hubby, Gary. I have been telling everyone that our insurance FINALLY approved him to go to Mayo Clinic at the urging of the University of Iowa, to see a specialist there that would be the ONLY doc in the country that would attempt to fix his basketball size hernia that his stomach is in, plus part of his small intestine. We have been overly excited as it was scheduled for May 1st for the consultation. Last evening Dr. Sarra called us, & has reviewed the latest CT scans & all his 28 abdominal surgeries that required mesh be put in. Unfortunately after an hour of talking with him, he doesn't feel Gary has enough muscle left any where to fix it. Now he the best in the country, & Gary as I said was to the University of Iowa, & Rush In Chicago. Neither would even touch him. He has so many many probems, & the last doc because our insurance changed to an HMO really messed him up bad. To take out his gall bladder, he accidently cut into the existing mesh, Gary got staph, strep ,& pseudomonus in the wound, & it took 3 years & 8 more surgeries of debriding to get the wound to heal. The new doctor was told of the mesh & that they had left a space to remove the gallbaldder had it ever come up, but didn't bother to check his records from the previous surgeon. He's a mess, & now very depressed again. I even asked what about his quality of life, & Dr. Sarra said he was just so sorry, but there is no muscle & even if they took it from the back or leg , when they do this it loses it's strength, & wouldn't work. Plus his rate of infection from all the previous surgeries figures in too. So don't know what we are going to do. He has no life because of the pain. It broke my heart to see the tears running down his cheeks when we were talking to the doc. I am going to make sure his physc knows about this for sure, but would you please keep him in your thoughts & prayers if you so believe. I know the stregth of this group first hand & have seen the miracles of our group of people. If you can find it in your heart to just include him every once in a while I would truly appreciate it. Thanks, my friends... Mary
20 Apr 2012
Hi Mary, I'm so sorry to hear that your husband is going through this. I think men have a lower tolerance to pain than women do. Get him outside in the sunshine and make sure he gets plenty of sleep. He will be in my prayers.
Have you gotten a second opinion? Maybe another doctor could do the surgery.
20 Apr 2012
Oh Mary I am so sorry about Gary! I really hate Doctors sometimes. They messed my neck surgeries up 2 times. I will pray for him & hope he gets to feeling better. It's so freakin hard when you live everyday in pain. I hope there is a Good Doctor to help him. Your Friend, Smoovechic
23 Apr 2012
hi Mary,it really broke my heart when I read what's going on with your husband.Of course I will keep Gary in my kind of prayers.So these doctors say that's there nothing they can do for gary,but keep him on meds.since you changed your insurence co.Unbeliveable;so does it sound like gary is out of options?except staying medicated?Mary get a lawyer and suit the heck out of that doc who accidently cut into the mesh.hearing these kind of things make me sick and pissed off.I'm sorry Mary,I will keep gary in my prayers.Mary,this has to be taking it's toll on you too,please p/m me if you just wanna vent or talk... peter
20 Apr 2012
Hi Mary, it is breaking my heart reading what you wrote I know how much you both were wanting this mayo appointment, but try not to loose complete hope. You have to try and stay positive for Gary's sake because if he sees you give up completely like the doctors seem too, but I am sure it was tough for Dr Sarra to say no to you also, but in some small way it saved all of you going down there for nothing also. But I know all of us here will have Gary and you in our prayers and hope that one way or another Gary will get the help he so really needs and deserves and help for yourself to find the strength to cope with what your going through, I only wish I could be there for you in person to give you a big hug of support. You have to have faith Mary that something or someone will help, with poor Gary's suffering. Best wishes and love to you both and write to vent anytime you need to Mary, I know no one can wave a magic wand like we all would if we could.
But we will all be here for you as much as we can, to help you stay strong as much as possible. love you girlfriend, Liz.
20 Apr 2012
Oh my gosh sweetheart! My prayers are with you. I truly cried reading this, its heartbreaking to hear these doctors say they cannot do anymore. Please don't give up and continue researching for clues maybe the doctor could use. I'm so sad. I wish the best for your family and hope they can come to some sort of fix for him.
20 Apr 2012
I started crying when I read this (and still am). I hate that you are going through this, and I hate that that precious man is too. I just couldn't believe it when I read this. But please know that I am a big believer in prayer and I will pray that something works out. I will pray for Gary and his physical well being and his depression too. I will aslo pray for you to have the strength to deal with all of this. You are a precious woman. And very dear to my heart. Never stop believing and never give up my friend. You never know when a miracle is right around the corner. Love, your friend always, Ruthie
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