take the meds & it they would cure me. I was naive for years searching for the perfect combination of drugs. Surround yourself with people who love & respect you in ALL ways. In other words rely on your intution when it comes to the various states you experience.
Do not hesitate to reach out to others who have been thru what your going through. By you asking this question it is the best first step to the process of acceptance.
7 Jan 2010
My dad gave me the best advice ever. He said, "You are Bipolar. You can't help that. We'll get you the doctors and the meds you need to stabilize. You are not crazy, unless you want to be. Crazy is a choice. Crazy is not taking your diagnosis serious, not taking your meds, not doing what the doctors tell you. I support you 100% with your illness, and the behavior it may cause, if you're doing your best. I won't put up with Crazy" I wrote those words down when I got home that night, and now read them every day.
30 Jan 2010
you need people to be understanding and drs that listen to what you are saying . iahd to switch drs a couple of times to find one that understod me .on here is great support , look in your area for support groups your local hospital is a great place to start looking . reading all you can about bipolar will help they now have alot more information than they use too
26 Feb 2010
frankie72 You need to remember that you start from today. the past is the past, don't live there. Work with your Dr. Don't be afraid to tell him if you feel a med is not working, but first give the med a chance. Always feel free to talk openly with your Dr. if you don't then find another Dr. You are the patient and should never feel afraid to be open with your health care professional. I am a work in progress, I had attempted suicide before I was correctly diagnosed, and then it still took sometime. I have finally quit feeling guilty about the past as there is nothing I can do to change it. I am on the right combo of meds. So don't give up if you feel things aren't progressing fast enough. with the right attitude and the right Dr you will pull through!
28 Feb 2010
Hi, I hope you are getting some good therapy and psychiatric care. And don't be discouraged if that requires a little shopping around, sometimes the finding the right professionals takes some trial and error.
If you really have Bipolar, you can probably verify it and begin to feel more comfortable after reading about it, identifying similar patterns in your own life and asking those who are close to you to share their observations. On the otherhand, Psychs aren't without their imperfections either. If the diagnosis doesn't fit, keep seeking help- I know I had to go through several years and multiple counselors and psychiatrists before I was properly diagnosed.
Having Bipolar isn't the end of the world* I have known several people, whom I love dearly with it, and they are superbly intelligent people with a lot of good humor and creativity and lots to offer others! Groups on-line or possibly one in your own community can help you connect to others with the same or similar conditions. This can help a long way in understanding and accpeting yourself. I always find that the greatest growth occurs after I make that first vital step of self-acceptance ~ and there's nothing that we can learn to manage with the help of people who love us and (maybe if you're open to it, a Higher Power)
All the best to you,
3 Mar 2010
It's not so much that you have to accept that you are "bi-polar" by title. But rather, you must acknowledge, accept, and address the specific characteristics that led to the diagnose. You must accept that your moods fluctuate and that at times, these moods become dangerous to yourself and to those around you. Understand that sometimes your sadness is irrational, your anger unjustified. Identify those times in your life where these issues have presented themselves. Prove to yourself that they exist--more importantly, admit that they do--and do so without the nomenclature, without the moniker.
Once you have done that, address the issues. Therapy, regardless of your diagnoses, will always help. They are, after all, just an objective listener. As to the medication, you're problems are severe enough that you sought professional help. Understand what it is that you are taking and exactly what it does. Ask yourself what the cost is of taking the medication. The hindrances usually pertain only to cost and time. The benefit is that it will change your life. And if it changes you for the better, acceptance will be a second thought. You would have already made your life better.
2 May 2010
First and foremost, make absolutely certain that you are bi-polar, and do not have another condition that mimics bi-polar disorder (there are several). Do your research on type 1 and type 2 bi-polar disorders and compare your symptoms - do they fit? Go to more than one psychiatrist (preferably at least one specializing in mood disorders). Bi-polar disorder is extremely hard to diagnose, particularly in the type 2 form where manic episodes are not so evident. The treatment regimen(s) indicated for bi-polar disorder can be highly detrimental if another disorder is actually the culprit. There is also the common issue of self-medication during manic and depressive episodes via alcohol/drug abuse which can further complicate the diagnostic phase. In other words, before tackling acceptance, make sure bi-polar is actually the problem.
I apologize for the roundabout answer and know that it doesn't exactly answer your question, but hopefully it's a solid starting point for you.
Feel free to contact me anytime via message if you need to talk or have questions, as I dealt with a false bi-polar diagnosis for ten years before getting to the root of the problem.
19 May 2010
alright frankie hope u ok im new to this site, but i worked with people with bipolar an its not a nice label to have but dont let people put u down or make u think yr different 1 in 4 people suffer with depression im 1, i no its hard not in yr shoes but get up in mornin an say out loud im goin to have a good day an make yr self look good not saying u dont, the lad i supported he ad learning disabilities so not the exact same but he stayed in bed an wudnt get out for a week unless toilet or drink, but now i see him an he walks the streets an meets new people an thinks positive im not a professionall prob spelt wrong but try think positive good luk, an accept who u r an people will accept u, im not perfect ad major issues was homless drunked an drugy but sorted it hope u ok
9 Aug 2010
just take a deep breath and realize, everything will be ok! they (your doctors) will find something that controls your bp disorder. the depression and the mania will soon become less and less of a problem as you learn to cope and deal with everything. your doctors will help you manage. they may send you to therapy... which i recommend! i loved going to therapy and having someone to talk to. it was great. i could go complain and cry all day to my dr. and at the end of the day, i felt better cuz it was all off my chest
9 Aug 2010
Hi, that's a good question... I guess by educating yourself (knowledge is power) and apprising yourself of possible triggers for episodes and also what to expect if an episode does indeed happen. Rapid cycling was the most shocking side effect I experienced in the one episode I have had since being diagnosed. Also by attending support groups, you can be around people who are supportive, "get it", and you can learn from their experiences. Of course, individual therapy is key to recovery.
I was only diagnosed properly with Bipolar 2 in April (after decades of it being diagnosed as depression). I am lucky that Lamictal was the drug that was initially prescribed and has been effective, after one episode and two adjustments in dose amounts. I also am in an out-patient program that has many kinds of group therapy sessions in addition to individual therapy, all of which have helped me in my recovery at a fairly rapid rate.
I am finding that my biggest obstacle is the stigma that has come with the diagnosis. I have told both of my adult sons and they now walk on eggs around me, expect out of control behavior, and never miss a chance to accuse me of being whacked out and or telling me to calm down. Since I have been in total control and free of rage and impulsive behavior since medicated appropriately, their accusations do not apply, it is as if they anticipate the worst before it ever happens. I guess it will take time and experiencing my stable behavior that will get them to relax and believe that I have finally been diagnosed correctly and my behavior addressed.
In addition to educating yourself, the ability to accept and forgive yourself is essential. Having this disease is not your fault or your choice... no one would choose to have any mental disease. Be patient with yourself and with others in your life. Trust in your behavior, from yourself and others, only will come with time, understanding, and you exhibiting your new-found stability. It is a long journey, but, we are lucky that we have been properly diagnosed and now can receive appropriate help to recover.
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