How do I help my 19 YO son who is a drug addict?
- 10 Nov 2011 by Anonymous
Hi there, my 19 year old son is definitely on drugs not sure if class A or C, we saw pot and some tablets in his pocket before. He lives away from home as he is at Uni. He failed his first year and should start in Jan 2012 for a repeat. He is very aggressive and has severe mood swings. He contantly shouts and swears something we do not do. He writes nice emails and sms to us but flips when he sees us. Last week he came home after 4 hr journey snapped at his mum and dad and started swearing and left back to his place telling us he does not feel he has a home. He is in denial and does not listen to anything we say. He said he wants to die we will bury him one day and he hates his dad despite the fact he pays for his living expenses and rent. We love our son so much despite his behaviour and we know he needs professional help but not sure how to do this and whether he wants to do this especially he is in denial. He has bad relations with his brother and his parents. We are really worried and prepared to pay for anything to cure him before it is late.
Please advise me as to what to do?
10 Nov 2011
First of all, I am so sorry to hear of your situation. But to be very honest with you an addict has to first acknowledge they have a problem first in order for them to get help. This is the first step for any addict/alcoholic. Since it seems your son still lives at home with you when he is not at university, you may want to seek the advice of having an "intervention specialist" come to your home and perform and intervention with your son. "Interventions" can be very helpful when trying to get an addict to admit they have a problem and it forces them to get into some form of treatment program in order to help them. Please keep in mind, there is no cure for addiction. In some cases, most addicts are "self-medicating" themselves from underlying psychological issues. Especially if your son has mood swings, depression, bursts of anger etc., etc. It may be a good idea to seek the professional help of a phychiatrist (sp?) as well.
They can evaluate your son and help to shed some light on any underlying issues as to why your son is "acting out". Please note, these are only suggestions. I wish you much luck with your son and your situation.
21 Nov 2011
Thanks for your replies. But how would you advise someone to seek professional help if he does not accept he has a problem?
11 Nov 2011
I couldn't have said it better than ironmaidn!! He most definetely needs help, and I agree about having him see a psychiatrist!! Addiction is a disease, and needs to be treated as such.
He may be quite depressed, so he is self medicating.
Would he see a psychiatrist that specializes in addiction? That may be your best bet.
I wish you all the luck in the world!! Your son needs and deserves help,
sweet lemon (P.S. nice answer ironmaidn!!)
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